DS is 3.7, chatty, intelligent. big and blustery but just over 3 1/2
We live in a Victorian Terrace with a shared back yard and private gardens beyond. It can be difficult as you can feel that we're all in each other's pockets at times but it has it's benefits and you learn to take the rough with the smooth.
Today we're out playing, loads of DS's toys in our segment of the yard and we're sharing them with next door's twins (2.5)
DS spots a ball that used to be his but we passed it on to the twins. He has a meltdown for it and will not listen to reason. He asks me, the twins and next door's mum for it back. Calms down a bit about it.
Other neighbour, who paints herself as painfully right on comes out to plant. DS approaches to tell his troubles. I detect she is prickly so I try hard to get him ollut of the waqy when she turns to hin abd says (loud and sternly) 'My vegetabke garden is my peace and quiet. I don't want to have to spend all summer in doors' and 'Whenever you appear there is always chaos'
WTFF...How f*ing dare she. I appreciate DS is a big handful but that is offside, especially directed at a child when it was obvious his mother was trying to take him from the situation. Does she forget what a handful her ADHD son was when he used to come round?
I brought him in saying I appreciate her point of view but HE IS ONLY 3.
I feel lousy, judged as a bad parent and viewed as a poor neighbour. I am none of these. Am I being unreasonable and what do you suggest I do?