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Why does my wee smell like beef?

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pinkflamingo12 · 20/04/2017 18:55

I wasn't really sure whether to post on here or health, so i'm sorry if this is the wrong topic... Confused

Basically, myself and DH (of 5 years) have been going through a rough patch for the last 6 months or so. About 4 ish months ago the arguing got particularly bad and we started to call each other out about the tiniest things leading to some quite explosive rows. This led me to move out and stay with my mother for a while, which was less than enjoyable but i don't want to get into that.

i've now moved back into our house as we have decided to give our relationship another go. We've started going on date nights twice a week, which i'm definitely enjoying as it's nice to just relax with him again. However, i'm seriously struggling to trust him. When we were separated there was a period of maybe 3 or 4 weeks where we didn't talk at all. Meaning i didn't know where he was or what he was doing during that time.

I can't help but have this nagging feeling that he has cheated on me.

This feeling is made all the worse by the fact that my wee smells like beef. Last week we went on a date night to a lovely little italian in town and we got a little drunk and ended up having sex for the first time in months (we stopped doing it before as we started arguing more and more neither of us felt like it). It was lovely to reconnect but now, when i go to the toilet my wee smells distinctly of beef.

I think he has given me an STI - which he clearly caught from someone when we were separated. I can't imagine any other explanation as to why my wee would smell like this. My personal hygiene routine hasn't changed. The only thing that has changed is that i've have sex with DH.

Please tell me if i'm being silly about this. It's driving me insane.

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pinkflamingo12 · 20/04/2017 21:06

I will go to the GUM clinic tomorrow. Thank you for the advice. In the meantime, should I point out the beef smell to him and ask him to explain himself? I feel I owe it to myself because I just can't get this nagging suspicion out of my head

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NoCapes · 20/04/2017 21:11

I'm sorry for what you're going through OP but please don't go to your husband and say "DH my pee smells like beef, explain yourself" you'll sound crazy
Just get tested first

TheRealPooTroll · 20/04/2017 21:12

Does his wee smell beefy?

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pinkflamingo12 · 20/04/2017 21:22

TheRealPooTroll I hadn't even thought to smell his wee. Do you think it's worth trying to smell it before I go to the clinic? I just need answers.

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Phoebefromfriends · 20/04/2017 21:27

OP I really think you need to talk to him about getting tested,ideally you both need to go. Definitely don't try to smell his wee now that's not a sentence I ever thought I would write

mumofone1234 · 20/04/2017 21:34

I've just had a quick Google and it turns out there's loads of things it could be. Do you have a high protein diet?

HappenedForAReisling · 20/04/2017 21:36

OP have you actually asked him outright if he's had sex with someone else? Asked him straight?

I think that might be the place to start if you think he's had sex with someone else.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 20/04/2017 21:38

It's your pee that smells like beef. Maybe he will want you to explain yourself!

CrazyCatLaydee123 · 20/04/2017 21:41

My wee smells of bacon if I drink loads of ginger beer...

UnicornButtplug · 20/04/2017 21:44

I would go and get tested before I started sniffing anyone else's wee.....

LynetteScavo · 20/04/2017 21:52

Monster munch or vitamin B supplements both = beefy wee IME

kmc1111 · 20/04/2017 21:52

Beef scented urine isn't a known symptom of any STD's. It is a possible symptom of a UTI and of dehydration. It's also a common side-effect of a high protein diet (that can appear at anytime, so could be years into the diet).

If you're this concerned just go get tested and you'll have your answer. I don't know why you're even entertaining thoughts like trying to smell your DH's urine when all you have to do is make an appointment to get your answer.

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pinkflamingo12 · 20/04/2017 21:54

I will get tested tomorrow, thank you.

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ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 20/04/2017 21:59

Hopefully your worries will be unfounded. However I suspect you're always going to have doubts swirling around in your mind, even if you don't have an STI.
A really honest talk with your partner would probably be the only way to start re building some trust.

Gingerlilly · 20/04/2017 22:01

There' s really no point accusing him of anything until you are sure. Could just be a coincidence. Go to the docs and get tested. Throwing an accusation at him without proof will almost definitely finish your relationship which sounds like its back on track- he could be entirely innocent.

StandardNameHere · 20/04/2017 22:31

Not an important question but how would you smell his wee?

TheRealPooTroll · 20/04/2017 22:58

I'm thinking that she could think of n excuse to go and speak to him while he's weeing and have a good sniff or if it's especially beefy it will probably still be lingering after the flush if she's quick Grin

MissTerry2r · 20/04/2017 23:01

My breath smells of beef after giving DOH oral. Just saying. Maybe you could take another break from your DH for a while and try having a go of beef curtains instead of the beef sausage.
He didn't cheat. You were on a break. Thats what he told me.
In any case I assume 'DH' has lost it's original abbreviation meaning to DICK HEAD.

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 20/04/2017 23:10

Ah beef wee. I have it often. I drink coffee often.

I've always just thought it's probably linked to what I've been eating or drinking.

Honestly I kind of think if you don't trust him because you have unusual smelling wee then probably the relationship is dead in the water.

Fuckwitteryhasform · 20/04/2017 23:19

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HappenedForAReisling · 21/04/2017 00:06

"He didn't cheat. You were on a break. Thats what he told me. "

You know the OP MissTerry2r or just trying to wind her up?

AlmostAJillSandwich · 21/04/2017 00:14

Regardless if your wee is healthy or not, your relationship isn't.
You moved out, yet don't seem to realise how incredibly hurtful that would have been to him. Your default is he must have ran straight out sleeping with other women, when the reality is he probably didn't talk to you because you took a significant step by moving out of your marital home to get away from him which would have really hurt him.

You clearly think very little of this man, you're obsessed with the idea he's cheated on you (personally i don't think it was cheating even if he did sleep with someone else, YOU left him, and even say in your OP you came back to "give the relationship another go" certainly sounds like a full on break up). "Should i point it out and ask him to explain himself?" He isn't a child ffs. YOU have strange smelling wee, there's a ton of simple reasons why this can be, but you're determined to blame him. HE must have done something, HE must have had unprotected sex with someone else, HE must be a cheat/liar/slept around etc. You don't trust him, everything seemingly must be his fault, no wonder you're arguing all the time if you treat him with suspicion and like a naughty child and you couldn't possibly be at fault.
That you're actually taking the "smell his wee" comment seriously and trying to figure out how to do that, and saying "you just need answers", did it ever occur to you, to treat him like an adult, and just ASK him? "Did you sleep with someone else when we were separated? I'm not accusing you of anything, i'm just curious/a bit jealous thinking you might have been with someone else". Don't accuse him or be aggressive, as said he's an adult, he may well have thought his marriage was over so it wasn't cheating.
You also have to trust his answer to be the truth, but it honestly sounds to me like no matter what he says, you're going to believe he's had sex with someone else anyway.
There are far worse things than a failed marriage, it doesn't sound realistic it will ever be a happy relationship, there's certainly no trust, it's probably best for both of you to walk away now.

ExplodedCloud · 21/04/2017 00:22

When I have a UTI my wee smells of cauliflower.
But I am a vegetarian so maybe it's different Confused

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pinkflamingo12 · 29/04/2017 15:00

I just wanted to update you guys.

Unfortunately i'm currently in the process of moving out of the house I shared with H permanently. Having gone to the GP he put the beef smell of my wee down to dehydration, confirming H had not given me an STI.

After arriving home, though, I decided to bite the bullet and just ask him whether he had slept around during our time apart as at this point it was driving me insane. I can't thank you all enough for encouraging me to do this. H admitted that he had had an affair 2 years ago, lasting a few months and that the same woman had recently come back into his life before we separated and he had started seeing her again.

I realise I said I would forgive him for sleeping with someone else, but I know now I can't. Our marriage is over. I wanted to write this down here as a sort of closure, to allow myself to start to move on.

I also realise you all thought I was crazy, but I am 100% sure now that my body was encouraging me to question him by making me question the smell of my wee.

Again, thank you for your advice, here starts the next chapter of my life.

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pinkflamingo12 · 29/04/2017 15:13

@AlmostAJillSandwich I just want to point out then when I stayed at my mums for a while we decided it would be me that moved, amicably. I was the only one of us with family I could stay with, as his parents live away. We had both decided we needed space. I didn't just up and leave.

I would also like to point out that I have recently found out he had had an affair 2 years ago and was cheating with the same women when we separated.

I realise I had whipped myself into a frenzy when I wrote my OP and came across as a fool but it is not my fault that my husband is a cheat and a liar. I could sense it. I had every right to be suspicious and i'm glad I was because now I know what a scumbag he is and I can move on to the next chapter of my life.

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