The war is on! Fucking fuming!

[ChrisYoungFuckingRocks]

We live in a complex where all the flats surround a park area where all the kids play after school. DTD2 (8) came in this afternoon with a bleeding cut on her neck and one shoe missing. Apparently the Y6 boys had thrown her shoe in a big black bin, one boy had thrown a stick at her (hence the cut), and hit her really hard on the chest. She was in pain. Last year this boy had kicked her in the crotch. In summer they think it's hilarious throwing acorns at the girls.

I marched over to the boy's house and spoke to his dad. He was OK and apologised, but then the mum (first time I've ever seen her), marched up to me, said her DS said my DD had been chasing the boys around, and it's my DDs own fault for chasing older boys, and that she should've have done it, and then slams the door in my face so hard the frame actually rattled.

So now it's my DDs fault that an older boy threw a stick at her and hit her, and thinks it's perfectly OK to kick younger girls??? Because she was running around in the park with this boy's sister and just having fun?

AIBU to be fuming and any ideas on retaliation would be appreciated?

Y6? So that makes the boy 10/11?

101. See how cocky his mum is when she gets a visit from the police about her pfb.

Three boys Flatter. One who threw the stick and hit her today, another one who took her shoe off and threw it in the bin, and yet another one who kicked her last year. They're like this little mini gang that targets the girls. My upstairs neighbour's son (Y5) is also part of the gang, but he's stopped now since I spoke to his mom about it.

We'd deal with this at school if reported to us.

You can't watch your 8 year old 24/7? Riiight

We had a similar incident (well incidents as it was happening over a couple of weeks) when DD was 5 and the boys (brothers) were 9 and 10. I complained to the father at his house and he was nice and apologetic so I thought that was the end of it. That evening, the mother marched up to our house with the older boy and started swearing at DH. She was really abusive and it ended with her telling us to fuck off as she marched away, son in tow.

We phoned the police after that. The community police officer came round, chatted to us and then went to the boys house and chatted to the dad. He came back to say that the boys had admitted what they did to DD and that the dad had grounded them. Never saw the horrid mum again and having the police visit them seemed to sort the problem.

Hate - no, I can't watch my DTDs 24/7. They have school, and play in the garden, and play with friends etc. One of the reasons I moved here was so that they could have a secure place to play without having to be watched all the time.

Do you watch your DC 24/7 wherever they are?

Yup apart from at school obviously. Most parents wouldn't let their 8 year olds play in a park unsupervisedwhen there have already been several incidents, and they must have been younger then, 7? I don't know anyone who'd let their 7 year old play unsupervised at a park.

It's not a park park, it's a private play area in the centre of our complex. It's not open to the public.

Are you in the U.K. Op?

If yes then report to police anyway. He may be under the age of criminal responsibility (10) but they will refer him to the social work department anyway with a family background report.

It means if there's more instances of violence the children's panel will be made aware and steps can be taken to look at his parenting.

I don't let my 8 yr old play unsupervised either. It doesn't sound very secure if the boys are forming an anti girl gang.