To be pissed of at DH for this?

[BasinHaircut]

We are TTC. Today I got a positive ovulation test so likelyhood is that I will ovulate tomorrow, so we should ideally have sex tonight. We said we would do it every other day during fertile period this month and have done so far, last time we did was Sunday night.

Got in bed and he says 'do you mind if we don't, I'm really tired'. I said that we would be missing our last chance during fertile
window if we didn't and he said 'oh well can't be helped'.

I'm so annoyed. Usually he moans that I don't want sex enough and made a comment the other day about how I only want sex because I want to get pregnant. I'm not sure what the problem is even if that was true!

I know it's not the end of the world if I don't get pregnant this month but TTC isn't exactly romantic and I know he isn't enjoying it as much as he would ideally so you would have bought he would want to try and get it over with this month if possible!

Basin - this is MN - you don't actually expect ppl to read the full post before jumping to silly conclusions, do you?
THATS why they think you were forcing him

And also because I'm a silly desperate little woman poncho whose poor husband (who I see only as a means to an end) is run completely ragged by my overwhelming selfish desire to bear children

Yes you both decided to ttc but that doesn't mean someone can't be tired and not what sex

People aren't machines and sometimes it's difficult to want sex with someone saying " we must not miss our ovulation window" it's hardly a bloody turn on.

When we were ttc if dh had ever said to me " oh Pink we can't miss your ovulation window" he would of got a look, If i was too tired to shag One night guess what it didn't happen.

It's only not romantic because you both seem on a mission to wreck sex. You've made it into a chore. If in 6-12 months down the line you aren't pregnant, then maybe start timetabling more, but for now, just ditch the contraceptives and have some fun. You know roughly when your most fertile period will be, so by all means put more effort in then, but don't take the fun out of it.

There isn't sex and ttc, there is just protected and unprotected sex.

There's some really harsh people on here! @BasinHaircut I can see why you are miffed, you still have a chance though xxx

Ah, you have my sympathies Basin. I get that it's a joint decision, but then can feel like you're doing all the boring work of poas, tracking ovulation etc. Don't worry too much about this month - try again tonight or tomorrow if possible, and as you yourself are trying to do just keep OPK info to yourself! Good luck for a BFP soon!

Thanks bisquick, we actually had sex this morning so all is not lost. But we've decided not to have any more contrived sex this month and I've promised to lay off the piss sticks next month

I haven't read the whole thread but please OP, don't do this. TTC should still be a loving and enjoyable process. When TTC my DC2, I did the ovulation tests and turned into a babyzilla! It put massive strain on our relationship, me demanding sex. I remember screaming at DH because he had to go away with work over the 'right time' (wasn't his fault), it got so bad he couldn't even get an erection because all pleasure had been taken away. It was a horrid time. What made it even worse, was when I finally conceived, I miscarried. I then made a promise to myself I'd never put so much pressure on us ever again.
The following time we TTC was a much more positive experience, thus now cuddling my 12 week old!!
Good luck OP. X