Ok. I'm over 6 months pregnant and very hormonal at the mo so just wanted to see if others can see where I'm coming from or people gonna boo me out.....
My DH has a 14 yo son who normally just stays with us the weekends. Last week however moved in with us for a month because his mother is buying a new house but the house is not yet ready so she asked he stays with us. Which is fine but the mother keeps complaining how he doesn't listen to her and shouts back etc so she let's him go out as often as he wants wherever he wants so he's out the way (she also has 2 other little ones)
Last Saturday like normally he wants to go out with his friends and we do take him although the place is at least a half hour drive. So I took him and said to him be ready by 6 so his dad can pick him up to get back for half 6 for dinner. He goes ok. However when his dad went to pick him up he txt him that he's not ready yet and doesn't want to come home yet. His dad told him he had to but he keeps pushing his dad lately until he just gives up so he can do whatever he wants. So a friend's dad ended up bringing him home after.
So I know he will ask me again to drop him off this Saturday so I decided to play the same game. I'm gonna tell him yes at first then later tell him I changed my mind and won't be taking him (because he changed his mind about coming home at the discussed time last minute last week!)
My question is, AIBU or should I be more easy going? We also have a 2 yo so I have to think of him too and not just run around after the 14 yo all the time because he now has a social life! I tried reasoning with him when he's not behaving like he should be on other occasions but he says sorry and ending up doing what he wants anyway! So this is sort of trying to teach him a lesson. But his dad is easy going on him so didn't tell him about my plan in case he tells me I'm a lunatic and just tell him no the first instance. I thought if I play his game he might not do this to us the next time? Wanted to see if others agree or think I'm evil??