To not share private medical information

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I had surgery on Tuesday. It required a GA and strong painkillers/antibiotics. Unfortunately DS cane down with shingles on Monday. This meant we had to involve my MIL so there was someone to look after him. Ever since then she's been desperate to know what I had done. I don't want to tell her as I know from past experience she will tell everyone she knows (including friends of hers who have grandchildren at the same school as mine). She asked me outright 3 times what I had done (in front of my son)! I said I would rather not say and then she starts gesturing towards various parts of her body saying was it here or here. I was obviously extremely uncomfortable and still she went on. Why are some people so bloody intrusive! I actually had a work colleague ask me outright too as I had to arrange cover for being off.

I wouldn't dream of asking such a personal question. What's wrong with some people!

Tell her you've had a Secondary Rhinectomy.

It was to extract her nose out of your body

'I've decided not to share this with anyone other than my medical team. I'm sure you understand'.

I am due to come into some money and MIL is beyond desperate to know the exact sum so I've just told her straight that we won't be sharing this info with anyone so no point in asking.

I bet she will anyway.

Why do people feel the need to know everything, I had a go at my husband yesterday for telling my fil all about my mastitis and how my baby bit my nipple and that's why I got it ffs!
It's your business and totally up to you who you choose to tell.
People should respect that.

Thanks for all the replies. I took some tramadol which knocked me out!

I have been thinking some more about why this bothers me so much and there is some history there. Our second second IVF attempt was initially successful but ended in an early miscarriage. DH was away and travelling back that day and I didn't want to tell him until he got home, but I had to tell someone so I called my MIL. She was very sympathetic and I felt I could trust her. A few weeks later after a family meal (about 30 of us, cousins etc) DH'a aunty (so MIL's sister) brought it up as we were leaving the restaurant, saying she was sorry to hear about the miscarriage etc, which in itself is fine. Except that I wasn't aware she knew and it caught me by complete surprise. At that moment I realised that everyone there knew and it really upset me. I felt really betrayed. Various things have happened since then, but I suppose I just closed down with her after that. You could argue that it was DH's news too, but it was MY body.

Anyway, I can see I'm not alone with this. Lots of DM's, MIL's and SF's up to the same tricks!