Apologies in advance for the length.
DS is 5. There's a boy in his reception class who is, for lack of a better word, a thug. A bully. He's violent and always has been (same parent and baby - and then toddler - groups so known him a long time). He's always pretty much been allowed to get away with murder hurting other kids. He's rude, he snatches, he strangles, scratches, bites, takes toys or snacks and if he had a broom, you can bet it would be used for stabbing or hitting before it would ever be used for sweeping. I myself have been on the end of a very painful jab to the eye whilst being told in a growl "I don't like you today!". His rather well to do parents trot out the usual excuses of "normal childhood behaviour" "pushing boundaries" "expressing emotions" "High spirited" and all that hoohah. I must state though that he does NOT have SN. The other kids in his family are very similar and I've witnessed the parents discipline (or lack thereof.)
My DS is nothing like this. I've always stuck to the belief that he should never hit back. It wouldn't help if he did. He does however have a growing collection of scars.
At least once every few weeks DS will tell me how he was strangled that day or he will lift his shirt to show me a bleeding cut where he was pinched.
I'm starting to get slightly pee'd off with the school tbh. They're on the ball when it comes to getting me to sign forms acknowledging a small fall in PE with no injury or even tears but it's DS who has to tell me about his latest strangulation or having a wet paper towel put on a walloped face. The teachers are aware of this stuff so are we parents not to know?
If it's another child hurting ours are schools supposed to keep it quiet? I figure there shouldn't be names given but should we be told anything? Something?