To wonder how you can not bath or shower kids every day?

[Kalitall]

I know this ones been done, and I don't think anyone is dirty for not bathing every day and I understand about skin conditions.

I just don't know how everyone gets away with not bathing children each day. Especially little ones.

My two boys seem to get filthy. They both play outside every day and end up muddy. The toddler gets really mucky eating meals, usually ends up with food everywhere even in his hair. Also often ends up with paint over him from nursery. He poos in his nappy every day and even though he's clean up is usually still a bit smelly. In the Summer they both get quite sticky.

I find it easier to run a bath or put him under the shower than to top and tail to clean all the muck off.

Like I said I'm not accusing anyone of being dirty, as an adult I could probably get away with not showering each day as I don't sweat much and don't get mucky.

Do other children just not get in a mess?

It's the same with washing clothes. I reuse my own clothes but I could never not wash the dcs clothes, because they're always covered in food or mud.

If DD washed her own clothes I'd have to buy more uniform. I have 2 of everything and wash every school night. If she washed her own clothes I'd need to buy more to make up a load, also it would mean having the washing machine on twice some days instead of once.

My DDs had two sets of uniform skirt each and two or three shirts, with trousers for DS. Uniforms got washed on weekends.

What do the bathing obsessive think happens in drought countries

The summers are getting hotter and dryer thanks to global warming. I should think in my lifetime I'll see regular water restrictions in the summer months.

Somewhat galling to think that could result in my children not being allowed the odd paddling pool, whilst others might be wasting water to the tune of two showers a day and washing pyjamas after every wear!

But I guess we're an island, so we could just build a fuck ton of desalination plants, with all the associated huge energy consumption and pollution problems

What do the bathing obsessive think happens in drought countries

I grew up in Australia and showering once or twice a day is very standard. But with water saving showerheads and short showers.

The thing is, Math, that with invisible disabilities people DO judge because they cannot see a wheelchair/obvious disability.

Perhaps I'm a bit ging-ho about it these days but I am apt to immediately challenging these things because we do receive a fair amount of 'tut-tutting' from the general public over things that actually don't truly matter that much but perhaps I would be considered too lax by some living by the simple rules of: If you're not hurting someone, hurting yourself or destroying property then it's pretty much ok - life's far too shore for some of the incredibly stuffy rules that seem to persist and which my child frequently fails to accomplish.

Supermoon 100- Yes it is a nasty word, so interesting that you are using it. If south Londoners are more dirty as you suggest, it's a good thing I shower everyday!

I assume if people post on a forum and don't mention a SN of some sort in a post describing their child spilling food/drink on a daily basis that there is no SN involved.

I do think there must have been a lot of harshness in people's lives at some point to cause the amount of tutting and discomfort that some seem to exhibit in restaurants or other public places where children are present and simply being themselves, or around crying babies, (or breastfeeding babies, but that is another subject).

I disagree that the rules are stuffy though, and with the implication that they have outlasted their usefulness - some have solid reasons behind them, like chewing with your mouth shut, staying seated while eating, eating slowly, taking time to savour your food and converse, not reaching across the table to grab the gravy, etc. There is common sense and even science behind those conventions. You might hurt someone else or yourself or destroy or damage property by not doing your best to observe the basic conventions (broken glassware, falls caused by food on floor, waiters tripping over children out of their seats in restaurants, teeth chipped by forks hitting them at high speed, etc). With children, adults of course try to keep them safe as much as possible because they can't be expected to understand the whys and wherefores.

There are also rules against judging others, sadly ignored all too frequently.

Mine are bathed every day and always have been, as I was as a child, it's part of our routine and kids can get really filthy.

I think you can tell with some dc at school who aren't regularly bathed ( and the parents )

Would rather my kids were clean and fresh and think it's lazy to give them a bath twice a week, some people just cba.