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Mother's Day gift how is it possible to still get it wrong after 9 year ?!

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Ffs2 · 27/03/2017 21:50

Hi folks second time I've posted on here so I know I'm in for it ! Fiancé bought me this beauty for Mother's Day. I don't care it cost £8 and I don't care it's a Day late and from Asda I truly don't. I care that it's a nightie. We have been together 9 year. I don't wear nighties. He bought me one last year for balentine last year I made nice noises but made excuse after excuse not to wear it. This year I said while I appreciated the effort and that the pattern was pretty I still don't wear nighties ! He's currently throwing a wobbly saying I'm ungrateful 😕. AIBU ? For all those that get nothing I'm usually in your group and so i do feel honoured I got something this year but I'm never gonna wear or use it and I tried to be nice but he won't take the hint ! Should I suck it up apologise and wear the bloody thing or not ?!

Mother's Day gift how is it possible to still get it wrong after 9 year ?!
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ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 27/03/2017 22:34

Perhaps he wants to ignite a spark between you?
A static spark when you get into bed wearing that polyester monstrosity
Grin.

MammaTJ · 27/03/2017 22:40

I am amazed that people find it odd that men who are Fathers go out with or on behalf of their small children to buy a present for the mother of said children! Why would they not?

Oh, maybe in the OPs case, he should be banned from it, as he clearly has not clue. Maybe ask a friend to do it in future!

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Ffs2 · 27/03/2017 22:42

Thanks ladies Anycupcakes I'm literally peeing myself here ! Not in that nightie though ! The gift buying is just what we do ? I didn't know it was odd ! I take the girls out to buy him gifts and buy him something from myself also just to say thanks it's appreciated - his favourite aftershave, a meal out etc etc come on ladies I asked my own mum ( on the sly so as not to hurt his feelings !) she's almost 60 and she said she wouldn't wear it ! Also yes I buy gifts on his behalf as above he's shit at buying gifts. I buy them gifts they like and put his name on it x

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Bluntness100 · 27/03/2017 22:45

There was s thread on here about shit gifts awhile ago. One woman posted she got a pork pie for her birthday. Still makes me laugh.

Could have been worse op.😂

Sara107 · 27/03/2017 22:49

Absolutely fine for husbands to buy mother's day gifts if the children are too little to do their own thing. But it should be stuff that's appropriate to come from your child, not sexy stuff ( although that particular nightie is not very sexy!!) If you explained already that you don't like nighties, then a nightie is a thoughtless gift, don't feel obliged to be grateful ! Can you take it back and swap it for something better?
I've mainly had whatever little thing dD has made at nursery or school and a posy from church but she's 7 now and got her dad to take her shopping this year! And she gave me so many cuddles which was the best. So there is hope for better recognition as your children get older!

tippii · 27/03/2017 22:56

Bloody hell OP that is a sign of a desperate man who not only missed Mothers Day but was panicking and didn't have a clue what to buy. I have visions of him walking through Asda with this beauty draped over his arm, totally embarrassed. Whatever you think of your present, it took a lot of balls to get through checkout. I am not surprised he thinks you are ungrateful, probably thinks you are going to ask him to take it back Grin

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Ffs2 · 27/03/2017 22:56

😂 I now feel grateful it wasn't a pork pie ! The girls said to get me pyjamas which would have been perfect no matter how ugly they were. I did get handmade cards and a couple of chocolates in a ribbon. I love the handmade things and like I said originally I don't usually get anything so I do appreciate the effort but holy crap he should know me better than this !

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SaucyJack · 27/03/2017 22:58

Look on the practical side; at least any menstrual blood leaks will blend right in.

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Ffs2 · 27/03/2017 23:03

tippii literally crying with laughter so much so I had to tell him what you said he is now also in fits of hysterics as he said it's true 😂

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CheeseQueen · 27/03/2017 23:04

Sick of seeing all the ungrateful messages on here about people being disappointed they didn't get the "right" present blah blah.
What happened to just having a nice day with your kids and stop expecting loads of material stuff?
Maybe I'm in a minority with the amount of replies agreeing with such grabby posts, but I've always been taught to be thankful of any gifts, not moan that it's not what you wanted.

pinkopal · 27/03/2017 23:11

Mumsnet is odd about Mothering Sunday. Of course the DC's dad should help them get Mummy a gift! I've never heard anything so ridiculous in my life - "you're not his Mother"

Sounds like sour grapes to me. Are you all single/get nothing from your DH?

Katie0705 · 27/03/2017 23:12

Guiltypleasures001 You have just made my night!!!! Such a brilliant response

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Ffs2 · 27/03/2017 23:16

Cheesequeen as I stated originally I don't usually get anything so was grateful he bothered to try and I didn't care it cost £8 and he got it as an afterthought while picking up milk and jalapeños it was literally that after that after 9 year you'd have thought he would have noticed I wrong wear bloody nighties !

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Ffs2 · 27/03/2017 23:20

Bloody phone ! I DONT wear nighties bluntness and some of you other ladies have made my night I expected to get bashed to death but instead have tears of laughter - I may not even take it back now as every time I look st it I laugh 😁

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honeylulu · 27/03/2017 23:22

Oh dear, I like it.
But I wear nighties. It's an odd choice if he knows you don't!

honeylulu · 27/03/2017 23:23

at least any menstrual blood leaks will blend right in
Silver cloud?

leccybill · 27/03/2017 23:25

If he got it today, could it have been reduced? Perhaps he thought he was nabbing a bargain.

TheProblemOfSusan · 27/03/2017 23:25

Your husband is being unreasonable. I just asked my DH what he would buy me as a present if it was night wear and he said "pjs, obviously" like I was mad to ask the question.

He might well like to see me in a sexy nightie, I'm sure I'd look very hot, but I don't wear nighties either, and a present is about you, not him, so yes it was a shit present. (to be clear, DH has his own special crap points but present buying isn't one of them)

Even if it was Janet bloody Reger it'd be a shit present, but that particular one is awful. There are so many nice things you could have had for £8 in Asda too.

clumsyduck · 27/03/2017 23:28

But he's not your mum ?

Kidding . I'm going to have to go to bed because if I see that written on one more Mother's Day thread I will poke my own eyes out !!

Heaven forbid a mother recieves a gift , one she actually likes . Bought by her dp because young children tend not to go shopping alone Confused the martyr mum thing is really boring

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Ffs2 · 27/03/2017 23:29

Hehehe I don't want to bash him he tried but I'm glad it's not just me that thinks if he was gonna buy me a nightie it could have been sexy I'm not even old ! 17
( going on 38) 😂 But still !

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clumsyduck · 27/03/2017 23:30

Or " your not his mum "

I get snidey one friggin time and I can't even type Blush

tabulahrasa · 27/03/2017 23:31

"Sick of seeing all the ungrateful messages on here about people being disappointed they didn't get the "right" present blah blah.
What happened to just having a nice day with your kids and stop expecting loads of material stuff?
Maybe I'm in a minority with the amount of replies agreeing with such grabby posts, but I've always been taught to be thankful of any gifts, not moan that it's not what you wanted."

I posted in another thread about mine already...but...

DP bought me Andy Murray's book, I've never in the 22 years we've been together expressed even a passing interest in Andy Murray, tennis or even sport...it's also not even something he'd want himself.

It's not grabby to go, eh? Why? Why would you buy me that? In a slightly confused but very amused way.

There's no bloody way I'm telling him I like it - what if he bought me andy Murray themed presents for everything? Rofl

In fairness I'm not disappointed or upset, just...bemused by it. But I'm not going to lie to someone that close to me, that's just weird.

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Ffs2 · 27/03/2017 23:36

Tabul I'd swap you but I have no interest in Andy Murray either 😂 Weird these menfolk aren't they !

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Ffs2 · 27/03/2017 23:37

Hahahahaha clumsyduck have you seen how many mistakes are in mine ?! It's because I've gone squint looking at my present 😁

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tabulahrasa · 27/03/2017 23:40

"Weird these menfolk aren't they !"

Mine has form for odd presents...

The most memorable was a smart price king size duvet cover, we don't have a king size bed or a king size duvet cover and when pressed for a reason it's because it was purple - but purple doesn't go with our bedroom so that didn't explain it to be honest.

I genuinely think he just buys the first thing he sees, I suppose I should just be grateful he's not in somewhere like Halfords at the time, lol.