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To cause a massive scene in Sainsbury's car park

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 21:10

Earlier today I went to Sainsbury's with both my DD's (7&1) I was just about about to pull in to the last mother and baby space when someone cuts me up to park there, ok annoying as fuck but whatever.
I find another non baby space which is a very tight squeeze with my car (it's quite big) not to mention the whole faf off youngest DD and her car seat palava, so we've finally got out just about and set out to go in store, this is when I notice the guy who cuts me up is on his own, not only that I recognise he's the same guy who done this to me last week!
So I flipped out!
Blush I asked him where his kids were and does he think it's acceptable to be able bodied (I know this now I've recognised him as I actually went to school with him and he lives near me) and watch someone else struggle whilst he doesn't actually need the space.
So what I got back was him shouting to me 'you don't have to have kids to park here' and 'I'll park where the fuck I want'
By this time my oldest DD was very upset with our shouting and his swearing so I started to walk away, he proceeded to shout abuse behind me and it was all just very embarrassing really!
All in all I'm glad I called him out in front of lots of tutting and clapping people Blushbut I wish I hadn't upset my DD, I just hate disrespectful people! And I went in and reported him Grin

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ChickenVindaloo2 · 05/04/2017 22:40

He might have been dreadfully upset when you asked him where his kids are, OP, if he is struggling with infertility.

ChickenVindaloo2 · 05/04/2017 22:41

Especially if "bf" = boyfriend rather than best friend. Hence - no kids. Naturally anyway.

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 22:42

Of that was the case I would apologise for that comment but then again he called me a c*unt in front of my child, so probably now

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ChickenVindaloo2 · 05/04/2017 22:42

Oh God, the prefects are here. Right, I'm off!

Night all, thanks for the bants. Grin

MammaTJ · 05/04/2017 22:42

I don't quite qualify for a disabled badge, my DC are too old for a P&C space,but, do you know what, when I go shopping, I would rather make a parent with a child walk a bit further than a disabled person.

So shoot me!

It would put me out of my misery!

The misery I feel when I struggle out of our car with my stick, that I cannot walk without, that I feel when I cannot get out of the car because the spaces are too close......

There are bigger deals than your OP, that is my point!

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 22:43

So if your infertile it means you can park in them spaces because otherwise you'd be offended?? Not really getting that

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BunnyChickChocolateEgg · 05/04/2017 22:43

You did ask people's opinion, so that is what you've had.

I would not feel good if I lost it in front of my kids and it upset them - it's not the way to solve anything, and set them a bad example (they need to learn NOT to act like this if someone pushes in at school...).

If it were me, I'd think whether I might need some sort of help with anger management - this isn't the sort of (very rare) situation where emotion should overcome you.

Sure, he was annoying, but its unlikely you achieved anything with the outburst.

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 22:44

Yeah like me having to climb across my car and drag my DD out the other side of the car due to the lack of decent spaces

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ChickenVindaloo2 · 05/04/2017 22:44

Momma - no. It means don't ask people where their kids are if they're childless/childfree. You might upset people. That's a serious point, btw.

Anyhow, definitely goodnight from me.

HappyFlappy · 05/04/2017 22:44

If it's any consolation I would have kicked off too! What a tosser - especially when he cut you up to get the space, potentially causing an accident and hurting your children.

Damn right I would have said something! Angry

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 22:44

Anger management!? GrinGrinGrin
Yeah we wasn't wrestling on the floor

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skerrywind · 05/04/2017 22:46

Yeah like me having to climb across my car and drag my DD out the other side of the car

Sounds like a scene from the Titanic.

The drama.....

SuperBeagle · 05/04/2017 22:46

Yeah like me having to climb across my car and drag my DD out the other side of the car due to the lack of decent spaces

So you shout people down who tell you to buy a smaller car, but you constantly bring up the size of your car and how incompatible it is with life outside of specialised car parks. How do you cope when you park where there are no P&C spaces?

skerrywind · 05/04/2017 22:47

OP have you thought about volunteering?

Some useful way to direct your energies. maybe a few hours in a charity shop, they are always looking for help.

BillyButtfuck · 05/04/2017 22:47

I think what chicken means, is that regardless of the situation (not just parking), it's not very polite to ask someone 'do you even have children?' or questions like that, it could potentially cause upset or embarrassment if they have lost a child or struggling TTC or categorically can't have children.

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 22:47

Nope it's because the only space available was one where someone had parked across the line, I have an amrok it's a work car I need this for my job it is the car I get I can't change that and I won't be buying another car for personal use because people can't park right

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msgrinch · 05/04/2017 22:47

Bless you op. Sarcasm is beyond you.

MerchantofVenice · 05/04/2017 22:48

OP isn't responsible for the violent way the dickhead responded. Maybe it got out of hand... but she wasn't wrong to challenge his asshole behaviour.

MN is just unbelievable at times. So... it's
'rude' to ensure you have a table in a cafe, despite about 70% of the population thinking this is the exact system you're supposed to use, but you're not rude for flouting a system that is explained in black and white on signs, ie that these spaces are intended for parents of small children?? Why are MNetters so against this tiny little perk for parents? It's weird.

And yes, some of you have been nothing short of vicious to OP. It's all very well sanctimoniously saying you'd never challenge someone in a car park... but clearly you'd gladly bully someone like a pack of hyaenas from the safety of your keyboards. Well done.

BillyButtfuck · 05/04/2017 22:48

I'd probably be more annoyed at the car parked over the line.

SpareASquare · 05/04/2017 22:48

..and not standing up to what you believe in

Yeah, when I think of standing up for what I believe in, there's always a car space in there somewhere Grin

You know, I like to park near the entrance of my local shopping centre. Sometimes, ok most times, other people have parked there. So I park somewhere else. Big fucking deal. Can people really not manage when they have children?

Personally, I LOVE the way the story grew and grew whilst the rage (and the crowd) seemed to get less and less. Even if I am still scratching my head over the angst Smile

MycatsaPirate · 05/04/2017 22:50

rapid response parking monitor is the best line on this thread :o

BishopBrennansArse · 05/04/2017 22:51

What's all this 'he's able bodied' stuff for?
Why?
Does having 2 kids make you something other than able bodied, then?
Like disabled?

Voice0fReason · 05/04/2017 22:51

I reported him to Sainsbury's who btw gave him a ticket
No they didn't! They can't, because he hasn't committed an offence.

Yes YWVU. There was absolutely no need to behave in such a ridiculous way and you were a dreadful role model for your children.
Learning to stand up for yourself and things that are important to you does not involve behaving like that.

Mammylamb · 05/04/2017 22:51

No, you don't need a parent and child space. On mumsnet all the other mums do their shopping with their 26 kids while their husband works away 10 years at a time. And you don't see them needing parking spaces. Oh no, they just walk the 15miles to the supermarket with the 26 kids in a sling

GinAndTunic · 05/04/2017 22:52

YWBVU.

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