To keep the ring?

[Lovelilies]

No longer with ExP. We were engaged a couple of years ago, but I have him my ring back when we split.
We did get back together for a while last year/this year but I've decided it's over. I. His efforts to get me back, he's proposed (left my original ring in an Easter egg which I took to work). I've said no. I still have the ring.
I feel like it's my ring, it is beautiful. My friends all say they would give it back as it's 'his ring' 
Genuinely don't know if iABU to keep the ring!

I'd have kept it, U.K. Law says it's yours.

PeanutButterBunny I imagine they still live together, so it wouldn't be that difficult

If you didn't accept his second proposal you should have given it back straight away.

Funny how quickly you managed to completely turn around and actually hand it over though

I had similar a few years ago. Very beautiful ring, ex DP asked for it back when I broke up with him. It was the right thing to do - although it was lovely, sigh

When you meet someone else and fall in love, you really won't want your old ring anymore and you'll wonder why you even cared
Is your ex is already engaged to someone else and getting married in India? That was fast!

I would understand you being more inclined to keep it if the relationship had parted on okay terms and it was more for sentimental value. But when I read that you said no to his proposal you should have given him the ring back then. I don't understand how you said no, but kept the ring anyway?!

The UK law says you can keep an engagement ring following an engagement, although seems you were never engaged second time round so returning it seems fair.

I really don't understand why people argue over engagement rings.
As was said upthread they are worthless secondhand.
The man sounds like a tosser.
Who in their right mind d would accept an engagement ring intended for someone else?
I'm not talking about rings where the owner died happily married.
My dps ex w kept her rings as they were very expensive and even though she remarried the man she was shagging whilst married to my dp, still wears them.
I think it speaks volumes about someone.
I certainly my wouldn't be happy if my DC's ended up with someone like that.

No idea why people were quoting Judge Judy, the OP didn't say anything about being in the States

Why don't you just be the bigger person and give it back?

I have been thinking about it for a while and my RL friends all thought I should give it back as it was 'his' 🤔
I posted this morning while drinking tea, waiting to wake DD2 up to take her to his house as I'm at work now (started at 7.15). I handed it back at hand over.
He was still proposing this morning, at the same time as saying he's going to marry a girl in India. I think he's trying to get a reaction.

It's all a mess really, I've posted many times about him over the years and it's taken me this long to actually leave him (and not go back!)
There has been DV in the past but he thinks because he's no longer drinking (apparently) and not shouting and swearing at me, we should all be a happy family again and I'm ruining the kids lives because all they want is Mum and dad back together.
Anyway, I've given it back now so that's that.

haveacupoftea I actually spat some of my cup of tea out at that 😂😂

unless it's a family heirloom then it's fecking rude to ask for it back imo

NO WAY would I give mine back. EVER.

I thought the etiquette regarding engagement rings was, that if the man breaks the engagement, the woman keeps the ring. If the woman breaks it off, she returns it.

me too Andylion

What do you mean he's off to marry a girl in India? Does the lucky girl know he's headed her way? Or is he planning to propose randomly on the streets - with "your" ring?

Why are you even engaging at all with a man who has been violent towards you in the past and why on earth would you want anything he gave you?

But why would anyone want to keep it? Who would wear it as a reminder of a failed relationship? who would get it out the Jewellery box and cry over the failed relationship once a year for fun?

To me that part of your life is over, why keep reminders, it might be beautiful but it's from a broken relationship. Especially when there has been DV in the past I'd want nothing that reminded me of that

So I think you done the best thing giving it back OP, I would of too

haveacupoftea 😂😂😂

Good manners dictate that if you end it, you offer to return it. A gentleman would refuse but if he is really hurt, or poor, he is within his rights to take it back.

Glad you returned it as I read it I don't think you'd win if there was a legal battle.

Looking at the timeline:-

Relationship 1 ended and she willingly returned the ring which then became his.

Relationship 2 started and he offered a marriage proposed by putting the ring in an Easter egg, she rejected his proposal. As the ring was part of a proposal there are conditions attached so the ring would not have become hers without acceptance of the conditions i.e. accepting his proposal.

I think as you declined the proposal you were right to give it back. However I can see this is a bigger issue around your whole relationship, so I so understand why you felt the way you did.

I think you did the right thing. It was an engagement ring and you weren't going to marry him. I'm another who thinks judge Judy always gets it right.