I was delighted to hear that one of my best friends is expecting, after a long wait. I can empathise as DD came to us late in life.
DD has lots of good quality baby dresses that were barely worn before she's grown out of them, so still look very new. I'd washed and pressed them, and they've been packed up with the intention to donate to a charity shop. They were very expensive, and I'd intended that both the chosen charity and someone who couldn't afford to buy at full price could benefit from them.
My friend had her 20 week scan last week, and she will be having a DD oof her own. She and her mother (who happens to be a good friend of my own DM) took me aside over the weekend, and have asked for all of DD's clothes.
This request has me seething, and I'm trying to work out why. My friend is rich (daughter of a self-made multi-millionaire), and has married a wealthy man. She's always been princess-y, flighty and spendthrift with other people's money but never seems to have any of her own. She lives a lifestyle I could neither afford nor want, yet is assuming she has first refusal on these clothes? She reclaimed her own gift to DD on the grounds that I'd already bought the same item - fair enough - and promised another gift in return, which never materialised. I didn't think I was bothered by this but yesterday realised that she hasn't actually given my DD any token of affection at all. There's a fine line between being generosity (I always seem to be subbing her) and being a total mug and I feel this has been well and truly crossed.The clothes are still going to go to charity and I make no apology for it.
AIBU for being irritated with my friend? Or am I just a meanie?