To think DM is being deliberately selfish

[MalteserThief]

Cut long story short, I'm having to stay with DM for a few months whilst I sort some financial stuff out, and prepare my new house.

I'm working, studying for a full time MA and try to see as many friends as I can squeeze in. I'm bloody exhausted, I'm managing 4/5
Hours sleep night max. However, every time I get some sleep, 'DM' bloody tries her hardest to wake me like I'm a lazy teenager (I'm 28)

Just this afternoon I was napping and she was banging around the house, hoovering, and then even sent the dog in to wake me up saying "go and see if you can wake MaltesterThief"

She is retired, so often around. I've asked her to be quiet and she gets defensive but sometime it's like she's deliberately ruining any precious sleep I have. If she's up at 5, I'm up at 5. I'm going to go mad. AIBU to think she should try to keep quiet when I'm asleep even if it's her own house?

But that girl was 17! This girl is 28...

Sounds like the OP pays a token rent ("I pay rent/bills, fair enough not loads but I pay what I'm asked to"), Justanotheryellowbelly.

Assuming you don't work evenings, go to bed earlier so you sleep when the house is quiet!

what needs preparing in the new house?

I can understand why she's being passive aggressive - she doesn't want to share her space for a few months or however long it takes to get your house ready.....

perhaps you'd be better off renting a caravan?

My mother's one of these. Harsh words were spoken when she kept waking me in my teens, clattering about in the kitchen. I am convinced to this day it was deliberate because she wanted company.

Afternoon naps are not taken during anti-social hours (11pm -7am)

They are if someone is working antisocial hours whilst studying - mine all had jobs involving shifts/bar work etc whilst studying.

However the key point some PPs are missing is the OP is paying rent and bills - she is not just a guest. If she had posted 'my landlady wakes me up early morning, sends her dog into my bedroom etc' I think the responses would be very different.

OP/DM need to work out a more adult-landlady type day to day relationship or this will end up with them falling out long term.

YANBU op. You pay rent, contribute to bills and buy your own food. It's your home too.

She is deliberately making noise and sending the dog in to disturb you and that's not on, and yes it is selfish. Not everyone lives to the same schedule. If she wants to get up at 5am, fine. But for most people that's an unreasonable time to get up.

Try and talk to her, see what she says. Failing that maybe invest in some good ear plugs and a lock for your bedroom door?