ask him to leave

[rosgirl]

I feel so silly complaining but I honestly don't think I can stay with him for much longer. he works full time but will not pay bills, pay for food or help at all. he won't watch the children and has to lie in everyday he isnt working even if I've been up all night ( like every night this week ). He believes its women's work at honestly will not lift a finger. Today we celebrated dd 6th birthday and he didn't get out of bed until he had to go to work, now he's walked in and when she told him its her birthday said "oh is it" then dropped it. Complained he's tired and is expecting his dinner. Aibu to ask him to f* off or am I just over tired and irrational!??

LTB, better two failed relationships than living in a shit one - he's failing you right now & you're failing your kids if you don't leave.

Oh Jesus he is a twat. Don't stick it out just because it's another failed relationship - I've got a fair few under my belt love.

Honestly he's ground you down to the point your not sure if he is an arsehole and to be honest sometimes after a failed relationship your guard isn't as high as it should be.

Don't ask - tell him to get the fuck out. Or even pack his shit up when he is out and just lock him out.

There is good, lovely kind men out there it's just some times get battered a bit too much and we miss signs that the bloke we are seeing are arse holes till it's too late.

Fuck Him off

Ditch now. Your children need to see that being responsible, helpful and supportive is key to a relationship.

Just remember, the longer he stays, the longer it's going to take for you to find someone who respects you and actually makes your life better. But take some time and focus on your DC.

Your children won't hate you. They'll love and respect you for putting yourself and them first and getting out of a horrible situation.

You'll teach them that a partnership should be equal with both the man and the woman playing their parts.

You'll teach them that a woman is deserving of respect and consideration.

You'll teach them thateven if you are scared, ending a bad relationship can be done.

Your kids won't hate you. They'll see you as strong, a role model. They'll see that just because life hands you lemons you don't have to chew the rinds with a screwed up face.
You are in control. You can make a happy life for you and your kids without this waste of oxygen.
You can do this

This bloke must be hung like an elephant because he certainly has nothing else going for him. Get rid, OP, he isn't even a partner, just a cocklodger.

You say your you can't put your kids through another break up but honestly, this relationship will be teaching them about their future relationships. You don't say if you have boys or girls, let's say you have both, it's teaching your daughters that this is what to expect from a guy and teaching your sons that this is the way to treat a woman. Basically, it's not a healthy relationship for them to see. They will be better with a happy mum that one that is unhappy and with this guy

Seriously, you have done the best thing before for your children by taking them out the reach of someone who attacks you, this man is doing the same, he is attacking you, your self esteem, making your kids feel like shite, and this is just as harmful as being beaten up in the end. Believe me!
You know the answer, all kids ever need is a strong parent who loves them more than life itself, not seeing her being ground down to nothing on a daily basis, is this what you would want for your children, if the answer is no, you know what to do. xxxxxxxx Loadsa love chick, you have the strength, you don't need this crap. x

OP? How are you?
Please take all the good advice given here.
Be strong - you are because you've done it before.
Please update.

Sorry, not harassing you, posting from abroad and 2 hours ahead

I'd kick him out in a flash. Cunt.

You can and will find someone better OP.

Ros, look at it this way, if you stay with this excuse of a man, you'll be putting your children through worse.
Be wise, and once again, vote with your feet.
You so deserve more, you can do this. 🌺

He's a cock lodger. And probably a bell end as well. Tell him to be gone- do you want your daughter thinking it's ok for a man to treat her like that? Wise up woman.

He ignores you your children & doesn't pay for anything or do anything I wouldn't walk I'd run.
What exactly do you get from this relationship?

BTW - a failed relationship is one where you are as miserable as hell. Moving on from a relationship which isn't working is a mature way to behave, and the relationship is a learning experience.

Don't fail yourself, or your children. Kick this tosser into touch.

Better to leave this relationship and move on than to fail your children.

How are you this morning Ros ?

What is the point of him exactly?

This is not a failed relationship, it is a successful extraction from a waste of space.

What is the house situation?

You already know he's a loser Op. You will be setting a good example to your DC to not put up with this kind of relationship. Good luck

He thinks it's women's work (bollocks obviously). Convenient that he then doesn't do the equivalent bollocks and stump up cash as man's work.
No consistency. Just lazy, stupid, hollow useless individual. Kick him out. You'll have less to do.

Don't ask him to leave OP, tell him to get out, and jog on.