To actually want to meet the person who would be looking after my child?

[Writerwannabe83]

If you had to leave your child with a childminder for three days out of the week would it be important that you met her personally?

Would you feel ok with sending your DP/DH off to 'vet' them and then if he thought the lady seemed ok you'd be happy enough to send your child to her on his say-so alone?

Genuinely curious as I said to DH that I would want to meet her myself and he had a mini-huff and I said, "I think it's just a mother thing" and he said, "No, it's just a YOU thing."

I said that it isn't as though I don't trust his judgement it's just that I would want to know who I'm sending our child to.

It's not a "mum thing" , it is a you thing, but it's a "thing" that some other mums and dads would agree with, but I'ld say it's probably 50:50

A childminder for a preschooler? Of course I would want to meet her.

It's fine for one of us to visit nurseries and school alone, but we've always both seen our first choice together before making a final decision. It's not that we don't trust each other, more than we want to know where our kids are and who with.

I'm a childminder and I usually find that it's the mother who arranges the childcare and comes to meet me for a chat. I have occasionally had both parents visit however it's not that common.

Ideally both parents should meet them, but it doesnot matter who goes first.
IMhO

I'd definitely have to meet them!

Yes he is our first child
And yes I am the main caregiver

I know he's only going there for three days but that doesn't mean I shouldn't care who he is with. I hadn't even thought about assessing the environment he's going to be in.....but I guess that's another factor I want to take into consideration. One CM I met previously had 4 large dogs penned up in her kitchen

Mind you, I'm saying all this but the reality is that even if I don't feel 100% comfortable with her I'm still going to have to send DS there anyway as I have no other choice