A few months ago my husband said he might have to go to London with work for a conference. I asked him would it be possible for me to tag along at my own expense (not to the conference) and I'd be happy to do my own thing. I travel with work too so I'm used to doing things on my own. This evening I helped him look for hotels in London as I know the area well and again I suggested I look at asking my mum to take the children for a night and he said he'd already arranged for his friend to come down and stay in the hotel. I am upset with him as its no problem with me accompanying him on work trips but usually I'm working myself so I cannot go but as I'm on maternity leave he knew I would be available to go and he chose to ask his friend to meet him instead. He doesn't see this as a problem but he knew I really wanted to go and he then went and asked his friend instead leaving me at home. When I pulled him up on it he said I'd want to do stuff in the evening and he has to work so I asked him what was he planning on doing with his friend there and he said ok we'll prob go for a few beers but I don't see him much. I just feel if he'd of been honest with me from the start id be ok about it. I just feel second best. I put him and my children first all the time but I always feel he puts his friends ahead of me.