Chubby child- everyone saying she isn't chubby to the mam... isn't that worse?

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I have an aquaintance - I wouldn't call her a close enough friend... and she had a rant on fb how a man has told her dd (5) that she's quite chubby. She attached a pic of her dd. Her dd is very upset now of course.
This I think is absolutely terrible and that man had no right to destroy a little girls self - esteem. It was a cruel thing to say and is totally wrong!
However all the comments on it are saying to not mind him she's not fat at all and that she's gorgeous and not an ounce overweight.
The mum then took her dd for ice cream to make her feel better. Her mum was quite chubby herself but lost loaf's of weight.
Don't get me wrong Im no stick insect im a size 12 with a mam bod and think everyone should feel sexy in their own body and are!!!
But this little girl is clearly very overweight at the age of 5 and I'm more concerned about her health really. Is it not wrong of her friends to tell her she's fine?
Are they not doing more harm than good?
She has seen a nutritionist for her as the public health nurse referred her. Aparently the nutritionist didn't know anything when she suggested to swap sausages for real meat etc etc.

I do feel awful for even saying this out loud but that little girl is quite overweight and I wish she would listen to the nutritionist for her health.
I don't feel I'm in a position to say anything to her as we aren't close friends.
Maybe I am being Unreasonable I'm not sure. And really its none of my business... I just feel obesity is on the rise and maybe that's why...

I just used the nhs checker using dd date of birth and she comes back on the 6th percentile, so clearly her teacher can not read a chart! ( when I said she was 11 next month I meant as in April but it is actually next Sunday the 2nd)

Astoria, I think the assertion that you are misremembering is correct.

It's not completely unheard of for children of six to be four feet tall and over but a quick google will tell you that it is entirely remarkable, considered world-record territory if its five feet plus, and nearly always the result of a medical condition causing abnormal growth amongst other problems.

I know what the mother should do, but she won't, will she? If she was my fb friend I would not comment. Neither would I come on MN to post yet another thread about the obesity crisis, which always seems to affect other people's children, never the OP or their children.

correct.

regarding the kid who eats less than a sparrow-like brother and is massive, i'd be getting that checked out as it doesn't stack up, there's either something wrong, or he's eating a lot more than you know about.

I'd defo be checking that out.

Purple, would the remarkable cases you mention only grow a few more inches after the age of 6?

Sorry but I think it is really bad form to start a thread about an fb friends child. If you're worried speak to your friend about it.

Plus, the mothers size is bugger all to do with the child. There are plenty of overweight adults with perfectly normal sized childre, don't be so rude

Actually if parents are overweight than it is statistically more likely that their child will also be overweight. That's not being rude, it's the truth.

Geuinely she is not. I am being honest, not having a dig at her. She is very unhappy as she knows she is much bigger than the other children her age and can't do things most of them do because of her size. Our whole family fell out with her mother (SIL) because she would never stop feeding her shite and she is bordering on being several stone overweight at the age of just 9!

Hardly like I say this to her face is it, I'm being honest and saying it here...

I grew up average sized and infact was underweight for a few years, then ballooned when I was about 10 as I could go to the shops on my own and eat crap on the way to school. I know how she feels, but I also know how it feels to have a parent who makes it worse or wont step in to stop it.

What her mother is doing is child abuse. I'm not going to pussyfoot around it and say she's "beautiful" and the picture of health when I'm talking to people online am I? As if.

Child abuse is a bit extreme forcing your cheap to be vegitarian/vegan..sufferers of anorexia creating similar issues onto their own children must also be child abuse as well..

Your attitude is quite hostile towards her it's clear to see.

My ds is 'overweight', however, he is on the 99th percentile respectively, so technically in proportion. He's 12, I was basically the same till puberty. Then the fat disappeared. No one will appreciate it being pointed out.

I don't think she is being hostile just a little over concerned for someone else's child.

I do agree with Half Wando that's a big accusation and it's not helping the child. You do sound very hostile and I would be pissed if I had family like you.

I thought on MN we had a code of not criticising appearance, particularly that of children.

It is extremely fucking unpleasant to describe a child as a small hippo. Also to describe her as 'nasty' and attribute her nastiness to her weight and to predict that she will go on to further nastiness in adulthood if she achieves full blown hippo size.

That's what Wando1986 did.

In my book, that's nasty

I just this on TIO and I have no idea how I managed to post [grin ] here or where it was meant to be.

Thankyou horrid and limited ,

I feel very. much for that girl weight can be addressed unpleasant relatives can not.