AIBU to want an extension to escape snoring OH

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Night after night. It's driving me mad. He's gone down on the sofa bed. We need a five bedroomed house as this is intolerable. Plus expecting our third child. Two extra rooms needed. Nobody sleeps well apart from DS who is a dream sleeper. DD wakes frequently and I can't get sleep thanks to puffing billy next to me so I wake him. No chance of putting a baby in with DD as a pin dropping sets her radar off. I don't want to risk DS being woken up with her nighttime sing songs and cot pogoing.

Who else suffers this.
What can I do?

Please tell me you ended up,with a snazzy bedroom for guests that really you sneak into every night and whisper "Thank Christ for you, guest bedroom"

I can't persuade him to try the "old fart strips" and he isn't overweight just very tired and a heavy sleeper.

I feel awful but am so sleep deprived I'm climbing the walls. I've tried going to bed before him but he comes in and wakes me up, prattling about with the sliding wardrobe or slamming windows closed as he lies to be hermetically sealed to sleep. Aaaaarrrgh the incompatibility of it all!

He's stormed out calling me a fucking bitch....oops

OP. If you can't stretch to an extension, what about a caravan on the drive?

YADNBU

Another victim here. OH currently away and I'm sleeping like a baby. Tent, caravan, garden room.... Extension if you can, do it.

Sleep deprivation is torture!

I sent mine after many nagging to the gp, who sent him to the sleep clinic who after tests gave him a cpap.

I'm not kidding, I could kiss that machine.

He's being a selfish twat expecting you to put up with it and you can quote me.

My husband snored like an angry hog for years, he now uses the nose strips which generally stop it completely but if he has a cold or is incredibly tired I put a few drops of olbas oil near his pillow and that stops it too. Maybe try the olbas oil as we used that for ages before the nose strips x

YANBU on wanting the extension but as others have suggested, there are cheaper alternatives.

I used to end up on the sofa a lot as my snoring was too bad for DW to take.

I tried a cheap plastic mouth guard otherwise known as the mandibular extending device which worked but it hellish wearing it and it was pushing my lower teeth out of alignment.

So I now have a Somnowell custom made one. It's expensive for an appliance but because it is designed for my teeth and my mouth, it really isn't uncomfortable to wear and sleep in. And because it is made of cobalt (don't you know!), it is pretty light and easy to clean. I usually stick it in my little ultrasonic cleaner every week with a bit of washing up liquid.

I like sharing a bed with my wife and wouldn't want us to end up in separate rooms personally so I can't see why a partner wouldn't be prepared to do what it takes to make both of you have a good night's sleep.

My dh also snores like a warthog. 8 week old ds wakes every 2 hours for boob so between that and the nasal symphony going on next to me I'm getting next to no sleep. What's more annoying is that dh puts in earplugs when he comes to bed so is oblivious to ds waking and I'm doing all the hard work myself and he's not available for winding/settling duties. What's worse is that he had the cheek to have a go at me the other day when on a particularly snorey night and with me struggling with a grouchy ds I nudged him so hard he woke up. Apparently that wasn't fair.

My DH has terrible snoring, it is a million times worse when he's had a drink, doesn't have to be a big drink either! If I'm still awake when he goes to sleep I've absolutely no chance of any sleep, we've been to the dentist and had a gum shield made, we've been to the GP to investigate sleep apnea and nasal issues but no further forward, if he moves position it's temporary relief, but it never lasts long

Oh god I've got a another too. The strips help a bit but two more expensive purchases have made a difference

1. A new and very firm mattress. Seems to keep his whole body straighter

That helped, then I got him to try my fancy pillow and it improved even more. It's a hypnos latex side sleeper pillow and seems to keep his head and neck straighter I guess. Don't know but he's not nearly as loud now

Honestly, I know it is frustrating, but your poor DH can't help it.
No, but if he causes the problem surely he is responsible for minimising the effects? Like going to GP, trying different methods of prevention, and going into the spare room without bitching? Obviously not saying that you don't, but totally pisses me off as mine hasn't volunteered in the past to go in the spare room without having an argument about it.

Googling various pillows and sprays now!

We've had good success with the snore mender. £50 well spent.

The goodnight snoring ring
www.international.boots.com/good-night-snoring-ring-medium-10118874 has worked for me. My partner now just has to nudge me to remind me to wear it! £30 well spent and no hassle

Oh god I feel your pain. So much. BF snores like a trouper as do I apparently and we're sleeping separately at the moment. Love him muchly but . I've used a sleep recorder app when I've slept alone and not a peep btw.

Although at the moment there is an attack of the kidney stones also so there's snoring mixed with cries of pain. Don't know which is worse, at least with snoring alone I can just give a swift punch. Tonight I've had a couple of hours with him out of it on morphine lying on top of me sounding like a bloody train. Sympathy levels are high but there's a limit

'Easysleep pro' nose vents from Amazon. Changed my life. Husband uses them every night, along with the nose strips to keep nostrils clear. Oh..and he cut out all dairy, as it was a terrible trigger for his snoring. He hated making me suffer and has done everything he can to stop snoring. It's worked. (Apart from when a few drinks have been taken!).

@Yummiyogi how did you manage to work out dairy was a trigger?

My DH snores like a drunk warthog, it's quite impressive, he once kept someone in another room awake when staying with family. He now uses a nytol foam (from boots) that works well, also anti histamines make a big difference. I have also used boots muffles earplugs since DS was tiny, somehow I can still hear him although they do help filter out some of the noises that don't need attention (and occasionally DH wakes up...bonus.

I'm so shocked that he won't try and do something to mitigate the snoring (strips etc) but even more that you put up with him being rude to you when he's the one keeping you awake!!

I know he can't help snoring but he can help how he treats you. DH snores and early on I put a policy in place that if he does anything other than stfu/turn over/go to the spare room when I complain about the noise I lose my fucking mind at him. Every time. Every single time. Then neither of us sleeps. Zero tolerance!

Ear plugs AND separate rooms for me.

Has he ever broken his nose? My DH and one of our friends had and had a bent septum as a result which caused horrific snoring. Both have had the operation to straighten the septum and the snoring is practically no more (only now happens with a bad cold or when hideously drunk!). Might be worth looking into?
Otherwise YANBU for wanting an extension!

@BigGrannyPants..in answer to your question, we found out about dairy the old fashioned way. I did lots of reading and found out that dairy can be a trigger. My husband is the king of eating cheeses; so I asked the unthinkable; that he trialled giving up dairy and after resuscitating him, he agreed to give up all dairy for a week. He didn't cheat at all. After a few days, his snoring was much less and definitely linked to sleeping on his back. So, I got the nose strips to try. They helped a bit. Then we went to his parents for the weekend (5 days after he stopped all dairy) and he accidentally ate a mouthful of the kids tea (as you do) and of course, it was pasta with loads of cheese. So, he snored all night like the proverbial drain. Ta-daaaah! His family were furious with me for pointing all of this out. Nope, not joking! He has been amazing. Doesn't eat any dairy at all now and says he feels much better for it. He was waking himself up snoring too! The 'easysleep Pro' were the game changer though. They allow him to lie on his back and 'snuffle', rather than full on warthog!

Oh, I forgot to mention in my previous posts, my husband broke his nose 5 times (rugby), but also had two operations to try and help the snoring. They didn't work. It's the dairy that has been the worst thing. Creates mucus. Creates snoring. Or exacerbates snoring due to deviated septum etc.

I feel your pain. We not only have a spare room at home, but have booked a holiday cottage with an extra bedroom too. DD (still young!) can sleep through DH, so if we have guests, he often ends up in with her.

I can still sometimes hear DH even in another room (and we have solid, not stud walls), but only if I'm already awake.

Will he go to doc for a referral for sleep studies? He could have sleep apnoea which is very dangerous!

British Snoring & Sleep Apnoea Association

www.britishsnoring.co.uk/snoring_&_sleep_apnoea/what_is_sleep_apnoea.php

(not sure if British snoring is different to other places, haha)

Thanks @Yummiyogi I might get my DH to try it!

I dumped my last girlfriend because she snored like a fucking train

Was quite into her, then when I stayed round I realised I'd never want to spend the night with her, ever.