About ds birthday cake? Warning totally trivial

[Karlafarla]

It's ds 9th birthday in a few days.

He didn't have a party but we took a few friends to Go Ape and for pizza at the weekend. We are also going to a theme park this bank holiday weekend for his birthday.

He'll be at school on his actual birthday so the evening will just be presents, a nice dinner of his choice at home, and family will be stopping by.

Now to the cake! He's been going on pretty much since his last birthday about having one of those supermarket character cakes, the ones that look really nice but don't taste that nice. Every time we go to the shops he looks at the cakes. Trouble is no one is going to eat it but him, no party bags to put it in and generally find visitors just don't want to eat them because let's face it they taste horrible.

I'm not good at baking so my idea was to either buy a nice chocolate cake or ask my mum to bake a Victoria sponge, that way we can still sing happy birthday then at least everyone can have a slice when they stop by.

I know it's trivial but I love birthdays and we have little traditions.

I'm not sure, he's already getting so many treats for his birthday, do they literally have to get every little wish met on their birthday? Isn't that a bit spoilt? As an adult you don't often get your birthday wishes down to the very last detail... I know that sounds mean but from what OP has said he's already having more than one big day out for his birthday, plus a special meal, plus presents!

I would have a word with him saying next year if you have a birthday party you can choose what cake you want but this year we will just make a nice homemade one for our visitors as the ones from the shop won't get eaten... 9 should be old enough to understand that.

Failing that, as a compromise keep an eye out for the mini ones as that could just be for him and no-one else needs to have any!

Will everyone really turn down a slice of the cake? If a 9 year old birthday boy offered me a slice of his Minion cake I'd feel like a right old birthday grinch if I turned him down. The cakes don't taste that bad!

Get him the cake. They are not that bad tasting. I'm sure everyone will manage a small slice.

Ah, buy him the cake!

I must have really cheap tastes as I love the supermarket character cakes

Unfortunatevents I should have done that, I really didn't think.

He keeps changing his mind, it was batman, then football and now he wants an emoji cake, but definitely a character one. I'll double check which one he wants before I buy it.

I think you are all right so I will get him the cake he wants.

Buy him the cake. I was the same at that aged, bewitched by how perfect the local bakery cakes looked, rather than my mum's home made efforts. I had a pink and white piece of cake art that year. Looked wonderful, tasted like shit. But I loved it.

Take him into the supermarket after school and let him choose his own cake.

Here's a an emoji "gift cake" which he could have all to himself.

Crunchyside that's kind of what I thought, he's had quite a few treats so it wouldn't really matter, but I can see everyone's point that children remember little things like that.

He usually has a party so the cake goes in party bags, but from memory people didn't eat the character cakes.

Me, dh and his brother will have some. I was eyeing up a flake gateau for him! I'll have to wait for my birthday.

I know it's trivial but I love birthdays and we have little traditions.

Yes, but it's his birthday, not yours. If you give him a homemade cake instead he'll just be disappointed.

Get him the cake.

As an aside, I took Dd and friends to goape and pizza for her 8th and I thought that it very much was a party!

If you can afford it then get him the cake.

"They're not that awful OP."

I think they are, but I rarely buy cakes as I make my own. Even DD doesn't like supermarket cakes because she is used to my/SIL's home baking.

I agree that the boy should get what he wants as it is his birthday.

YABVU. It's his birthday, he should get to choose the cake that he wants.

Oh that cake looks good crunchyside I'll see what he thinks to that.

Thank you everyone, I concede that iabu and will get the birthday boy the character cake. I'll have a slice too!

Why? You know he wants the character cake?? I do find it weird when parents won't listen to their children...when money's not the issue, why not just get the cake he likes instead of trying to change his mind?

I love those cakes!

Get him the cake then send what he doesn't eat to me

I'd get the cake but you have to weigh it up against how upset he'd be if everyone refused to eat it (disclaimer: my family are erm... interesting, and would definitely refuse to eat a shop bought cake, which would really upset my dd, but she's younger than your ds.)

They are about £10.00, let him have the cake! I agree they taste pretty vile but I'm sure everybody will 'pretend' to enjoy it, I certainly would

OP
just a little story for you:
i had a birthday party around that age or a little younger, had been begging for a particular cake and i wasn't a cake eater. DM got me said cake and one of my friends brought ugly her brother to the party. Not enough cake for all and I never got a slice. I can still remember that feeling of sorrow (1st world i know) that we never had that cake again. Completely understand that my do never got another one as I say, i didn't really eat cake and just wanted to try it (it was shop made battenburg in case anyone cares 😉).

i'm 42.

please get him the cake 😀

ugly? OLDER FFS

I just get a smaller sized shop character cake to blow out candles with and then a larger homemade cake to eat.