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Overheard in the Waitrose cafe

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zeezeek · 17/04/2017 20:37

At the table next to me, four women. As I was right next to them I couldn't help,but overhear their conversation which went along the lines of...

Mother's shouldn't work until their children are school age leave home and those that do are either career obsessed bitches or married a poor man.....

Then they went onto seemingly contradict themselves by then talking about how childless people shouldn't be allowed jobs that are home based and only parents should be able to apply for those jobs so they can also look after their children......

Which then evolved into how children should be the centre of their mother's universe and when at home with them women should concentrate fully on their children and nothing else.

WasShockHmmConfused

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 17/04/2017 22:35

Judydreamsofhorses I think we may be related! Grin

I was ever so poorly last year. Have disabilities and had to get taxis everywhere as I dont drive.

Family member: "I don't know how you can afford a taxi. You're on benefits!". Hmm

At least the Waitrose ladies had the good grace to slag them off behind their backs and not say something outrageous to their face OP! Wink

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 17/04/2017 22:40

Those type of women are probably the type of eomen who also call single unemployed mums scroungers.
This conversation would have to have been overheard in WaitRose. It wouldn't have been In the Asda

pardrej · 18/04/2017 09:27

Don't eavesdrop if you don't want to hear something you don't like Hmm

UppityHumpty · 18/04/2017 09:35

They are probably their husbands' starter lives. I see it a lot. Rich men marry a woman who loves being a sahm then in their forties/fifties leave her for a career woman who thinks for and about herself and also earns her own money.

TrollMummy · 18/04/2017 09:43

It's all very well pontificating on what today's mothers should and shouldn't do when you have a comfortable life. Most people do not have the luxury of choice to work or not work. It is a necessity for most families to have both parents at work in order to pay the bills and it's not selfishness or just so they can have foreign holidays and Sky TV. This is not the reality that women like this know and their ignorance does great damage to those of us slogging out guts out just to keep a roof over our heads.

Beadoren · 18/04/2017 09:47

Speaking of Waitrose does anybody else's DC reserve all of their running around and naughty behaviour for the Waitrose aisles and behave like a little angel in Aldi?

UppityHumpty · 18/04/2017 09:49

@Beadoren - local Aldi/Lidl are tips. Stuff piled haphazardly, broken packets. DD wouldn't dare to run around in case she fell.

mammmamia · 18/04/2017 09:58

There's actually a FB page called overheard in waitrose. It's hilarious. Not RTFT so may have already been mentioned!

Nairsmellsbad · 18/04/2017 09:58

FFS - eavesdropping on somebody else's conversation then posting it here for people to make bitchy comments? Time I took a break from reading this board I think.

Foureyesarebetterthantwo · 18/04/2017 10:08

I know someone whose MIL thinks women shouldn't go to university. I can't even remember why! Luckily her DIL ignored her and got a first.

HoldBackTheRain · 18/04/2017 10:10

sparechange through my work I had to go on the radio and 'debate' with that guy, if I remember it was on the issue of rape. It was 10 minutes of my life I'll never get back, and he was so outrageous even the presenter had to call him out!

HoldBackTheRain · 18/04/2017 10:12

PS sorry back to the OP. Why does she have an agenda just because she said she was in a Waitrose cafe? They sound like a pair of plonkers, but sadly plonkers walk among us at an alarming rate!

MummyGemx · 18/04/2017 10:27

Yeah they are right I did marry a poor man! 😂😂😂

Sounds like they are just trying to impress each other and don't have to actually work or think for themselves. Otherwise perhaps they would challenge each other's ideas, realise they had contradicted each other and perhaps realise they were talking utter nonsense!

This world takes all sorts! Least they were not sitting with you! 😬

MummyGemx · 18/04/2017 10:30

Ps I am a great lover of Aldi.....but not the tills. Don't get me started! 😂Plus I don't think talking nonsense is reserved purely for Waitrose! We can all have strange ideas!

Lim0ne · 18/04/2017 10:50

Some of the comments on this thread are just as ridiculous and judgemental as anything overheard in this Waitrose cafe.

First of all, isn't is blatantly obvious that if a woman chooses to stay at home with her children she is doing so because -

A) She can afford to
B) She thinks the benefits of this are more important than any job she had before

OTHERWISE SHE WOULDN'T BE DOING IT WOULD SHE?

It's a perfectly valid choice so get over it.

Also all this talk about how rich men are bound to "trade in" their wives for younger models is simply wrong and smacks of jealousy. The fact is, if a man is the type to have an affair, then he will, regardless of his income.

Lose the bags of chips ladies Hmm

sparechange · 18/04/2017 10:55

First of all, isn't is blatantly obvious that if a woman chooses to stay at home with her children she is doing so because
A) She can afford to
B) She thinks the benefits of this are more important than any job she had before

My mother did because she was really, really lazy. Unless you include 'sitting on her arse' under your point B

F1ipFlopFrus · 18/04/2017 10:55

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Instasista · 18/04/2017 10:56

I know loads of women who stayed at home because they didn't like working.

I like my job and my career so I continue working. I don't need to. Most of the working mothers I know could be at home if they really wanted to.

Lim0ne · 18/04/2017 11:08

Well exactly Insta. You CHOSE to work. They CHOSE to stay home.

Also, some people go to work because they find it's an easier option than being with their kids all day. Are they lazy?

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zeezeek · 18/04/2017 11:22

I couldn't help but overhear them as they were on the table next to me and in that cafe the tables are close together, so it is inevitable you're going to hear someone else's conversation.

My mother was a SAHM because it was expected of her, hated every moment and got back to work as soon as we were in boarding school.

My sister in law has to work full time, hates it and wishes she could stay at home.

As long as people's choices suit them and their families and don't interfere with other people's lives then it doesn't matter what they do.

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Instasista · 18/04/2017 11:29

I didn't say anyone was lazy. However you indicated people chose to stay at home due to the benefits to the child. We pointed out the benefits are often about the parent not the child

Whatthefoxgoingon · 18/04/2017 11:29

People are always trying to talk up their life choices by putting other's life choices. These people are just revealing the type of scum they are. Ignore.

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