To wonder why people think they can ask pregnant people this?

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I was doing my shopping today somewhere that I used to work when I was a student (many moons ago). A lady I used to work with came up to me and said that I looked much bigger than last time she saw me (I'm 37 weeks pregnant, last time she saw me I was probably about 30 weeks pregnant). I laughed this off and tried to carry on doing what I was doing. Then she asked "was it unplanned?" It was but none of her business and finally she said "I bet your mum wasn't very happy!" I told her my mum was thrilled (she is) and then she wondered off.
I'm feeling a bit miffed as well as tired and hormonal and I just think this is such a rude thing to say? Or to assume my mum wouldn't be happy. I'm close to 30, own my own house and car, have a professional job, am engaged and live with OH who also has a professional job and owns his own car. Not that any of this makes us more or less worthy to be parents I'm just trying to say we are capable and are supporting ourselves!

I've had one person ask if DC2 was planned. I'm mid 30s, DH early 40s, I have a v responsible job with great maternity package, we have 2 houses and 3 cars, married 6 years, DC1 is 2. I asked that friend whether she was asking me if I'd deliberately had unprotected sex with my husband. She said yes so I told her yes. No one else stupid enough to ask.

How bloody rude! I fear I would have been crushingly rude to her. It's none of her fucking business and she was ridiculously rude.

When pregnant with DS I worked at a bank and one of the customers was chatting to me about the pregnancy. I do look younger than I am, but was 25 at the time. He asked if I was scared, I said I was a little nervous (nothing uncommon there!) and he said "it's ok, you'll have your mom with you" Erm, no I won't. 1 - I'm married you presumptuous dick. 2 - how do you know I have a mom? He was one of those 'look down their nose at you' types.

I'm 31, with a husband, a house and career. I get asked it all the time and if my parents are happy. Right then.

There is no good reason to ask. I honestly don't understand why people do. I am autistic and often fuck up my phrasing or make huge social errors and even I know it's rude and completely unnecessary to ask.

Don't even get me started on the reactions when you choose to have 3 kids.

Helena I'm having my third and the things people have said! Shocking

I'm 28 weeks pregnant with my second child, I've heard all sorts of rude questions on my pregnancy with my daughter and now my son, the most rude I heard was not asked directly it was via a friend of a close friend, a woman in her 80s who knew I was married and when my friend told her friend I was expecting she said "oh, that's awful...is she keeping it???" My friend was very taken aback and told her knowing me the only reason the pregnancy would be terminated was if there was something very wrong with the baby (my daughter was born a healthy 9lb 2oz) couldn't believe it!