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AIBU?

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To think it's very bad form

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ShowMePotatoSalad · 25/03/2017 21:19

DH went to collect the curry tonight. When he got in I asked him how much it was in the end and he told me. I said it sounded cheaper than usual and he said he'd asked for a discount.

I was a bit confused and asked him why he'd asked for a discount. He just said if you don't ask you don't get. So I said that the price is the price, and how I thought it was very poor form to ask for a discount for no reason. They were gracious enough not to make a scene and granted him a 10% discount. They're a great restaurant with beautiful food (no reason whatsoever to need discounts) and we're regular customers. I feel a bit mortified and cross at DH. AIBU or is he?

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expatinscotland · 25/03/2017 21:50

How embarrassing. Can't abide people who do this.

user0000000001 · 25/03/2017 21:52

I always ask for a discount when I go to our local Indian (eating in) and always get between 10% and 20% off. They could always say no...

HelenaWay · 25/03/2017 21:53

I always ask for a discount . Sometimes I get, sometimes I don't.

limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2017 21:53

LTB

NapQueen · 25/03/2017 21:54

Hang on...has he told you exactly how the conversation went? Could it have been something like

C: Hi Bob, back again are we?
B: God I know we see you so much we should be on the friends and family rate
C: Hahaha I know! Tell you what my friend Ill take 10% off this time for you
B: I was only kidding mate
C: i know, but its ok

Though tbh if it was only 10% then how high is the bill usually?? For you to notice it was "cheaper than usual" it must have been a chunk.

Although if you always usually order the same ish stuff theb why even ask him?

expatinscotland · 25/03/2017 21:54

Why do you think you're entitled to a discount? You're above paying the listed price? I hope they spit in your food. I would.

SuperBeagle · 25/03/2017 21:56

It's not bloody Indonesia or some other bartering country.

I'd be mortified. If he thinks it's too expensive, he shouldn't buy it at all.

AllTheGlitters · 25/03/2017 21:57

Agree, very weird I have the opposite problem with OH, he over tips massively and I think he has 20% rule, which is loads!! I'm still not stingy enough to ask for a discount though

JennyHolzersGhost · 25/03/2017 21:57

Oh god how awkward. What on earth does he think he was doing?! Does he have form for being cheap?!
I would drop in and give them the extra money, I honestly would. Probably put it through the door in an envelope with a note. I'd be so embarrassed.

Mu123 · 25/03/2017 21:58

They are too nice to do that, but even so i want to give them a big tip next time and apologise on DH's behalf because I I know he won't do it

Id be glad that dh had gone himself, I think id be mortified. Re the tip, round here its taxi companies that deliver so they wouldnt even get the tip.

AllTheGlitters · 25/03/2017 21:59

I mean I guess it does depend on context, like me and OH used to walk to a local takeaway fairly regularly pre-children, and they wouldn't give us a discount but would give us free bits of food. So maybe it wasn't as awkward as you think?

expat it wasn't the OP who asked for the discount

Bluntness100 · 25/03/2017 22:01

I find this embarrassing as well. My father liked to do it and really thought he was s big man due to his negotiating skills. Me I think, fuck me, it's s couple of quid, pay the guy and don't beg for a discount. He thought, look at me, I negotiate a discount. Different view points. I guess.

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ShowMePotatoSalad · 25/03/2017 22:01

NapQueen it was only a couple of quid difference but I noticed because we are regulars and we always get the same thing

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limitedperiodonly · 25/03/2017 22:02

A 10 per cent discount isn't a lot. If they didn't want to do it, they didn't have to. When you call again you'll find out if they want to keep your custom. If they do, you should continue to ask for the 10 per cent discount.

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ShowMePotatoSalad · 25/03/2017 22:02

expatinscotland was your message to me??

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AllTheGlitters · 25/03/2017 22:03

Oooh no please don't keep asking for the discount

Underbeneathsies · 25/03/2017 22:04

There are a lot of spassumptions on this thread that the caterers aren't able to run their business or aren't able to say, "sorry, no" to requests for a discount.

You are regular customers, and they didn't say no to discount.

What's the hand wringing all about?

Obviously they won't go bust because they have repeat custom and they've rewarded you as their customer by saying yes to a request for a discount.

I always ask for a discount, sometimes I get one, sometimes I don't, but if I'm a regular customer, I'm usually offered one, and am happy to accept. I always ask if I pay in cash how much is that? I usually get 5% knocked off. I hardly ever pay full price for things and have no problem giving discounts or contras to regular customers.

They will say no if they can't afford it.

No need to think your DH did anything wrong. In fact he sounds like he's very sensible.

Lols at the 'how would you like if you're wages were cut' comment: obviously that poster has no idea how restaurants, or business are run. The person working there isn't taking a cut in wages because of getting repeat business and keeping customers happy.

Business go tits up because they lose customers and can't get any more.

They can say no if they can't bear the cost, and to assume they're not able to run their business because of nasty clients asking for discounts is ridiculous and a bit white mans' burden TBH.

Enough of the hand wringing. You got a discount, so what? They're still making a profit, you're a repeat and loyal customer. You're happy, they're happy.

Bon appetit.

GoodGirlGoneWrong · 25/03/2017 22:04

Our curry takeaway have this if you collect you get a 10% discount, we normally get delivery tho as it's free.

Your DH is a tad cheeky! Just tip well next time.

AllTheGlitters · 25/03/2017 22:05

I wouldn't worry ShowMe I saw expat on another thread recently, I think she just enjoys being kind of mean.

bimbobaggins · 25/03/2017 22:05

Bit of an overreaction by some people , spit in his food. How disgusting.

The restaurant could always have said no, perhaps they were happy to give it because you are regulars.

ChrissieS79 · 25/03/2017 22:07

10% off and you'll get a free greener spat in your korma next visit.

Bargain!

Mrskeats · 25/03/2017 22:08

I hate meanness
I would not be happy

BestZebbie · 25/03/2017 22:08

Has your partner been watching too much Apprentice? :-)

MissGoggins · 25/03/2017 22:10

AllTheGlitters If you are on MN for more than a week you will have seen expat on numerous threads. Nonetheless your post is bad form.

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ShowMePotatoSalad · 25/03/2017 22:10

Best oh god...it makes me cringe when they start trying to barter. And then when the begging starts...

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