Fed up and probably making a mountain out of a molehill

[TweedAddict]

I've had a really crap few years. It seems like everything that we have planned for, worked towards or looked forward too has fallen though. I'm at the end of my tether with it.

So my (our) lastest row is about getting a new car. I've just had some bad news about one of dogs so a little sensitive- daft I know but she's my baby. I've wanted a new car for the past year. Me and DH take it in turns getting a new car, it's been my turn for past year. I brought it up again at the weekend asking when are we going to get a new one. He said he doesn't want to get rid of mine- yes well I do, it's not big enough for my needs.

A little info for you, my current car is a small 4x4, but we have 3 dogs and I can't take them all for a walk at once as I can't them in the boot. When we got our last dog DH said we will upgrade car soon. So I have too either walk the same walk all the time or do multiple trips. Having enough money isn't an issue. The problem is DH really likes my car- it's lovely and rare version of a common one, still not big enough though. He can't have my car as he does 1000+ miles for work each week so would cost a boom.

I've been looking forward to getting a upgrade, and feel just so disappointed that it hasn't yet nor will it as DH loves my current one.

Sorry just one more disappointment and fed up.

[Rainydayspending]

It's a ridiculous scenario. If money really isn't the issue get the bigger car, register this one as SORN/ sign it over to your DH.
He can't bear to part with it but you think it's too small for purpose.

[Naicehamshop]

You really need to put your foot down now, op. YOUR car has to be suitable for YOUR needs.

You are in danger of turning into a bit of a doormat here.

[neonrainbow]

Sell him your car and buy the one you want.

[Bottlesoflove]

Is it that you expect your dh to research it, go to the dealer, do test drives etc? Because it is then do that yourself. If that's not the issue then just go out and buy a new one if you share finances. Am failing to see the issue tbh.

Only on mumsnet would "please help, I can't fit my three dogs in my four by four and it's ruining my lunch/gym schedule!" Be considered a "problem". 😂

[robinia]

cherryblossomcarpet

If a man came on here with the same complaint I suspect he would be told that if he wanted a new car he should earn the money to pay for it himself

They're married so all money is shared.

[Chloe84]

I think most people have given OP the benefit of thinking she is a SAHM, therefore enabling her DH to work outside the home.

[ThePiglet59]

My fifties are too big for my wallet and my diamond shoes are pinching

[Norland]

What sort of a 4x4 is so small it can't take 3 x dogs? Especially if you fold the back seats down.
Does changing the car regularly mean it's relatively new? i.e.

[MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig]

I've got a 4x4 that I'd never get three dogs in. Well, unless they were terriers. It's a Landrover Freelander and has just about enough room for my Labrador. We've talked about getting another lab soon and then I'll be looking to change the car. I've had it a few years anyway so it'll be time for an upgrade soon. It definitely wouldn't fit three Labradors in the boot.

[Norland]

Speaking as the owner of a Lab who has frequently transported my hound with two others belonging to friends,
in a boot space smaller than that of a Freelander,
I say with confidence You could easily get 3 x labradors in here

[MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig]

Well yes I could but then I'd have nowhere to sit the children, sooo.... back to square one.

[cherryblossomcarpet]

Robna you miss my point entirely. Yes they are married so all money is shared. However if a man made this complaint (despite the whole all money is shared concept) I bet he'd get the comments I suggested.

I really do think OP is being a complete princess about this.