Honestly just need some advice on whether my judgement is being clouded here.
Last year, my partner and I found out our baby had a 0% survival chance at our 12 week scan, our families were a huge support and honestly I don't think we would have coped as well as we did had it not been for them.
My DSis announced she was pregnant around 6 weeks ago, I was over the moon for her as she's been TTC for around 8 months and I knew it was getting her quite down. I should explain she has an ongoing illness that makes it very hard to conceive and could also effect the pregnancy.
Throughout this I've tried hard to be supportive and excited with her, despite finding it quite hard, giving her advice where asked but I've also tried to be the voice of reason as she's quite prone to go from 0 to 100 in no time. I reiterated several times that she should wait until the 12 week scan before doing anything to drastic (i.e move house, buy clothes, furniture etc.) and have had the answer that she's being extra cautious until the scan as she has been placed as a high risk pregnancy.
Yesterday in casual conversation she tells me They've painted the nursery and bought the cot, the changing unit, a wardrobe and a few other bits and pieces. This is at 11 weeks. I went a bit quiet on the phone as I just didn't know what to say, I don't want to burst their bubble but I also can't help feeling it's way too soon, all the what ifs are floating around my head.
What if they do get bad news and they have to come back to a house with a room that's all set up for a baby? Obviously, I wouldn't want that for anyone but I just feel like they haven't considered that despite knowing that it can happen to anyone.
I'm also confused my my DM's behaviour, as a someone who has suffered a MC and knows that things can go wrong, who seems to be actively encouraging this by buying her baby clothes and blankets.
I'm unsure whether I should say something or whether I'm letting what happened to me cloud my judgement and that this is perfectly normal?