To keep the ring?

[Lovelilies]

No longer with ExP. We were engaged a couple of years ago, but I have him my ring back when we split.
We did get back together for a while last year/this year but I've decided it's over. I. His efforts to get me back, he's proposed (left my original ring in an Easter egg which I took to work). I've said no. I still have the ring.
I feel like it's my ring, it is beautiful. My friends all say they would give it back as it's 'his ring' 
Genuinely don't know if iABU to keep the ring!

Technically it's your ring, as its gifted . however why would you want to keep it, it may be beautiful but you received it from a failed relationship less than a month ago.

I agree with your friends

He gave (not gifted) it to you so it's yours. Are you going to wear it or sell it?

I'd give it back as I'd feel wrong keeping it. Legally it's yours.

I won't wear it. I don't know, it just feels like it's my ring so why should I give it back!
It's the only piece of expensive jewellery I've ever had.
He's asked (demanded) it back.

As judge Judy would say "you were given the ring in anticipation of marriage, if you don't intend on marrying him, the ring isn't yours". The only time she lets you keep the ring is if you got married and are splitting up/divorcing. Judge Judy is my personal hero

I was going to quote judge Judy too Gaelach!

If he asked for it back, I'd be a petty bitch and keep it.

It's not his ring. He gave it to you, so it's yours.

But if you're not going to wear it, I suppose it's the right thing to do to give it back... But you could make the same argument for any gifts bought during the relationship.

Can you take a few good pictures and then save up to buy your own one or have it made?

I agree that you should give it back. You just hesitate because it's so beautiful.

Me too re judge judy. Judy would say its his ring legally. (Waves at those that watch judge judy)

I think you probably already know YABU. Give back the ring. You're not entitled to it.

But you aren't going to wear it.

Why would you keep a ring just to stick it in a drawer?

Sorry OP but that sounds spiteful.

Give the ring back Gollum.

Forget the fact this was the second proposal. It was his ring, because you handed it back to him after you split the first time.

He proposes with a ring he bought, you turn him down but want to keep the ring (because it's worth a lot of money). I don't know about the legality, but that's morally wrong. Give him the ring back.

When I left my exH, I left my engagement and wedding ring in the house. I wanted them back so a) I could sell them and b) he couldn't regift them to the poor next sap!

He refused, I decided to pick my battles.

Keeping the ring would be grabby and tasteless IMO. Can't understand why you would even want it.

YABU and acting like a bitch. You've said no to marrying him and you're ending the relationship. But you want to keep the ring because it's worth a bit of money?

Seems to me like you only got back together for a piece of jewellery, funny how after you've had it, you've decided that you don't want him.

I thought the etiquette regarding engagement rings was, that if the man breaks the engagement, the woman keeps the ring. If the woman breaks it off, she returns it.
I don't know where I got this from but it seems reasonable to me.

It would be spiteful and tasteless to keep the ring especially as you broke up with him. Do the right thing and just give it back to him otherwise you will look really grabby.

Whatever it cost new, 2nd hand it's worth peanuts. Are you going to marry someone else eventually but always keep your 1st engagement ring in a drawer?

Give the ring back.
It's tacky to keep the ring if you split before you get married.

It's my preciousssssss.

Give it back. Save and spend some of the money you would have spent on wedding stuff on a set of expensive jewellery that you love and wear every day.

I have given it back.
I guess it was the right thing to do, he told me he's going to get married when he goes to India later this month!
Oh well, like most of you say, I wouldn't wear it so why keep it.
The whole situation is sad.
Thanks for the input.

I think if you'd had accepted the 2nd proposal and were wearing the ring then I'd say keep it as that's what I did, although ex didn't want it back. A few years later I had it made into another type of jewellery and wear it everyday (my husband doesn't mind).
However the fact that you turned down the proposal changes things I think. You don't get to say no to the marriage proposal and yes to the ring.
The fact that you have worn it previously is a red herring as you gave it back in the middle so that is irrelevant. You might regret having given it back but that is what you did.
Another way to look at it might be to imagine yourself 5 years from now and think whether making a stand to keep it will leave you feeling slightly abashed and regretful or whether you'll look back and think it was the right thing to do.

Whoops. Well done OP