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Mother's Day gift how is it possible to still get it wrong after 9 year ?!

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Ffs2 · 27/03/2017 21:50

Hi folks second time I've posted on here so I know I'm in for it ! Fiancé bought me this beauty for Mother's Day. I don't care it cost £8 and I don't care it's a Day late and from Asda I truly don't. I care that it's a nightie. We have been together 9 year. I don't wear nighties. He bought me one last year for balentine last year I made nice noises but made excuse after excuse not to wear it. This year I said while I appreciated the effort and that the pattern was pretty I still don't wear nighties ! He's currently throwing a wobbly saying I'm ungrateful 😕. AIBU ? For all those that get nothing I'm usually in your group and so i do feel honoured I got something this year but I'm never gonna wear or use it and I tried to be nice but he won't take the hint ! Should I suck it up apologise and wear the bloody thing or not ?!

Mother's Day gift how is it possible to still get it wrong after 9 year ?!
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PyongyangKipperbang · 27/03/2017 23:57

My ex was terrible with presents. I almost got a lawn mower for my 30th "because we need one". You remember that earthquake in the Midlands? That wasnt an earthquake, that was me.

Fortunately H is great at buying presnts, sadly he is shit at being truthful, honest and faithful but then I guess you cant have everything......

NomNomNominativeDeterminism · 27/03/2017 23:57

I wouldn't mind a pork pie for my birthday. Hang the expense, TWO pork pies. Can you swap the nightie for a pork pie and a pint?

Wdigin2this · 28/03/2017 00:00

A day late, from ASDA, and cost the grand total of £8.....you can return it and get a nice bottle of wine for £6, call in the chippy for a bag each on the way home, romantic evening sorted!

Fauxgina · 28/03/2017 00:03

Oh dear Pyongyang Sad

3rd time's a charm?!

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/03/2017 00:05

Nah mate, I am done! :o

LadyB49 · 28/03/2017 00:16

My DH bought me a mother's day present.
We were in asda on Saturday and he went to the till to pay for something separate from the grocery shop.

Then in the middle of Asda he reached me one of those new scissors/cutters that cut carrots etc saying happy mothers day!! He'd remembered me commenting when it was on tv a few days earlier.

It's brilliant and I love it. And appreciate his tongue in cheek gift.
We're both near 70. :)

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Ffs2 · 28/03/2017 07:40

Awww ladyB that's sweet 😊 I'm going to return the nightie today he's offered to do it but I dread to think what he'll come back with if I let him 😂

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WildwestWind · 28/03/2017 08:10

Well I think it's rather pretty and I would wear it whilst enjoying my Mother's Day gifts of a cocktail making kit, a bottle of gin and a dvd. Think my kids were spot on this year! No man involved... Grin.
At least you got a laugh out of the situation OP

Mumsmet · 28/03/2017 08:21

I actually think it is a pretty nightie- sort of 1940s feel to it. But....

A) It was a day late
B) OH knows that you do not like nighties
C) Sexy/ pretty nightwear is probably more for him not you, so it does not count as a gift
D) I have no issue with the Dad buying the gift on behalf of the daughters (totally normal, in fact) however one usually buys something that the girls would choose like chocolates. That said, I can sort of imagine a little girl seeing this and thinking that Mummy would look pretty in this. If the girls were there choosing too then that would be an acceptable and sweet gift.

Ethylred · 28/03/2017 08:25

It is always, without exception, ill-mannered to complain about a present.

Willow2017 · 28/03/2017 08:56

It's not thoughtless or I'll mannered if the gift is totally unsuitable, especially when the giver knows that the recipient never uses or wears said item.
That a a thkughtlwss thoughtless and useless 'gift'.
Best not to get anything instead of getting someone crap because you couldn't be bothered to get something they would vaguely like.

BitOutOfPractice · 28/03/2017 09:32

The worst thing about this whole thread is that I really like the nightie Blush

StartledByHisFurryShorts · 28/03/2017 09:49

Oh dear, I like it.

Me too! Obviously it's a shit gift if you don't wear nighties but I think it's quite pretty. (Tbf, I think every single item of clothing I own is 100% man-made fibres so I'm not terribly classy.)

Never wear pyjamas though. If I had a partner who'd had years of experience with my sleeping habits, I'd be pretty Hmm if I were given some.

I got some socks. They're awesome! (Dd is 20 tho. No partner involved.)

embo1 · 28/03/2017 10:19

Asda have a £6 bottle of prosecco with a yellow wrapper that's nice enough for a night in...

Abraiid2 · 28/03/2017 10:36

I don't know why anything more than a bunch of flowers or box of chocolates is necessary for Mother's Day. Anything else seems to cause problems.

embo1 · 28/03/2017 12:20

*£5 now!

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Ffs2 · 28/03/2017 12:32

😂 I'll get him to pick me up another then embo !

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Amar1na · 28/03/2017 13:38

Ffs2 - if you're able to set to one side the issues of the polyester, floral pattern and shapelessness of the garment, then I, for one, can sort of see what your DH may have been trying to do here. Think of what else he could have picked up in the aisles of Asda - oven gloves or some other utility gift! At least this was an attempt to be personal Confused If it had come in silk, with a bit more shape and in your favourite colour, would you have liked it then? If so, point this out to him and he may feel all is not lost.

How do you know it was £8 - did he leave the tag on?

I too remember the pork pie thread - but the most shocking gift on that was the DH who treated his wife to A VISIT FROM DYNOROD on her birthday because she had mentioned the drains might be a bit blocked Grin All she wanted to do was have a bath and clean the house for a dinner party she was hosting that evening, but instead she had plumbers, chaos and sewage in every bathroom, stinking the house out. I don't know how some people cope.

I'm just relating this for perspective OP! Good luck for next year!

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Ffs2 · 28/03/2017 14:14

Amar1na yes he left the tags on. It wasn't even in a carrier bag 😂 It's brought me lots of laughs though so was worth it in the end I suppose !

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Ffs2 · 31/03/2017 20:16

So I'm currently wearing it 🙄 I hate it have never felt less attractive or uncomfortable ( except in a swimming costume) but I got it ready to take back and he gave me puppy eyes said he really likes it finds me sexy bla bla bla !!! I said if he buys me pjs that I like I'll wear it hence my current situation seriously what is with men ?! I should have read the signals when he developed a crush on Prue Leith 😁

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Aeroflotgirl · 31/03/2017 20:37

Bloody hell that's awful op, my husband gave my a massive box of Fererro Roche and a bottle of Prossecco, bingo!!

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Ffs2 · 31/03/2017 20:52

Aeroflot girl wanna swap fellas for next year 😂

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Fauxgina · 31/03/2017 23:18

Who the hell buys a gift for their penis for Mother's Day Hmm

He's a twat.

Darbs76 · 31/03/2017 23:33

It's not weird for a husband to buy his wife a gift on behalf of the kids for Mother's Day. Most men do, well all the ones I know do until children are old enough to buy themselves. I'd just say it's lovely thanks and relegate it to the bottom of the drawer

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