To think people can be thoughtless and rude

[Welshgirl2008]

So I went to a dinner party last night with 3 other couples do 8 people in total. DP and I rent but are priced out of housing market although we have saved and would love to buy.

The other 3 couples are all school parents and for the 3 hours we were there, all they talked about was how much their houses are worth, what renovations they are doing, decorating, the difficulties of choosing a new kitchen, how much their mortgage repayments are etc. Literally all night.

DP and I just sat there feeling inadequate and shit all night and couldn't contribute at all.

I don't begrudge anyone anything and I'm not ungracious or jealous or anything. It's just upset me.

And having thought about it more today, I now feel really pissed off. They know our situation so I feel like they could have tried to change the conversation so we could participate but it was 3 hours of houses.

Aibu to be pissed off? I feel like I don't want to socialise with them anymore.

They aren't friends that'll last the distance. They're boring on a grand scale.

Decline all future invitations and hook up with people who are more on your wavelength.

Chillyegg I take it you're a homeowner?

Note: you're = you are
Your = shows possession

Yanbu. They were being rude and insensitive.

If they lived in Surrey, I suspect the main conversation would have been about parking. My inlaws live in Surrey, and as Bridget Jones observes, parking is practically a religion there

How do they even know you're "only" renting?!

It's such a bizarre thing to talk about!

Haaa haa loonieleftie i was going to ask if op was in surrey too

Whole evening sounds like a yawn fest - best decline the next invitation

If they're close friends they should be showing more empathy and being more inclusive. If they're just acquaintances I wouldn't worry too much, it just sounds like you don't have much in common and that it's probably best to avoid similar gatherings with them in the future unless you want to be bored silly!

I cannot imagine spending 7 minutes talking about house prices let alone a whole evening - dear god how tedious and very insensitive to you OP.

I don't think you're being unreasonable to feel as you do. It's incredibly rude to talk incessantly about any one subject all evening no matter what the topic, especially when you felt unable to join in. They sound totally self-absorbed.

Most people have some comment to make on decor/furnishings. I'm not having work done to my house but I like hearing about what others have in the pipeline. Rough sketching possibilities sometimes. The money making aspect is crude but also informative because I wonder how my children will be able to buy. It is a bit boring to talk about one thing all night but I guess you could have used decor talk to chat about favourite eras or favourite designers. The house extension chat could have developed into various different topics. The money aspect to talk about brexit changes.

That sounds so dull - poor you! I still find it dull despite being a homeowner. Even if I can't contribute I would prefer interesting topics eg always love to hear about travel adventures even though we can't afford any at the mo. Your friends sound boring am insensitive, but maybe it's a one off and you have other things in common?

I'm not saying you are trolling, OP, but honestly, as a pp said, how is it possible to talk about your house, mortgage and renovations for three minutes, let alone three hours? No one apart from you gives a shiny shite about your tracker mortgage or the agony of choosing between different shades of greige. Apart from being crass, it's dull past belief.

Oh how awful, they sound so uninteresting. No help to you but I would have made my excuses and left. Life is too short to waste on such people. That said I have dodged every dinner party invite and keep socialising to pubs, gigs and parties.

They sound really really tedious!!

I totally sympathise with your situation. You aren't any "less" than them, but it must have felt very awkward last night.

I'd hang out with more interesting people next in future, and politely decline invitations from people who are not only rude (you are absolutely right, the host especially should ensure everyone can join in conversations) but desperately dull and vacuous.

You need new friends.

I agree find some new friends. I live in the SE, in a town which has had huge house price increases. We were lucky to buy before the increase.

However I have never discussed this at length with any of my friends locally. Definitely not the mortgage repayments. Guess I was bought up with the attitude of not to discuss money.

Not everyone in the SE is like this!