To ask how you get newborns to sleep??

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Thats it really. Took our 2 day old home from hospital yesterday. She will not breastfeed so onto SMA pro formula (stayed with Sma as she had that in hospital) she cried and stayed away allllll night til 6am when i finally got her to sleep in her moses basket with ewan the dream sheep now i don't want a total repeat of this. ANY help or advice would be gratefully received, midwife is coming this morning to help us too! But mainly to look at breastfeeding which i already know is highly doubtful as they gave up in hospital.

It will pass. Be more active in the day and quieter at night. I've slept with all 3 of mine until they were at least 6 weeks (1st til 7 months!!) Crook of arm next to me in bed. DH in another bed, Ready to fetch and carry or take over when I'm too tired if the baby isn't sleeping well. don't have any expectations as it is very early days. My first still doesn't sleep through (6yr) my second slept through at 8 weeks and my third (6 month) was up 10 times last night. Step by step, day by day. Get support from your family and friends, retreat into your bubble and heal. You have nothing more to do right now than be with your baby. Your dh is going to have to work out how to cope if he is struggling after 2 days. You are still probably in the early adrenaline, shock of change phase where you are trying to get back to normality. That has gone, let it go and readjust. You are doing great. Congratulations x

Newborns do sleep, maybe just not when you want them too. You can't change them so you'll have to change your expectations. X

It actually makes me quite angry to read that your DH 'isn't doing well' with lack of sleep.

Same here. It's really not about him at the moment. You have a few days old newborn! He just needs to suck it up and get the hell on with it and quit moaning. He has it easiest here out of the three of you! I assume he has a week or two of paternity leave too?

Anyway, that aside!

The first few days are a total blurry haze of feeding. It will settle, honestly.

The little Sleepyhead is so worth the money, I really recommend it. You can sell it on after and recoup a lot of the money. The big one will be no use at this stage, a newborn would be lost in it. DS is still in his little one now at 5 months.

I breastfeed to sleep but my husband cuddles or uses a sling to the same end.

Swaddling and a sleepyhead for us... oh and Coldplay... 3 songs and she's out for the count!!!!

We also co-slept with sleepyhead but have a big bed. Even on a bad night it didn't feel too bad as we didn't 'totally' wake up to feed

my ds ended up with silent reflux and very bad colic when newborn,i use the munckin latch bottles,you can but in mothercare but cheaper from amazon,also was breast feeding but wasn't producing enough milk due to a op i had years ago.I put ds on cow and gate comfort he's like a different baby sleeps all night.Wish i'd done it from birth rather thab struggle for 6 weeks.
Congrats op on your new baby x

Bless you, your baby is on her own schedule and you just get swept along for the first while I'm afraid. Remember when she was inside and was more awake and active when you were resting/asleep? She's still in that time zone. In time you can teach her that we're awake in the day and quiet at night, but not at two days old. Just let her sleep on you/your partner whenever, and if she can be transferred somewhere, then hurrah.
If you've had a section your partner needs to help you out even more and needs to understand that his "need for sleep" is no greater than yours. You BOTH deserve sleep. Neither of you might get any, but that's teamwork.

Good luck.

In the first 6 weeks you have to go with the flow hard to get in a routine as a newborn
Will have to see how it goes

I definitely remember being told not to lift anything heavier than a kettle after my CS!