..... To not be comfortable with this

[HoHoHoHo]

My friend thinks its funny to call my dp's children my step-children. I don't like it as they already have a mother and I don't try to parent them. I'm not married to their dad and even if I was I don't think I'd like it. I just don't like the term and think it implies that the biological mother isn't the main maternal figure in their life.

She's recently stepped this up a notch and written it on social media as a comment on a picture my oh put up. I am pretty sure he's friends with his ex on there so she could see this and feel uncomfortable. I got my boyfriend to delete it when I saw it but he doesn't think its a big deal but I feel like I should have a word with her. He thinks I should just leave it and I'm over-thinking it.

Would I be unreasonable to tell her in no uncertain terms to stop this or am I over-thinking this as dp says?

"And then one added stinky in front of it." Lovely . (spirited girls, we need more of them.. XX)

I've been with dh for 20 years. Once we married I became stepmum to his adult children. One in particular refers to me as Mammy on occasion. Often when introducing me to someone they refer to me as their mother, or their parents if dh is present.. This is their own choice. They are estranged from their biological mother for over 25 years. Their children are considered my grandchildren. The word step is rarely used.

Every situation should be what suits those concerned.
However, once married, you are a stepmum, no getting away from that.

However, once married, you are a stepmum, no getting away from that.

If your husband's children don't consider you a "stepmum" then there is every getting away from it. Surely they define the relationship - not the woman their father married?

I agree pallisers.