To not want to leave my baby overnight just yet?

[LilacSpatula]

She's 19 weeks and we have been invited to a wedding. They're happy for her to come but it's in Manchester and we are in the Home Counties, so it's fairly far away. Am I being precious in wanting her to be with me, even though I know she won't get much out of it? My sister has offered to have her.

Am I just being a knob? DH doesn't mind and has offered to go up to the hotel room when she sleeps so that I can hang out with my friends but I'm worried I'm being precious.

I spent the night away from my 6 week old twins, I had surgery. It was fine, they were with my dh and dm. In fact it didn't upset me at all. I also spent a night away with dh when they were 12 weeks old to get a decent nights sleep, feeding a baby every 45 minutes through the night for 12 weeks made me run for my night away!

Since then I have spent every single day with them for almost 5 years. Enjoy the break I'd say!

My children were 4 when I was away from them for the first time. I wouldn't have felt comfortable doing it sooner. They were with grandparents. No way would I coped with it at 5 months. But i have friends who did leave their children by that age, so it's each to their own.

Someone I know is planning to,leave their eight month old for three nights with someone the baby hasn't even met. The mother wants to visit an old boyfriend. I am horrified.

I left my babies at early ages. They didn't know any different, saying that I arnt a mum that needs to be around my daughter's 24/7. As a mum you still need your own identity and life.

Feeling slightly guilty now.🙈
I left my last born at 6month with his nanan
After an hectic first 6month and dramatic behaviour changes of my youngest who'd been the 'baby' for 5 years we wanted to give the older 2 something as everything had been about the baby (his words)we decided to take the older 2 away for 2nights. To spend some one on one time with them. They had a ball and I felt 100% confident that my 6month old was safe with his nanan. I suppose it's a personal choice.

Yanbu about leaving but he be fine without you. Its up to you if you feel you can or can not. Ihavent left my dd yet (8 months) but friends left hers with mother overnight for a wedding around 4 months and had amazing time. Her mother didnt sleep that night from what i heard (watched baby sleep) but the baby slept through. Do not take him to the wedding univited though. Cant believe someone suggested that. Have you read mn wedding threads! Just give your apologies.

'She is also top of her class for literacy and numeracy so not being left has done her no harm either.' WTF?! Why are you linking this to academic ability?

I think you have to do what suits and 19 weeks is only little still although don't underestimate the importance of having time alone together as a couple.

YANBU. I wouldn't leave my 1 year old. He is breastfed and if he wakes in the night he will look for that for comfort. No babysitter can replicate this, and we're in no rush to deny him that comfort, which is of his choosing.

It doesn't matter what your reasons are- if you don't feel ready then you're not ready!

I took my new born to a wedding at 4wks old. I spent most of if tucked away cluster feeding, and I can't say I enjoyed myself, but I saw some of my close friends get married, and taking a newborn was far easier than attending a wedding than when she was a 2yo (who managed to slip off while we were congratulating the bride after the ceremony and played the teletubbies theme on the church organ before we could grab her)

I would take with at that age. I didn't leave mine overnight with snyone apart from Dh until they were two-ish.

I'd have left mine, but it's about what is right for you and your baby. No one can tell you what you SHOULD do, that's your choice.

If you don't want to leave her, you don't want to leave her. It matters not what anyone else's opinion may be.