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To think it's very bad form

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ShowMePotatoSalad · 25/03/2017 21:19

DH went to collect the curry tonight. When he got in I asked him how much it was in the end and he told me. I said it sounded cheaper than usual and he said he'd asked for a discount.

I was a bit confused and asked him why he'd asked for a discount. He just said if you don't ask you don't get. So I said that the price is the price, and how I thought it was very poor form to ask for a discount for no reason. They were gracious enough not to make a scene and granted him a 10% discount. They're a great restaurant with beautiful food (no reason whatsoever to need discounts) and we're regular customers. I feel a bit mortified and cross at DH. AIBU or is he?

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QuiteUnfitBit · 25/03/2017 22:11

Good grief, he only asked for a discount, and they only had to say no. They wouldn't be running a successful business if they didn't know how to say no when they needed to. Our local restaurants all offer 10-15% off for collection. Now I personally hate mean tippers. Grin

Glossolalia · 25/03/2017 22:17

Shock I'm really surprised anyone would have the cheek to do this!

RebelRogue · 25/03/2017 22:19

I honestly don't get what all the hand wringing is about. While i have never specifically demanded a discount,i have made jokes that ended up in one. And they were jokes,no expectations, didn't care what the price was as long as i got my yummy food.

AllTheGlitters · 25/03/2017 22:20

But her post to the OP was mean though Confused

Shurleyshummishtake · 25/03/2017 22:22

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VeryButchyRestingFace · 25/03/2017 22:24

I don't understand what made him think he was entitled to a discount?

Would he be okay with his employer asking to knock £3 off his daily rate? (Don't ask, don't get, after all)

NapQueen · 25/03/2017 22:25

NapQueen it was only a couple of quid difference but I noticed because we are regulars and we always get the same thing

So then why ask him how much it was? This is what I dont get. If its always the same order, and you know how much it costs, then why ask agin?

Renaissance2017 · 25/03/2017 22:25

Your husband is a grown man and able to decide whether it was acceptable to ask for a discount or not.

Also, the restaurant are business people and able to judge whether or not it was acceptable. They obviously think it was.

EleanorRigbysNeice · 25/03/2017 22:27

Your DH got it wrong. Next time, their going to spit in your bhuna.

EleanorRigbysNeice · 25/03/2017 22:27

They're. Sodding iPad!

Oakmaiden · 25/03/2017 22:31

My father ALWAYS used to ask for discounts. "For cash". In shops and everything. And mostly he got one. You don't see it so much nowadays.

Funnyfarmer · 25/03/2017 22:31

My dp does this sort of thing all the time. I hate it. He also complains about everything. And when he's ordering food he's so fussy and wants everything done in s particular way. I get so embarrassed. It's not just food places, it's everywhere! He caused a right scene in a shop yesterday arguing that a RRP wasn't a RRP because nowhere sells it for that price.

limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2017 22:35

If the staff are going to spit in your food because you've asked for a discount then they'll do it for lots of other reasons - like just not liking the look of your face.

Weird thing to wish on someone.

WizardOfToss · 25/03/2017 22:39

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VeryButchyRestingFace · 25/03/2017 22:44

I always ask for a discount blush. Sometimes I get, sometimes I don't.

For what, though? Takeaway? Just takeaway? Sit in meals? Anything else?

**. Shock

QuiteUnfitBit · 25/03/2017 22:44

It's mean, it's ungracious, and it's bad form generally.
I doubt he went in, said give me a discount or else I'm not having the meal. Perhaps he went in, was joking with the staff, said can I have a discount, and they laughed and said ok. I don't think you can say it was bad form, because if he'd been ungracious, I doubt they'd have given him any money off.

DoJo · 25/03/2017 22:44

I don't understand what made him think he was entitled to a discount?

I don't see where he thought he was entitled to a discount or refused to pay the full price- he just asked and they said yes. They didn't have to, but they did, presumably because they value their regulars.

ComtesseDeSpair · 25/03/2017 22:45

If he simply asked "is there a discount for collection / paying cash / orders over £X?" and they said there was, then there's nothing wrong with that. Lots of takeaways advertise giving a 10% or whatever discount for those things. If he was pushy and forced the issue after they'd said no discounts or appeared reluctant then that's bad form. But I can't imagine he's the first customer to ask.

VeryButchyRestingFace · 25/03/2017 22:46

I don't see where he thought he was entitled to a discount or refused to pay the full price- he just asked and they said yes

But why would you ask unless you thought you were entitled in some way?

#Idontgetit

QuiteUnfitBit · 25/03/2017 22:49

Because you're having a laugh with them. Perhaps they made comments about how many takeaways he had? Perhaps they were a bit slow serving the takeaway? We weren't there, so we don't know.

limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2017 22:50

Expat's post wasn't to the OP. It was obviously to the poster who said they always asked for a discount.

So what? Do you think it's okay to spit in anyone's food?

Renaissance2017 · 25/03/2017 22:50

But it's ok to ask for a better deal on a car, or from Sky or your mobile provider? Why is a restaurant different?

And does the restaurant turn down tips as the price they publish is the price they want you to pay?

expatinscotland · 25/03/2017 22:51

'Expat what's got your goat today?- that's the second time I've seen you be really done the OP's throat grumpy.'

I wasn't addressing the OP, but it's good to know how many stalkers fans there are out there monitoring others' posts Hmm.

expatinscotland · 25/03/2017 22:53

'Do you think it's okay to spit in anyone's food?'

Oh, I can think of some times when it certainly is, depending on the person (my ex bf, for example) Grin.

limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2017 22:55

I often ask for a doggy bag. Is it okay for the staff to spit in it if they consider my request to be 'bad form'?

WTF is 'bad form' anyway?