A genreal thread for all of us without freinds.

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Basically a place to chat and have a laugh for all of us who have no friends and nothing to do.

babyblues14 are you me. I had anxiety from the age of 24 through to probably now actually at the age of 36 although not as bad as I used to be. Lost contact with school friends when I stopped going out and they got bored of me.

I also am self employed so rarely speak to anyone who isn't dp or ds. I find it so much harder to meet people, friendship groups are already established. I have 1 friend from college who I meet up with once every few months for dinner, but Its always me who gets in touch to sort it out and most of the time I feel why bother.

@1Potato2 we're moving there in a few weeks and I don't know anyone there at all
Feeling a bit anxious about it

This is something I have been feeling for a while. Whilst I do have the odd friend they are not close and I really feel like my friendships have dwindled over the last 10 years. When I was younger I had friends through work and also other couples. Then I had kids and made friends through them but I career changed to a job that is very full on which left no spare time outside of work and family. my children are in their teens now so the avenue of meeting people through school etc has gone. I have reduced my hours to part time recently but feel a bit lonely as I don't know anyone who is not at work. I think although I don't find it difficult to talk to people I don't have any obvious routes now to make new friends. The place I work is a bit of a clique and I can't see that leading anywhere.

Exactly the same Buddah.
My father died so I just stopped bothering with people went into myself. Couldn't even stand to go out to the shop because I had to engage with people. My dh got me out of it but he's the only one I have. We live in a nice area now but I'm only 23 and everyone nearby is in their 40/50s, so no one to engage with here and its a really quiet area in the middle of a forest.
I think my job choice was because of my anxiety. I have been offered a job in the company's office but I dread the thought of going in and having to make small talk all day. I just assume that no one would want to speak to me because clearly there must be something wrong with me as I don't have any close friends.
My anxiety still creeps up on me occasionally.

I am in East London.

Cheshire here

I am Cheshire too

Leeds here.

Chester city is nice. I went there for five days exactly two years ago.

I have no friends. They all stuck to my ex husband when we split up.

I'm on mat leave and probably not returning but still bored and lonely.

It's causing arguments with my partner as well.

It doesn't get easier, making friends. I'm in the "fake it til you make it" bit in a new village and am still on the smile and wave (but don't remember names!) I go to most village clubs but it's very hard to do. I almost wish I lived in a city again where I felt I belonged but was ignored by most...

I love chester, you need good weather so you Can walk along the canal and they have some great shopping there too

Lost friends when my marriage ended. Unreal.
I just feel so unsupported. I've gained a couple of chums but I don't want to be in a "I hate all men" friendship group either..so I muddle along, working FT, sharing contact.
Tis shit.

Another billy here! I have absolutely no friends due to moving for dh's job. I really bloody try to be friendly and go to toddler groups etc. I can just never get past the sort of polite, idle chit chat stage.

@CheesyChristie have you had to move multiple times? It's the worst! I feel like I have no control/say over my own life

I don't really have friends. Just one or two people, but it is still on a superficial level really. I want friends, but at the same time, I don't think I can be bothered maintaining friendships. It doesn't help that DD is 2.5 but still a Velcro child, breastfeeds and cosleeps and I can't stay away for any long periods of time.

I used to have lots of friends but it was exhausting, a few of them were v clingy. Now I only 3-4 close friends and the rest are acquaintances. I like it like this, I'm confident but have always liked my own company. Before I met my OH I could happily go for days without seeing or speaking to anyone. I'm not one for having to be with big groups of friends every weekend. My close girls and OH suit me just fine.

Yes we're living in the third place since we married 5 years ago user. It's just crap really. Dh works so hard and I don't want him to know how lonely I am.

It just seems so much pressure to try to get people to like me. It really knocks your confidence after a while.

Hello.

Billy real name or 'billy no mates'

I have come to the conclusion I have no real friends unless they need a babysitter or a form filled in for them. There's no one who worries what is going on in my world or that of my dcs apart from DH and yet I'm expected to pick up the pieces of the two people who I once considered friends

@CheesyChristie PM me! I'm about to move for the third time in a year and I'm losing it
I feel like we could have a lot to vent to each other about

Brighouse, but will be moving more to Halifax area soon. I have just moved jobs, and my friends consist of one v good one I've had for 29 years! The others, just work colleagues! Would love to have more friends, but work (9-5) sometimes means it's hard to get together!!

Friendless. Unless Dh and DC count.

Billy is my real name. I don't like it. Someday ill probably change my own name if I ever got away from my parents.