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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be sick of charity doorsteppers

98 replies

LouiseBrooks · 03/04/2017 21:21

I just had a girl from Marie Curie knocking on my door to ask me to contribute. It's 9.00pm. This happens every couple of months, not the same charity each time. Sometimes it's Saturday or Sunday evenings, it's always after 8.

I know they're all great charities, I know times are hard, and I do contribute to my chosen charities, but AIBU to think that my home should be off limits?

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teainbed · 04/04/2017 12:55

I got nice door stickers from Amazon, only a few pounds, saying no cavassers, charities, religious groups etc and one for the postbox saying no junk mail. They work pretty well!

ASheepInWolfsClothing · 04/04/2017 12:57

I just don't get why people can't just say "no thanks" as they close the door! No need to let them ramble on for 20 mins.. don't waste your time and theirs, ds is a charity dorstepper, he says he doesn't get many rude people- but he is a lovely lad

ShatnersWig · 04/04/2017 12:57

I never answer the door if I don't know who it is. I can see the door from my lounge window so if it is a neighbour or friend calling unannounced (almost never in 7 years) I can answer it. If I don't recognise them, I don't answer. Simple.

ThePiglet59 · 04/04/2017 13:02

"...The caller just went on and on and on. It took up the whole 20 minutes that DS actually napped for..."

You stood there for 20 minutes?
Oh FFS!

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LouiseBrooks · 04/04/2017 14:46

Thanks sirfred

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Bananalanacake · 04/04/2017 14:54

Pretend to pick your nose and eat it in front of them, start dancing and singing 'Agadoo'.
Shout through the letterbox, 'this is a rented property and I can ONLY open the door to the landlord' how are they to know you own it or not.

Apairofsparklingeyes · 04/04/2017 15:28

I think people are being far too British (polite) about uninvited callers. As soon as I see anyone on my doorstep with leaflets, a bible, charity collection or trying to sell something I interrupt them as they start speaking saying 'no thank you, not interested, have a nice day' while closing the door. Why waste your time or theirs engaging with them?

KayTee87 · 04/04/2017 15:30

Yanbu - especially annoying when they wake my baby

redjoker · 04/04/2017 15:32

Call the charity and complain, I get them at 8pm, live alone (when my partner is away) and find it quite unsettling having them knocking at all hours. Have called a few charities now and they take you off the 'round' list to avoid them knocking again. So far so good.

StrawberryMouse · 04/04/2017 15:39

I hate this, find it so intrusive. It's not in my nature to be rude so I'm always polite but what a waste of my time and theirs. I'm home, I'm relaxing, I'm not going to sign up for anything, just go away.

redjoker · 04/04/2017 15:42

What gets me is when they tell me a donation is the same as a posh coffee every week, Please stop, I dont even buy posh coffee!!

I'm far to British to turn them away at the door, once stood for 20 min watching a religious film on an iphone when a JW knocked. so awkward.

do the easy thing, call or email the charity involved and tell them you don't wish to be contacted, they are always super apologetic

AnneElliott · 04/04/2017 15:49

I just shut the door while saying what Hecate does- that I don't give to charities that employ chuggers.

woodhill · 04/04/2017 16:18

I hate it too, go away.

I would never do a dd on the doorstep.

sleepychunky · 04/04/2017 16:22

I understand your annoyance PP - I had them the other night at 9pm. But I'm head of fundraising for a national charity so I was able to get rid of them rather effectively!
If anyone's interested to know, there are recent changes to the Fundraising Code which state that any door-to-door fundraisers are NOT allowed to ring/knock at houses which display a "No cold callers" sign - previously charities were allowed to interpret that as not applying to them. So if you have one showing and you're still getting them knocking at your door, they are in breach of the Code and you are totally within your rights to complain to the Fundraising Regulator. And if you don't want them knocking, get a sign and you will hopefully not be bothered any more.

yumscrumfatbum · 04/04/2017 16:27

I loath cold callers. I have a sign that says no cold callers, charities, religious groups etc . About once a year I will get one who claims not to have seen the sign I just point at it say no thank you and shut the door. I did this just recently to a man carrying a large bag who looked rather confused by my rejection. Cue my teenage son running from his room declaring he had ordered a pizza !!!

BigGrannyPants · 04/04/2017 16:32

We generally don't answer the door to clipboards. If I want to donate to a charity, I'll do it and if I want to buy something I will buy it. I really object to any kind of door step selling including the religious kind.

MiaowTheCat · 04/04/2017 16:40

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kaitlinktm · 04/04/2017 16:52

It's fucking double glazing salesmen round here at the moment

OMG you have my sympathies - they used to call at our last house and once I opened the door to have the question "Do you own this house or rent?" fired at me? Mind your own fucking business!

JacquesHammer · 04/04/2017 16:57

Just put a sign on your door and the problem is solved

Except it isn't - around here it is royally ignored.

I work from home. I don't want to get broken off to answer an unsolicitor cold caller - it is intrusive.

If anything it makes me more resolute NOT to donate to that particular charity

Snowflakes1122 · 04/04/2017 16:58

They ignore my Amazon sticker. I had two separate callers the first day I put it in my door!

Surely if it says no salepeople, religious groups and people for charity should also realise this sign is applicable to them too?!

Snowflakes1122 · 04/04/2017 16:58

Oh and yanbu

EnormousTiger · 04/04/2017 17:19

I don't agree it's no problem just to say no. I give them about 20 secvonds but even so it is very very dispruting. I have to answer the door as I work from home and get work parcels. If you are really concentrating on work and have to break off from very difficult stuff to answer the door that really throws you. The interruption is awful. I don't like them at all. The phone is as bad - both calls to the home and work landlines yesterday here were Indian scammers - one from "microsoft" ( pull the other one) and the other from BT (was not... just the usual lies).

AnitaPallenbergsKnees · 04/04/2017 17:25

We moved out to the countryside and thankfully don't have the problem anymore but when living in a village it was a real nuisance.If I saw them coming I would hide but if they did catch me I just couldn't find it in myself to be rude - unlike dh who had no problems telling them to move on.

OldandJaded · 04/04/2017 17:45

I had one once in winter, I answered the door among cries of 'who is it mum???' And dogs barking their bloody head off, opened the door trying to keep the little bastards in kids and dogs the right side of it, and young man the other side says 'hello I'm from national deaf children's society, should I step in to discuss your donation as you're not paying to heat the street?'
Er, no I don't think so. I politely declined as I know ppl have a job to do but he was still 'yes but....' As I shut the door. Don't answer now.

Badders123 · 04/04/2017 17:50

Sigh
Yeah
Had one the other week and my dh answered - and instead of sending my 8 year old away the idiot let him stand there and listen to her patter and stats on childhood cancer
😡😡😡
So now I have an 8 year old terrified he will get cancer

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