To make DD have the underwear she wants for her birthday?

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DD is 13 and wants this underwear that comes to £40 for 2 sets. AIBU to make her get this for her birthday? I will buy her regular M&S, etc. when she needs it, but £40 is ridiculous.

Also when I was that age it was all about Sloggi brightly coloured teen bras.not sure if you still get them but they were really comfy and cool looking.

My DD is a 28HH and has been since she was 13. I always buy her her proper underwear and bras at our local Indy bra shop where they fit you really well and are very kind and sensitive to teen girls embarrassment and self consciousness. I think teen girls have a lot to contend with and if nice and well fitting underwear makes you feel confident then yes, you should buy it. And £40 isn't a lot for two sets.

I don't think £20 for a set of underwear is expensive but that's just my opinion. I take my dds out and get them new underwear as and when they want it.
I think it's possible a hangup from when I was a teenager and was basically left for years with underwear from when I was about 10 and my mum just didn't understand that teenagers 'grew' and needed things replacing more often that adults. I was so self conscious of my children's ill fitting underwear!
I won't do that to my DC, yes I could possibly buy cheaper stuff, but I can afford it and they'll have what they want. They don't necessarily choose 'designer' stuff, they just choose what they like.

YANBU to not buy it for her just because she wants it.
Personally there is no way that my dds would be bought it even for a present, but I guess that depends on just how ridiculous you think that is.
As other posters have suggested, I have given my dc the equivalent money I would have spent on a present for the odd birthday or Christmas, and let them buy something I wouldn't waste the money on before now. Once they realise they will have to receive no other presents and get the thing they want instead, and just how much else they could buy with that, it kind of focuses the mind. If they still want it then, they can get it, but I've had dc go off things at that point.

To give a slightly different view, I went to school in the 90s and people were definitely judged on their underwear, but that was because there was a horrible cow in my class who looked for anything to pick on people for. I remember being in tears because she pulled my knickers out of my bag and kept calling me a baby because they were just plain white bog standard pants. I went home and begged my mum to let me choose my own underwear from then on.

It really affected my confidence and I remember it vividly years later. So I would treat my daughter to a couple of nice underwear sets if I could afford it. Some things can seem silly to us as adults but can mean the world when you 're 13 and everything is a huge deal and you feel you are constantly being judged by everyone. My mum would said it didn't matter what knickers I wore and now it doesn't but back then it really did.

you can get Calvin Klein pants marked down in Sports Direct, if that helps.

thank God PE days require nothing more than spiderman pants so far.

Have you looked on eBay for them? I've just looked and I think there really nice some sets on eBay for about £15 mind you the could be fake.

I think it's quite nice that the fashion now is comfy bras rather than lingerie and I may have put one on myebay watch list.

I probably would get them for my DD. Mines a bit younger but I think there nice not slutty or anything like that. But then my parents didn't bother replacing my clothes as a child.

I remember doing PE and some of the girls laughing at my Lion king pants I was about 13 at the time I probably had them since I was 6. Was really embarrassed I'm mindful of that now with my DD and regularly throw out and replenish hers. I bought her some
Trendy shorts pants just from asda andshe wears those PE days.