To be a bit p*ssed off with MIL?

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MIL had DS (16 months)for the day yesterday cos she's not seen him for a while.
While he was there she made him his lunch of scrambled eggs with cheese and........

A FECKING CHEAPO SAUSAGE ROLL cut up on the side
FOUR Fruit Shrewsbury biscuits
A small bag of Milky Way buttons!

get a grip!

it was a one off and you probably got a day to yourself

next time bring lunch with you if you're that wound up

ssd - we DID send him up with his lunch. Day to myself? Not working full time I don't.

Yes you are being very unreasonable. At least the eggs and cheese was freshly made, and do you know what? A treat or two - a few biscuits and some chcoolate buttons - is every grandparents right. loosen up.

Thats what grandparents are for though isn't it - lots of biscuits and sweets, and allowed to do stuff you don't do at home.
I'm sure she didn't mean to upset you.

i would be annoyed at all the the sugar i suppose but maybe next time you should suggest in advance what you would like him to have or prepare your own packed lunch for him? grandparents are supposed to do this to their grandkids! mine are the same.

We did send him his lunch up - and I'm only a bit peed off with her. She knows already we don't like him to have too much salt or sugar but, bless her, she didn't think the buttons counted cos they were white chocolate

My grandma used to give me sugar sandwiches.

Sugar sandwiches?? Eurggh!! I had crisp sandwiches though, yum

My nan thought it was abnormal for a child not to like chocolate (which I didn't) and she spent months training me to like it. Thanks nan!

My mate used to have condensed milk sandwiches. Cor - the crap we used to eat as kids. DS got off lightly

part of me is my 2 haven't got a grandma young enough to take them for a day

don't be too hard on her, treasure the time they spend together

That's a shame ssd. MIL is only in her early 60's and my parents are in their 50's/v early 60's. They're all great with him. I know I'm over reacting. I didn't get to see her but DH didn't say anything to her and I won't either - just drop subtle hints that DS loves eating fruit

No you should forget about it. Scrambled eggs with cheese is good. Ok the sausage roll is a bit salty but I really wouldn't kick up a fuss over that - and the chocolate buttons - well she has a right to spoil him a little, doesn't she?

YABU

Could have been worse - she could have given him a Fruit Shoot as well

Sounds fine to me. My gran used to feed me and my sister condensed milk out of the tin with a spoon and white bread spread thick with butter and pressed into the sugar bowl!

Actually... is it called 'condensed milk'? I mean the sweet sugary thick nestle one.

we're quite anti-sugar and MIL swears that she sticks by our 'rules' when she has DS. So I was surprised when we gave her our cat (we emigrated) and I asked DS if Tibbles would like living with granny and he replied "Yes because he'll get chocolates and jelly babies and Haribo and squash all the time".

I can sort of see your point but you have to take it as being a one-off and if she hasn't seen him for a while that means it is not happening on a regular basis.

I remember when my DS was that age my MIL asking if he liked pasta shapes as she had got some Tweenies shapes in for him. I replied that I had no idea because he has never had them but he does love baked beans. It turns out he did like the tweenies shapes (I personally have a thing against food associated with TV characters, like noddy yoghurts etc) but now at age 6 baked beans are still his second favourite food - only surpassed by cucumber. So I think my way of feeding him won out. And MIL keeps a supply of fruit shoots in the cupboard.

They were lovely. They had cinnamon in as well. Actually, cinnamon toast was the best treat. Ah!

My mum cooks sausages for my dc's breakfast every day when they are staying with her.

Even my super-scary MIL has the spoiling thing going on. Dh was gobsmacked when ds once refused to eat his breakfast, and 10 minutes later she gave him a biscuit, because he looked hungry.

Grandparents are for spoiling. Especially if they don't see them that often.

By "in a while" I meant about 3 weeks but still, it's not like she force fed him all the goodies is it? I'm sure he was quite happy to eat his biccies & chocs.
I'm blaming PMS, a crap day at work yesterday and DH 'forgetting' he was picking me up from work last night!!

Excellent exuses in my opinion, and the MIL is always a satisfying target!

I wouldnt worry about it really if its an occasional treat - im sure those parents who are complete health food obsessed will probably end up with the teenagers who go out for chips at every opportunity!

I like my children to eath healthily but I know that the things I tag as "bad" will be the things they want when they are older and trying to provoke me.

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