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To be slightly apprehensive about DS staying overnight at grandparents

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DarylDixonsJockstrap · 28/04/2017 18:45

I know I'm BU really and I'm fully prepared for you all to tell me to shut up and enjoy myself but...

DS is 3 and has never stayed overnight at anyone's house without us before (...yes, i know! Blush).

My DH and I have been invited to a meal with 2 other couples tomorrow evening which I'm really looking forward to. DH's parents have offered to have DS for us overnight so we can both have a few drinks and a lay in on sunday (OMG!!!! So excited!).

I'm just a little nervous about it...i guess it's because it's the first time. And if he woke up we wouldn't be there. All very silly i know.

Just after some reassurance that I'm not bat shit crazy to not be counting down the minutes until we drop him off (...i am a bit).

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blueskyinmarch · 28/04/2017 18:47

Assuming your DS knows your GP’s well i would think he (and the GP’s) will have a ball! Enjoy your night out and your long lie.

ProudBadMum · 28/04/2017 18:49

He is going to have the best time ever!

Astro55 · 28/04/2017 18:49

He will have a great time - and if he does wake up needing you then GP have been there done that and will be fine!

SquatBetty · 28/04/2017 18:50

Don't worry, I completely get you, my DS who is 3.9 has never stayed overnight anywhere without us either!

But I'm booked in for a c-section in a few weeks and my sister (who he really likes) said she'll have him overnight to make things easier and I'm already worrying about it even though I know he'll probably be fine!

harderandharder2breathe · 28/04/2017 18:52

Well I never stayed overnight anywhere til friend sleepovers started aged about 7. I had no issues doing sleepovers, Brownie/school holidays etc and am a fully functioning independent adult. So it really really really really is fine that you've never done this before!! You've done what's best for you and your child and that's absolutely fine.

Of course you're nervous the first time, first time of anything is scary!

But it really will be fine.

You've mentioned no in law issues, they've managed to raise the man you chose to marry, plus possibly siblings, they know the ropes, nothing awful will happen.

You're not going to be a million miles away, if worst comes to worse, they can bring him home again

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DarylDixonsJockstrap · 28/04/2017 18:56

Haha! Thanks harder your post made me smile.

Absolutely no in-law issues...they're fab. This is purely just me being a worrier.

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DarylDixonsJockstrap · 28/04/2017 19:00

squat I'm sure they'll both be fine Grin good luck with you c section x

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SquatBetty · 28/04/2017 20:11

Thanks Daryl x

JaneEyre70 · 28/04/2017 20:14

I'm a grandmother and having my little ones here overnight is amazing - I adore waking up with them here, even when it's the crack of dawn Grin. He'll have a great time.

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DarylDixonsJockstrap · 28/04/2017 20:18

Aw jane that's great to hear. I'm zure DS's grandparents will love it. He is an earky2 riser though so i hope prepared! Grin

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DarylDixonsJockstrap · 28/04/2017 20:18

*early

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justdontevenfuckingstart · 28/04/2017 20:19

OP he will have a great time,. To make you feel slightly less bat shit crazy my DD2 went to London to see The Lion King with my mother, DD2 had a bite and her leg swelled up. I didn't sleep. Was worried senseless. DD2 was 18! So 2 completely capable adults and a gnat bite.

Freshprincess · 28/04/2017 20:22

I didn't leave mine till was 3 either. absolutely fine, still loves staying over with GPs, mostly because grandad brings bacon butties in bed in the morning (lazy teens!)

Drink lots and have a lovely lie in.

Blowingthroughthejasmineinmymi · 28/04/2017 20:37

have a great time op your very very lucky, many of us on here would love to have reliable lovely PILS to baby sit and have dc over night, its a luxury it really is Sad go and enjoy!

fruitbats · 28/04/2017 20:38

I am grand parent. My DGD has been staying over with us since she was a tiny baby. She's now 14 and still asks to sleep at ours. She has siblings who are not biologically related to us and they also sleep over. I am sure they will ring you if there are any problems. Give them a ring to reassure yourself. I am sure you will have a fab time Thanks

limon · 28/04/2017 21:05

Dd is 5 and has never stayed anywhere overnight without one of us. Perfectly normal. I'm sure I'll be very apprehensive when she does, which I doubt will be any time soon.

fourandnomore · 28/04/2017 21:09

My children haven't stated anywhere without us and the eldest is 7. We live so far from family logistically it would be a nightmare but I know they'd be fine if they did. I'm sure your ds will love it as will the gp but honestly I will be thinking are they ok? the first time too, totally normal, enjoy your night - and lie in woohoo!

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DarylDixonsJockstrap · 30/04/2017 12:25

Thanks all for your lovely, reassuring messages. Just dropped DS off and of course he was like 'yeah...see ya!!' Haha!

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nancy75 · 30/04/2017 13:30

Dd has stayed with my parents from when she was a very young baby, she's 12 now & sees their house as a second home, I think it's lovely for them to feel at home rather than like a guest with their grandparents

Batgirlspants · 30/04/2017 13:36

Ah we had our grandson from 6 weeks to stop over and have him twice a month now. He's 13 months. We love it and we have his dedicated playroom and a bedroom for him. We feel so honoured that our dil and son trust us and we want him to feel our home is a second home for him.

Have a lovely time op.

gunnergirl · 30/04/2017 15:25

I love having my grandaughter here overnight also love when she goes home lol forget how tiring a 2 yr old is but absolutely love it

Xmasbaby11 · 30/04/2017 15:28

My dd are 3 and 5 and never stayed anywhere without us (no one has offered).

I'd have no qualms in your situation. Enjoy yourself! I'd be made up if any grandparents wanted to look after my dc.

SouthPole · 30/04/2017 15:58

Tip: don't get too hammered and then spend tomorrow throwing up thereby ruining your
Lovely child free morning...

#wise
#beenthere

Catscatsandmorecats · 30/04/2017 16:04

How did it go Daryl? Did you enjoy your evening?

We left our nearly 3 year old DS with his GPs overnight for the first time last night too so we could have a night away (in a hotel in our home town Grin) for our anniversary. He had a lovely time and was more worried he couldn't find his toot toot tractor when we went to pick up than about saying hello to us.

I hope you had a great evening and a lovely lie in Smile

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DarylDixonsJockstrap · 02/05/2017 12:09

Hi all

He had a whale of a time and so did we. The lay in was amazing!!! When they dropped him off yesterday he didn't want to come in! Haha!

So i certainly won't worry next time Smile

Thanks for all your lovely supportive messages xx

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