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To think she tricked me?

66 replies

PlainJain · 08/04/2017 18:59

So I recently got a seasonal job working on a holiday park, living onsite. A couple of weeks into starting, my manager asks me and a few other staff if we'd like to go down to the pub one evening (6 of us).

At the pub, my manager appears to get quite tipsy and keeps on buying rounds for everyone, refusing to let anyone spend their money. Everyone is enjoying their evening, laughing and joking and talking. Another member of staff is not drinking at all due to being on antibiotics.

Just before we leave, I go to the toilet, and when I come back she says 'the taxi's not coming for 20 minutes, I've got you another glass of red on the table Jane, one for the road!" I told her "Thanks, ready for bed now, struggling to keep up with you!" It was pretty late by the time we got back on site, and the manager asks who would care for a nightcap in the staff room before we headed to bed. I said thanks for the offer but no thanks, my head was spinning and I was ready to sleep.

The next day we aren't working, but all had to go to a training session at 10am. My manager informs everyone that they need to come to a meeting in the staff room at 8:30. When I get there, she announces that she is doing random breathalyzer tests on two people. She picks the lady who was out with us all and not drinking (and she KNEW this) and me! I failed the breathalyzer (by a tiny percentage) and she says 'Sorry Jane, I'm going to have to give you a warning, staff can't turn up for work with alcohol in their system. Luckily it's just training today otherwise you could have lost your job."

AIBU to think cheeky bitch, you were the one that invited me out, bought me a crap ton of wine and then tried to make me carry on the party after we got back! I feel like I've been set up somehow, because I'm the newbie, especially as the only other person she breathalyzed was someone she knew hadn't touched a drop.

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CoraPirbright · 08/04/2017 20:02

Wrong on so, so many levels.

Do your job in a careful and professional manner as pp's have said, but in the meantime, I would seriously be looking for another job and jump ship asap. Your new boss seems to be on some weird (possibly illegal, probably unenforceable) power trip.

thatcoldfeeling · 08/04/2017 20:14

Are you in a union? If not do join ASAP.

rattieofcarcassone · 08/04/2017 20:16

I've heard of similar happening, I was a seasonal worker for 3 years and this kind of crap was common. Can you get another seasonal job? It's quite early in the season so you should be able to find something, I seriously regret not leaving jobs when shit like this happened!

LilacSpatula · 08/04/2017 21:08

She sounds like a witch!

LilacSpatula · 08/04/2017 21:09

Don't ever go out with her again or tell her about any of your personal events.

Bluntness100 · 08/04/2017 21:19

This is really bad and I suspect an invasion of personal privacy and illegal.

My company breathalyses,but only on two conditions, the first is if you have an accident at work or behave in a way that is risky and causes suspicion, (and to clarify I've been there twenty years and never been breathalysed and no of no one who has, but they reserve the right) and secondly people in certain very senior positions are randomly tested, and that's because the decisions they make can have major impacts on a countries economy (literally) so ensuring they are always "clean". It's in the contracts. And you need to accept random testing before you move into one of those roles, it's made very clear in advance.

I doubt your manager could have fired you. Legally I think she couldn't do that unless something in your contract says you need to accept being tested and can't be over the limit.

It's a holiday park. It sounds like she's developed this little initiative on her own and the only person it wOuld probably get fired is her. I know we would take issue with it, and she would face disciplinary.

FrangiePangie · 09/04/2017 09:23

WTF? How did other colleagues respond to this? That will also tell you a lot about the culture of the place. Were they shocked or did they just accept it as how things are. I'd do some gentle probing of colleagues' opinions on this one.

If you do plan on staying there be thankful that you've got her number early on.

LindyHemming · 09/04/2017 09:27

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MiscellaneousAssortment · 09/04/2017 13:54

Awful, at best she's an incompetent thick idiot, at worst she deliberately tricked you / the team.

If you can complain it might be a good idea, but if you're not in that position to do that, I guess it's a choice between maintaining a remote poker face to her and not trusting her an inch, or finding another job asap and getting out from under a toxic manager.

Whichever you choose, lots of luck!

rollonthesummer · 09/04/2017 13:57

She sounds like she's trying to get rid of you-be careful.

Did the other people you were out with not raise an eyebrow when this happened?

ShoesHaveSouls · 09/04/2017 14:09

That is crazy, and somewhat disturbing. I wouldn't want to be working for someone like that tbh. Power trip?

I'd be planning to move on, and certainly not trust her an inch/keep my head down in the meantime.

oblada · 09/04/2017 14:35

Again - if this is in the UK that manager could have fired the OP no question asked, no need for a fair reason or a positive breathalyser result... Worth bearing in mind!

PlainJain · 09/04/2017 17:56

I'm not sure what the others thought, the other lady who got breathalyzed thought it was amusing and said 'I'm definitely going to pass this' and the others didn't say anything, I'm not really friendly enough to any of them to ask what they thought

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PlainJain · 09/04/2017 17:57

Yes, UK

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Butterymuffin · 09/04/2017 18:02

Look for another job. No one needs these kind of mind games from a manager. She will not turn out to be a good person to work for. Do it now before you're reliant on her for a reference.

AlternativeTentacle · 09/04/2017 18:14

Was this breathaliser calibrated?

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