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To kiss my own baby in public?

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Mysterycat23 · 06/04/2017 08:03

New mum here. I have a habit of kissing LO on his head or cheeks every time I pick him up. I also kiss his head quite frequently while holding him. I do this at home and when out and about. In all honesty I'm addicted Blush However at nct meet ups I've noticed I'm the only one kissing my LO.

No one has said anything to me but would like to know if it would make anyone uncomfortable or if I'm breaking some unwritten rule?

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chocolateworshipper · 06/04/2017 21:59

You get your kisses in now and sod what anyone else thinks - he'll be a mono-syllabic teen before you know it!

ifyoulikepinacolada · 06/04/2017 22:00

I'm going to be the lone voice of dissent Blush it would make me incredibly uncomfortable - i hate the sound so much, i hate the interruption, i hate the division in the room it creates. I hate it so much that even reading your post made me shiver.

BUT that's totally my issue and not yours. I would choose not to socialise with you - you absolutely shouldn't stop kissing your baby! You love him. And it's perfectly natural.

haveacupoftea · 06/04/2017 22:03

Who are the weirdos who dont kiss their babies?! My nephew used to give me so many kisses and hugs and then he learned to walk, he is now too busy and important to kiss his auntie Grin

DeadGood · 06/04/2017 22:09

To "get the kisses in while you can", I would also add "enjoy that milk breath before it's gone"! God, EBF baby's breath is divine.

GlomOfNit · 06/04/2017 22:11

It's a reflex action. I come into contact with my (now fairly large) children, I kiss them. Grin Why wouldn't you? My 9 yo is very sweet and affectionate and usually loves it (I wouldn't kiss him if he didn't) and is still fine with a kiss goodbye at school. My 6 yo son kisses us on the lips and I WILL JUDGE anyone who thinks that is weird. Because why sexualise something he does naturally? He has ASD and has only recently started kissing us, it's magic and he lip-kisses. And so what?

sadsquid · 06/04/2017 22:17

I kiss mine often but I do notice that at toddler group no one else does it as much. If he potters over to sit on my lap then I kiss the top of his head, but I don't see other parents doing the same.

I land the odd one on my 7 year old too but she's much more particular about when I'm allowed to!

MrsELM21 · 06/04/2017 22:29

I did this all the time when mine were babies, I loved it! I can still get away with it a bit with DD who is 3 but hardly ever now with DS who is almost 6, I miss it!! Enjoy!

ohdeardaddyibrokeitagain · 06/04/2017 22:57

*Who are the weirdos who don't kiss their babies?
*
We adopted our DS a couple of years ago when he was 14 months. Last year I went on an attachment course and the facilitator reckoned between his birth parents and the foster carers (who can't get too close) he missed out on something in the region of 100,000 interactions: Kisses, cuddles, eye contact, sounds etc. Physical contact is such an important part of the bonding process.
He gets kissed all the time now, by me, his Mom and his big Sister. OP just keep being the best Mum to your LO.

MrsNuckyThompson · 06/04/2017 23:22

Same. I kiss my baby every time I pick her up and often in between times. I did the same with my DC1. Probably kiss DC1 less now that he's 4 but still a fair bit!!

Glitteryunicorn · 06/04/2017 23:32

I kiss my daughter all the time she loves it! 😊 kiss away they'll soon be too old for bit!

Kalizahara · 06/04/2017 23:34

I kiss mine every single time I pick him up. I've noticed no one else does it too. All the kissers must be hiding.

Ankleswingers · 06/04/2017 23:34

I still do it with mine and they're six and two !! Grin

MommaGee · 06/04/2017 23:37

I love kissing the 22 month old, especially the soft spot on his neck

Ohyesiam · 06/04/2017 23:38

Ooh my God. The way their head smells, you just can't not kiss them.

NotCitrus · 06/04/2017 23:39

Never really been into kissing myself, so ta to all the posters calling me a wierdo. Did lots of nuzzling and cuddling, and still do (kids age 8 and 5).

But perfectly happy for others to kiss their babies if they want.

Xmasbaby11 · 06/04/2017 23:39

I do it with my 3 year old. She's so cuddly and if she sits on my lap I pretty much kiss her constantly. Everything I pick her up I kiss her. She's very affectionate and loves it. Lots of lip kisses and 'I love you' for me.

I do notice others don't kiss and cuddle as much but I don't think anything of it.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 06/04/2017 23:40

My nephew is 4,:and I can still smell the newness on him.
Like a new car or a little kitten. Grin

AgathaMystery · 06/04/2017 23:51

Totally. My DC are 5 & OMG - when they want a kiss Haloawesome

abadoo · 07/04/2017 00:19

They are just so delicious when they're teeny. They smell amazing, are so soft. How could you do anything but! Enjoy your new baby and congratulations!

Grilledaubergines · 07/04/2017 00:57

DC we're constantly kissed as babies and young children; as many kisses as I could fit in to a day. Now teens, I still kiss them loads, put my arms around them, and tell them how much I love them as often as I can get away with and to be fair, they'll come up and do the same with me. The only thing which has changed is that since they were around 10/11 year old, we don't kiss on the lips - led by them.

I find it strange that some people are so disturbed by the idea of lip kissing their own child though.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 07/04/2017 01:12

Mini. I think there maybe a lot of truth in that.
My dd is so laid back. She makes horizontal look stressed. Its almost to the point of annoyance. Oh mum don't be worrying. It'll get done, and all that.

DustyMaiden · 07/04/2017 01:14

I used to kiss my DS on the head, at 16 he now kisses me on the head.

OkPedro · 07/04/2017 01:15

My dc aren't babies anymore 😭 I still kiss them loads BUT my nephew is 7 months old and he is a ball of squishy gorgeousness I can't help kissing his cheeks!

FruitCider · 07/04/2017 09:21

My child has gone to nursery today. As an experiment I counted how many times I kissed them. I kissed my 4 year old 11 times this morning! The last 2 they ran away, "no mummy I don't want a huggy!" Confused they grow up too fast!

NoSherryForMe · 07/04/2017 09:30

I actually asked our HV about this when DD was tiny and I noticed I was doing more kissing than the rest of our NCT group. She told me very firmly that "babies are for kissing".