DP lost his bank card AGAIN!!!

[Rainydayzandmondays13]

He's always losing his bloody bank card. He's had to replace it about 4 times in the last 12 months. Today apparently it was on the kitchen table and he couldn't find it. Started shouting, making a mess, then accusing me of losing it. And it had been there for 3 days?!! So I'm now in a bad mood and feel like it's ruined my Saturday. (He has finally found it)

AIBU for letting it get to me and spoil my day? No doubt the pregnancy hormones are to play, but it's one of a few things he does that makes my blood boil too

Doesn't he have a wallet? As a grown up he really should be able to look after his own stuff.

I know. I even bought him a wallet but doesn't use it!! Feel like I'm looking after a toddler and a child

Does he lose a lot of things? Is he generally disorganised?

Urgh I couldn't live with someone like him. My ex used to come home and just dump stuff on the first surface he passed on his way in. It cracked me up. Bank cards, keys, tickets, receipts, change, phone chargers. I hated seeing it lie around and would move it all to one spot and he would go and looking for his shit. Put it away yourself then asshole!

Is it a joint account? I would be really unhappy if this was my DP. Does he just dump his stuff around the place and expect you to know where everything is?

Ahhh I'm the same. But I don't blame anyone but myself.

My card is currently on the side in the kitchen I believe. My credit card I think is in the baby change bag.

My purses are somewhere with ID and staff card.

If I started blaming my partner for it then it would become a problem. He just leaves me to it.

Just - yes he loses a lot of things. Basically trashed the house looking for a game pad a few months ago. And then lost his temper cos 'he was going to be late for work and will lose his job'. When he left i calmly looked and found it in 2 minutes. Ffs.

Curbside- no it's not a joint account thank god. He tends to expect me to know where his stuff is and dumps clothes around the house and various things. Does my nut in. He's almost lost my bank card on two occasions

Rainy that combined with the temper suggests adult ADHD may be the issue. I have it and I'm the same it's frustrating

Get him a basket and then tell him to dump all his shit in there. DH leaves paperwork everywhere. I got a magazine file and it all goes in there now.

Punch a hole in one corner and hook it to a lanyard to go around his neck.

On a serious note, he is being VU at mislaying things and then shouting at you. It's hugely disrespectful.

Hole punch a corner and put a bit of string in it. . Tie it round his neck. Tight.

No. The temper suggests he's an asshole not some undiagnosed condition. He sounds awful.

My dh does this (he has adhd). Now he has basket next to front door and everything goes into that. He also uses his phone for purchases when he looses his card

No. The temper suggests he's an asshole not some undiagnosed condition.

Have you assessed the OP's DP?

I agree with JustAKitten, the lack of organisation and temper would scream ADHD to me too.

Oh I get it! I have a completely disorganised scatty husband & it drives me nuts. Always losing important things like bank cards etc. I wouldn't trust him to keep his own passport, I have to have it or it would be lost. Constantly late for everything, dont know how he still has a job! Its exhausting. If I dropped dead tomorrow I dont know how he would cope hes never even paid a bill. YANBU!

I lose mine fairly frequently. It is like a blind spot I have, trying to recall where it is and remembering to tuck it in my purse. Fully functional adult in most other ways and am never late ever.

Him shouting at you about it is the behaviour of a tit however, so on balance YANBU.

I'm always loosing things, but I don't blame anyone else.
I could have the biggest set of keys with 20 keyrings on them and I would still loose them.
I have so much going on and my brain just goes a thousand to the dozen.
I'm not disorganised though, in fact I have two children who have asd so I'm one of the most organised people around.
Just utter shit with loosing stuff.

Yes thank you! Losing

I lose mine all the time. And then I lose dh's even when I have a wallet, I find it very difficult to consistently remember to put it in there.

I've been reading a lot of stuff about adult add. I'm not going to try getting a diagnosis but learning about it has really helped me reframe a lot of the difficulties have

My ex lost or damaged (in wash) his passport multiple times, so in the end the authorities would only issue him with a yearly one. He was not from the UK so not sure if the rules are the same here but I couldn't believe someone could be so repeatedly careless. He then moaned about the fact it was inconvenient having to renew it before a year was up! He had ADD.

just He was diagnosed with hyperactivity as a child so it's possible, perhaps?

Rainy I'd say ADHD is extremely likely in that case.

It's much harder for us to remember things. I've lost my wallet four times in four months, I once had my bank card handed to me by a kind stranger because I'd dropped it on my driveway.

We don't mean to do it. Doesn't make it less annoying though