To think 18 yo can order her own drink?

[BlueySnakey]

Currently away and there is a bar. No need to pay as you get a bill at the end of the day. DD(18) still makes me go up and get her a drink! WIBU to say she can get it herself?

Whether or not the OP is in a non English speaking country (nothing in her posts state that she is) an 18 YO is going to need to be able to stand on her own two feet a lot more very soon (university/job/college interviews, sorting dental appointments etc etc) so if she is struggling with ordering a drink at a bar, she either needs the practice, or help if she has a genuine condition.

I never understand why people make comments like: "My 4-year-old can order drinks so this is ridiculous, etc" Obviously lots of people can order drinks with no problem!

How is that helpful to a shy 18 year old?

OP, is your daughter anxious about all sorts of situations where she has to talk to strangers? Going to a bank teller, shoe shop, ordering food in a restaurant or take away? or is she only anxious about this particular situation?

Have you tried role playing, as in helping her to practise what she will say to people as she orders something?

How is that helpful to a shy 18 year old?
Not particularly helpful admittedly. But even less helpful is a parent whose child gets to age 18 before realising this is an issue!

How does she "make you"?

Tell her no and she'll order her own if she wants one.

Those are my thoughts too clara.

I was incredibly shy at that age but my mum would not be doing things like this for me and would tell me to do it myself. Eventually I had to and realised I could do things for myself!

I'm grateful now that she pushed me back then, however uncomfortable I was otherwise I would not have done or achieved half the things I have.

You should encourage her to go outside her comfort zone , it will do her confidence a world of good.

I suspect attention from bar staff is part of it - try her when there's a woman serving?

Bit different,but I spent my teens in a town where almost all bar men were gay, so it was a bit of a terrifying shock aged 17-18 when I moved and found myself leered at or chatted up by the vast majority of bar men or adjacent customers. I was a perfectly ordinary looking teenager, but it was quite scary! At least my 9yo who I'm trying to get to order his own drinks doesn't have that problem.