To expect DH to look after ill son

[AngelThursday]

So basically DS (15) has not been feeling well today and has been sick etc several times.
I am a SAHM but have a regular commitment on a Thursday. A prebooked series of courses where if I miss one is hard to catch up. DH has the option with his job to work from home if he has no client meetings which he regularly chooses to do.
I have asked him if he will wfh tomorrow in order to be with DS so I can go to my course. He has no meetings but is grumbling, saying my job is to stay at home and why should he change his work plans just to please me.
DS just needs someone in the house, not hands on care as such so I don't see why DH couldn't stay home and work while I go to my course. He's his son too after all? If he's still poorly on Friday I will of course change my plans and look after him. I'm only asking for tomorrow

If he was 5 it would be a different matter, but your DS is 15! He doesn't really need either of you to be at home.

Presume it would be school hours - he's 15 - does he need someone at home ?

Even a 15 year old needs some care and attention if unwell and vomiting surely? All the 'he's 15, he doesn't need anyone' answers sound so cold 😩

ImperialBlether nailed it for me.

He may not need someone at home, but it might be nice if he's really sick. And it'd be nice if your DH wanted to to be nice-to you and ds.

The dh is being a prat. Why is he happy for the op to be inconvenienced by missing her course, but unwilling to make any changes to his own plans? Mean towards his son too.

I would not leave even a fifteen year old repeatedly throwing up. It could turn into something more serious.

Your husband works from home when he wants to on his own terms but it suddenly becomes impossible when it's really needed. Hmmmm.

Your child is both of your responsibility - i.e. his as much as yours.

Its irrelevant that you are a SAHM, it doesnt mean you are chained to the kitchen sink.

The OP's cleaner is the one chained to the kitchen sink. OP doesn't seem to do anything.

If you believe your DS needs someone at home then would you be expecting your dh to do anything for him? Make him lunch/drinks/check on him frequently? If so, it will have an impact on his ability to work from home and so he should go to work.

You want your dh to WORK from home so you can do a hobby because a 15yr old is sick??

If you where that concerned about the 15yr old you wouldn't want to be going to the hobby anyway. Work is more important than a hobby and if your Ds is so ill he needs a parent work trumps hobby everytime as no work would be able to be done from home.

A 15 year old should be fine alone. But your husband is being a tosser.