AIBU to be annoyed at DH

[OscartheWildebeest]

My husband has been away working in Asia (we are Europe based) for 10 years now. We manage our long distance relationship quite well (even though some of my so-called male friends don't seem to get the message that I'm still in a relationship, even though DH is a long way away, and keep hitting on me ), but of course it's hard on our DS, who hasn't got used to only seeing his DF a couple of times a year.

Everything was fine, until DH announced that he'd need to stay a bit longer in his job, in order to get the promotion he wants to be able to move back (it's such a weird situation- I know.) He says that I am U for being irritated and disappointed about him not coming back soon.

So, AIBU?

You say you are Europe-based OP, but does your husband have roots or family in the Asian country? I would be very worried about a second family.

Why did you not originally move with your husband? Was it your decision not to go, why did you not want to be with him?

Think in this situation you are the second family

Even if you wouldn't or couldn't move to be with him, why weren't there frequent trips back and forward for you to see each other?

Was he earning a fortune to make all this worthwhile? If so, flights were affordable and his company should have facilitated more anyway.

Very bizarre.

Am i understanding you correctly- your 14yo DS has only seen his Dad twice a year for the last 10 years?? If that's the case they hardly know one another. That's desperately sad and not a situation i could accept to be honest. I understand that people have to earn a living but how can any job be worth that? Why on earth does he only come home twice a year?

Think in this situation you are the second family

Unfortunately, this was my first thought too.