To want to silence the little evil girl who called my dd1 ugly?

[Beauregard]

DD1(5) was out with her nanna and grandad today ,she recently had chickenpox so although not contagious still has some spots.
She said she was playing and a girl called her ugly.

Thanks for the warning 2shoes but i am joking of course

Children can be so hurtful

2shoes..evil is an adjective, bitch is a noun

Kids do say hurtful things. I remember this well

That was really rude of the other little girl, of course. But maybe it's an opportunity for your child to learn that you don't have to take everything to heart that some one else, esp some one you don't know or care about, says. Sometimes it's best to ignore other people's ill-informed and rude comments. Some other children are not brought up to be kind, or may have had bad things happen to them that make them forget to be kind.

I say very bad things about any person (child or adult) that wrongs my DS. You are NOT being unreasonable, just maternal

Can you also curse the child who called my beanpole and probably underweight DS1 "fat" while you are there? Thanks.

Children can be very cruel - My DD1 came out in chicken pox spots yesterday and he is covered, loads and loads on his face too - have been worrying today about when he goes back to school in case he gets picked on.

It is amazing how protective you become when you have children,it's a good job i wasn't there or her mother would have been very afaid,lol.

vvv thanks

Pelvicfloornomore
Understand how you feel children can be co cruel to each other. 2shoes aware I may upset some people but it's true they can as can adults.
The other day at pre-school my dd1 (3.11yrs) pointed at 3 children stood together and said mummy their my friends. The 3 children turned round and said in choir 'we don't like her' over and over and the mothers just stood there and laughed together. My little angel cried out eyes out and said no one likes her and what has she done wrong. What can you say
Shout of telling her to respond with 'do I look bothered' which is a teenage response my sd would use!
If the shoe was on the other foot I'd have taken dd1 aside and told her not to be rude and to say things like this hurt peoples feelings and that friends are important and everyone should be your friend.
I told my friend and she agreed the girl down the road is older than her dd and sometimes plays with her but when her older friends are about she'd rude to her. Friends dd has come home in tears on numerous occasion but then the next day they are best friends again. It appears children can be very cruel to each other one day and best friends the next. Friend and I agreed to give dd's shoulder to cry on when upset and no get involved as the next day the problem tends to resolve itself.

That is heartbreaking

I think there is a difference between a child being mean (kids are mean quite a lot I think) and adults condoning that. So the ugly comment is nasty - difficult to tell without being there though: how it was said, how old the other child was etc, although I'd have that one on the list of "words that cannot be spoken" along with stupid in my household (not come up yet as far as I am aware). But parents laughing when their children are bullying a younger child, now that is almost evil (although that word is on my personal list of words that cannot be spoken!)

That's horrible Charlotte. I would have had stern words with my child if she was involved in that, not giggled along with them

Yer really wanted to say 'well your not good enough to be friends with my dd anyway so there!' but I'm ment to be an adult. Was so so temped to say to mothers that their children were rude and out of control. Just through long enough to keep mouth shout as having a brawl in the pre-school play ground with 3 other mothers pulling each others hair and shout swear words at each other, in front of all the children - was not the best way to teach them how to be friends!!!!
But I can dream about it - as you can calling the child a stinky poo.

Why is it that when you become a mother you turn into this over protective person - I've just got to remember that the children are all only 3 and not adults in the local.

2shoes...you know i love you

me too, I always try to encourage the DSs not to be rude/cruel to other kids and do pick them up on it if they are

oh yes vvv sorry but id don't

I had a brief flash of utter homicidal feeling towards the cute, blonde, angelic 3-year old girl who ran up to my 2-year-old DS and, with no provocation, pushed him over. Grrr... but kids are sometimes horrible to one another. It's sort of a part of the growing-up-into-being-people process. Though I do think that parents should Have a Word with their own DCS if they catch them picking on other children, rather than laughing, but I suppose sometimes the laughter is embarrassment rather than proof that the parent is as evil as the child...

madamez,
wish the laughing was embarrassment but from were I was kneeling it was more like pride - look our children are best friends just like us (very clickly group) and they won't let anyone into their exclusive little club haha - NOT!
I think it was the mothers that upset me more my dd was crying her heart out for about 10 minutes and they just carried on talking about what their children got up to that morning - didn't even say a word about how upset dd was.

dd passed 11+ recently. She's been floating on air since - she's a hard worker rather than brilliant and passing was such an achievement for her. I would love to do something unspeakable to the classmate who said to her on Friday that she probably wouldn't be able to cope at grammar school because "you only got 117 for maths - I got 140." Dd's almost put back together again - more work necessary tomorrow!

trouble is that kids learn from example, those girls are obviously learning to be clicky and laugh at others

katelyle
Well done dd - I had to work hard at maths as a child. But I worked hard and wanted to prove a few people wrong and did very well - the person who called me thick because they found maths simple go into the wrong group and didn't try at all. Well as it turned out I got higher marks than her in all my exams - just goes to show that brains are not all thats needed the drive to learn is the most important thing. DD will be fine sounds like she wants to learn and wanted to do well so there 140!

Your so right children do copy their parents which is why I thought better of having it out with the mothers (can be a little bit hot under the collar when I get going). Keep this under wraps around my children. Mae a point to always be kind and caring to everyone I meet hoping children will follow in foot steps. dd1 just wants to be every bodies friend - this has really knocked her back she is a bit stand offish when we go to toddlers etc she used to just run off and mix with all the other children no problems.
I have taught my dc to teach other people as they would wish to be treated like others.
How would these mothers feel if my dd treated their children in the same manner they treated her.