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AIBU?

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AIBU to think I'm the only person who can see a shit stain in this house?

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SleepFreeZone · 30/04/2017 20:49

Honestly I am the only person who walks into a toilet sees a shit stain down the pan and deals with it. I am also the only person who shits, flushes (with the lid down) and then checks to make sure all is well.

AIBU to think this is just normal adult behaviour? You poo and you check, no? Or are you all just taking a dump, flushing and walking, leaving it for the next visitor to see what youve left behind?

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Icecreambythesea · 30/04/2017 23:36

Sorry, pressed enter too early...

I wonder if they were worried about leaving skid marks. :)

AlessandroVasectomi · 30/04/2017 23:38

The most hands-off way to clean skidders is to pour a little bleach on them so I keep a bottle in the vicinity of the wc pan. Show the offenders how simple it is and how you don't have to scrub with a brush and they'll have no excuse for failure to clean up. Bleach is cheap too, but you'll need to teach them to be careful with it as well.

Nairsmellsbad · 30/04/2017 23:40

So much empathy from me too. How hard is it to flush then look and check if everything has gone FFS?

Insomnibrat · 01/05/2017 00:00

A stalagshite!?!
Amazing.

squishee · 01/05/2017 00:10

Yy to the Rightmove link! Disappointed.

A campsite loo I used in Australia had this notice on the door:

THE STICK WITH BRISTLES ATTACHED IS A TOILET BRUSH AND CAN BE OPERATED MANUALLY.

Beeziekn33ze · 01/05/2017 00:15

There also seem to be a lot of adults who have not worked out how to deal with the big poo that won't go away. So they go away instead.

Sunnysidegold · 01/05/2017 06:59

This has been really annoying me,lately. 20th has crohns so shits a lot. One flush is not.sufficient and he must never check to see if the loo is clean.my six year old likes to do a massive poo and not flush so has always getting called back to do.so. I feel really rubbish that no one else can.seem to see the mess apart from me. And don't get me.started on wee on the seat because my little boys don't lift it to pee. Or changing the loo roll. I'm obviously hiding it

haveacupoftea · 01/05/2017 07:05

Agree about the bleach. I have found our toilet pebbledashed when DP has had a night on the Guinness. When reminded that there is bleach in the loo for this very reason sometimes he tries to claim he did put down bleach but that didn't clean it bleach can clean every poo.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 01/05/2017 07:08

Unless it is on the seat, YABU.

Sometimes flushing alone doesn't fully clear the toilet, it happens. Why can't you just go in, use it, flush yourself and have it probably get cleared away by your flush anyway? Even if it takes a few flushes, it isn't hurting anyone for it to be left there. Cleaning the toilet after every use is a bit precious, and i say that as someone with OCD specifically about using the toilet and the associated germs.

A smudge of crap in the bowl really isn't a big deal, providing it isn't somewhere that someone else could potentially sit in it/touch it.

yummycake123 · 01/05/2017 07:29

YANBU. I always check after pooing; it's easier to clean poo stains as they happen. If you leave them, they dry so you have to scrub a bit. OH and 4yo don't care.
It also happens at work, sometimes I go to the loo and there are big poo stains in the toilet, it's disgusting so I change cubicle. I can deal with my family's shit marks but not strangers'....

RubbishMantra · 01/05/2017 08:07

A friend's bf would seemingly save all his shits up for when they came to my house. I know this because he'd block the toilet every fucking time, then just put the lid down and not mention it. Why? did he think I wouldn't notice a toilet full of poo soup?

IDoAllMyOwnStunts · 01/05/2017 08:15

PMSL at stalagshite 😂

Dunkling · 01/05/2017 08:16

I will NEVER clean up someone elses shit stain!!

Actually that's a lie, I'm a hospital cleaner, and the disgusting habits of humans will never fail to amaze me!

But at home, if it's in the boys bathroom so it's one of them, or ours so it's not mine........ I will call the culprit, and tell them to get cleaning. When the boys went through a very bad spell but far too old to not know better, I explained they could clean it themselves, or I would start to employ a cleaner for the bathroom only, and they would fund it!

When eldest DS went to uni, the culprit was uncovered...... and we now had shiny loos. Back on internship year, and we've stepped back years!!!!!!!!! So off we go again!

I really DO NOT understand someone being in the position to complain about cleaning others shit it their own homes.... step back and make others take responsibility for their own actions!

Sample1936 · 01/05/2017 08:17

Finola me too

loveulotslikejellytots · 01/05/2017 08:26

DH is brilliant at cleaning up after himself. I never appreciated just how clean he is until last week. We had 4 blokes here decorating. The 2 loos they obviously used were disgusting! The amount of wee that had missed the bowl was horrendous! And I know it's a mumsnet taboo but we have toilet brushes, cleaner in air freshner in both loos! No excuse!

PossumInAPearTree · 01/05/2017 08:31

I also arrived for the right move photos, was imagining a shit stain half way up a wall or something.

OP, you need to give them all a bollocking every single time!

DontPullThatTubeOut · 01/05/2017 10:39

Yabu, I'm sorry but can someone explain to me why I should get angry abouts shit smudges in the toilet? Whenever I do a full bathroom clean they get washed away anyway, is it really an issue if they are left there until I clean the bathroom?

isupposeitsverynice · 01/05/2017 10:48

Yanbu. I can't bring myself to use a toilet with shit already in it, I guess it's some sort of phobia. I keep bleach in everything bathroom but apparently I'm the only one who knows how it works. What age is appropriate to teach kids to bleach the loo themselves? DS is ten and I thought that was a bit young, but not really sure.

wigglybeezer · 01/05/2017 10:54

I feel your pain, i honestly think they do check after flushing, ialso have a theory that men sit further back on the seat to accommodate their dangly frontal anatomy and thus leave " attachments" at the back of the bowl, something i have never achieved.
I don't always clean it up though, if they are in the house they are dragged out of their rooms to clean it up, do that once while their friends are in and it has an effect!

AlessandroVasectomi · 01/05/2017 10:54

I think you need to drum it into your children that leaving a loo in a dirty state is not acceptable. If your significant other won't comply, then he or she is probably beyond redemption, but as they grow up, children hearing the same exhortation time and again will take it on board subconsciously. Then when they go to their friends' or boyfriends'/girlfriends' houses that voice will come back to them. If they leave your loo in a state, the fact that they know not to do so when visiting friends is an achievement. We've brought up 4 boys (now grown men) and we've discovered that things that happen at home (such as peeing on the floor) would never happen when visiting others. It can be very instructive to see your adult children as others see them.

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SleepFreeZone · 01/05/2017 10:58

Errrm what ImaJillSandwich?!!! So you think that if the flush of the toilet sans poo didn't clear the skid mark then me flushing the toilet an hour later will? That is the kind of comment someone who poos and walks makes.

There is bleach on the shelf above the toilet. You leave a skid after flushing? No problem, bit of bleach on it, job done. But no, I have to come in an hour later and deal with s crusted on shit stain, brilliant.

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Cornettoninja · 01/05/2017 11:03

It's a respect issue for me to be honest, I never got so het up about it till I had dd (she's still in nappies so entirely innocent in this!).

In the interests of full disclosure I'm pretty permently pissed off at dp's lack of interest in housework at the moment anyway, but expecting me to sort out his actual shit is a step to far.

The odd occasion is forgiveable, constant lack of thought is not.

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SleepFreeZone · 01/05/2017 11:03

Don'tPull I don't like old shit stains don't the loo as firstly ITS DISGUSTING and secondly it's the downstairs toilet that also gets used by visitors. If I claimed no responsibility for it my guests would walk in and find piss on the floor curtesy of my 4 year old, shit down the pan curtesy of the 4 year old and my DP, a sink half full of water and hand washing liquid squirted about - curtesy of the 4 year old and the hand towel on the floor - again my delightful toddler.

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SleepFreeZone · 01/05/2017 11:06

Allessandro my 4 year old absolutely gets my wrath when he leaves piss on the floor and doesn't tell me. But he is 4 and being assessed for SEN so I have to tread a careful path with him or we'll undo all the careful potty training work we've done.

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DontPullThatTubeOut · 01/05/2017 12:17

Maybe don't be so harsh on the four year old and he won't mind telling you. Just a thought.

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