Co- sleeping

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My DC's co- sleep with me & DP quite a lot. I've never really thought much of it until someone I know was utterly scathing about kids sleeping in bed with parents, saying it was totally unhealthy. Our house is a bit like musical beds at times - DD 5 sleeps with me a lot and DS 9 will still want to come in maybe once a week. It seems to make them feel reassured and I always took the view that it won't last forever and they will grow out of it- which DS 9 is currently doing.
Aibu to worry about it? I just have always had a laid back view on it. Another friend said she lets her DS 10 still sleep with her occasionally if he wants to but it's rare.
The other woman who was scathing was very against it from all viewpoints saying it made kids dependent and was weird and unhealthy- I never thought it was weird and know lots of people whose kids still want to sleep in the bed with them.

I co-slept with DS until he was 2 1/2, he was put into his own bed to make room for DD and I co-slept until she was 18 months. That's enough co-sleeping for me haha. I loved it until they became big and restless.

More,than often there's our DD and both cats in our bed. I see no reason to worry about it. She's 7 so I don't think it will take long before she slaps Do Not Disturb on the door to her room and will spend considerable time there sulking like all teenagers do so I am enjoying the togetherness we have now.

And btw, the other woman is an idiot.

People only cosleep for their own benefit and not for the benefit of the baby /child
....according to my SIL.
Grrrrr.

There is nothing wrong in doing things for your own benefit anyway. Why make parenting harder than it needs to be?

My DS is teething badly and on nights where it's really bad he will only sleep when held.

I've had to Co sleep. Benefits all of us, I get sleep, he gets comfort and sleep. Sorted :)

He always goes in his cot when he's not in pain. Never complains. Because he knows that when he needs me, I'm there.

As long as you are careful and take precautions to ensure they are safe what's the harm?

We have often thought about changing our rooms around. The big room for sleeping for all of us, one room as a wardrobe, one to as a playroom. It would work really well I think

My DDs slept with us when they were little but only if they were ill or teething but not on a regular basis. I don't think I could cope with the arms and legs everywhere I really need my sleep 😴

Not for me either. Neither DC have ever been brought into our bed. Ever. Lights out, door shut, see them in the morning. It was never an option to them. Even when young. Midnight snuggles may suit some, but for me, nothing beats several hours undisturbed kip in your own bed.

Yeah it's no ones business but you're own. They're your kids. My daughter co-slept with me as a baby, she went into her own bed at 7 months and settled straight away. I don't believe that it makes them dependent (but maybe I was just lucky). She hasn't slept in my bed since then apart from two nights when she was sick and tbh that was for my benefit so that I could keep an eye on her without getting up. I was on my own then so it didn't have any effect on any relationship.

@Areyoufree
'We're doing well to get three nights in a row without one of the little buggers crawling in with us. Sigh.'

That takes me back...... (DC in their 20s now)
We partly cured the youngest of his annoying habit of waking us up by joining us in the middle of the night by putting a big fluffy blanket at the foot of our bed, so he"d curl up on that instead .... although we had to remember not to tread on him if we got up for a wee.
I remember the last time we co-slept ..... at a friend's house when DS was 14..... it was rather nice....... so they do grow out of it in the end.