Feel friend is taking advantage

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Trying to limit details as could be outing.

DH and I are friends with another couple who have had bad luck with work and have often been unemployed recently. Friend A was trying to sell things to make money and I felt pushed in to buying something. Friends seem to think I earn loads of money due to my qualifications but in fact I work in a badly paid profession. Anyway, I agreed to buy the object to help her out and it was something that I would potentially use.

Her partner, Friend B accidentally just mentioned that the item is in fact broken and a repair company says nothing can be done to fix it. I realise I was naive and stupid to assume it worked but now what do I do? I really want to get rid of said item as DH has just been made redundant so need any extra money. However I've had a look on EBay and working items are selling for less than she asked me for. I know there is nothing I can do but AIBU to be pissed off to feel tricked into to buying something that is broken? I suspect I am and need to learn from the experience. I feel cheated though

Sorry x post.
OK just say Fuck Off

I don't know about aps but on my laptop you are not highlighted

He has been signed off work with anxiety and depression, he is so lovely but I can't burden him with this. I think I just need to realize that people can be arses and sadly stop being so trusting

Dammit redshoe I need a bit of a highlight right now!

I got a second hand sewing machine in our local market. It kind of worked but not really. I took it one of our local shops which sells lots of haberdashery stuff, and they sent it to their sewing machine repair chap who fixed it for £15. It's great. Try asking in haberdashers etc.

To the rest of us you are not highlighted. To you, your posts will be highlighted because you are the OP regardless of which name you happen to be using.

I just don't get how she can even think this is remotely OK. She must know it will mean the end of your friendship.

OK I'll use a red felt pen and colour in your posts.
You need advice on the machine, so tell us what it is, and some helpful people can tell you repair shops.
Do you know what is wrong with it ?

No, OP with your name change your posts aren't highlighted.

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It's also pissed me off because I had to back out of buying a piece of her artwork as DH lost his job and she made me feel terrible. A real guilt trip. Now this hmm

Did you back out of buying commissioned work? Is she making some of her list money back?

Lost, not list.

I would send her a text or email saying,

"Deeply disappointed that you would cheat me in this way, by selling me a sewing machine that you knew to be broken. I hope that you consider the £50 (that you cheated me out of) to be a fair exchange for the loss of my friendship and, with it, the loss of all future help and goodwill (that you have come to rely on) from me."

Bloody hell op I sold a working sewing machine for £1 on eBay as it had been sitting around and I wanted someone else to get use from it. She sounds awful, definitely dump it on her doorstep, put a letter through her door asking for a bank transfer and be done with it.

She may keep the money but she's not friend of yours :-(

Redshoe it has apparently been serviced at a reputable local shop, but now I am getting conflicting stories. It's a Singer 507 if that helps.

Yes I did back out of buying artwork and I felt absolutely terrible and still do. Plus apparently she has another buyer. I can absolutely understand her anger and disappointment about the artwork but I don't feel it justifies the current situation. I thought we were good friends and I know I let her down but I had no choice. I've already bought over pieces to support her but I can't carry on

Thats how much your friendship is worth to her. Less than £50. She's not a friend at all.

Rusty I will revert to my original advice tell her to F off

With friends like that, you don't need enemies!

She isn't a friend and she has just lost your friendship for £50. Don't feel bad about the art work it sounds like you were planning to buy that out of guilt too. Forget her.

Adish that's brilliant!

It's horrible but I don't think you'll get your money back - they sound awful. I'd have nothing to do with them now and it may be an (expensive) blessing in disguise if they're out of your life.

ADish has it. Normal people don't even try and rip off strangers, much less 'friends'.

I agree it's highly unlikely that you'll get your cash back, so you'll have to chalk it up to experience. But I love the idea Adish suggested, and whatever happens please ensure you cut her right out of your life in future!

I would dump it at her doorstep and not expect any money back. She is not worth being your friend.

Rusty you're to nice please stop feeling bad for not buying the art work of that bitch. She conned you out of £50 and you feel bad. Do you feel you have to help and do you worry about what others think of you. We're all mad at the end of the day but you have to choose what circus and madness you want around you.

ADiish I love your suggestion. I will sleep on it tonight but thank you for all the suggestions

OP, these friends suck. I'd go with what LaContessa posted on the first page, and absolutely do not omit the "no need to reply" part.

Horrid I am finally trying to put my self first after a lifetime of trying to please everyone else and worrying about how people view me. I'm starting to get there it's a bloody amazing feeling to be honest