AIBU to be really annoyed at this family?

[staveleymum]

Every day (and I mean every) one family are late for school. They have 3 children and obviously mum doesn't drive as Dad brings them in the car and drops them off (on double yellows or a no parking area but that's a different rant)! I usually see them as I'm walking back to my car after I've waved my 2 in so I know they are late. It's only 5 - 10 mins but it must be disruptive to the class (their DD is my DD's class).

I know there is a special Mothers Day assembly this morning that Reception class do and one of their children is in this class. They cant even get to school on time for that event (and they didnt seem to be in much of a rush when I saw them either)!

I know they only live a mile away so they dont get caught up in traffic. Is it too much to ask to get them to school on time?

I dont suppose there is a lot the Head can do about it either? It just really winds me up every time I see them!

[Aeroflotgirl]

You sound a bit of a busybody op, why is it your concern

[motherinferior]

But you're conflating different things. I've already said that these are friends of mine and other mitigating circumstances aren't there (nor, for that matter, are they there in the lives of several other chronically late friends of mine). You're now saying it's something to do with hard work and that the OP is judging because she doesn't work hard enough.

[motherinferior]

It is actually possible just to be late a lot. Without anything else going on. Some people are. And if you are, it tends to be a bit wearing for others.

[motherinferior]

I was referring to my posts about lateness and people who turn up late every damn day.

[motherinferior]

And Evan's husband, for one.

[NotWeavingButDarning]

Meh.

My DC are almost invariably the first ones to arrive at their school in the morning. This is certainly not a mark of moral superiority, it's only due to my personal scheduling and the time I need to be at work.

YABU And judgy. Ffs isn't life hard enough without this sort of thing?

[BWatchWatcher]

I would suggest you need a bit more going on in your life.

We are often on the bell. I have everything organised the night before. My older child is always on time. My younger one hates school and will DRAG it all out.

Despair.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

There is a girl, who left dds school last summer, who was always late. Late because her mother had horses and they'd go to them first before she was dropped off at school. The mother works. Admittedly the other parents were pretty disgusted with the mothers attitude to schooling. She was totally obsessed with animals, took on stray dogs, which is lovely. But it was to the detriment of her dd. The parents were split so the daughter had to go out for every trip to the stables (twice daily) and dog walk. That will have been very tiring for her when she first started school. I know some children are late for a lot of reasons but I don't agree with this one personally.

[Voice0fReason]

You have NO idea what is going on in their lives, so you are in no place to judge.
It's also none of your business.
And no, it isn't always a simple solution to get up 10 minutes earlier.
Families are often far more complicated than that.

[user1482079332]

You've got to much time on your hands

[Wearingmybiggirlpants]

I have 4 children and used to be late for school nearly every day. At the time my husband left home at 4.30 to commute to work and my eldest child had severe anxiety and would refuse to leave the house. This had a knock on effect on the other children's behaviour. Most mornings I would be close to tears by the time we arrived (at one stage they were in 4 different schools and nurseries). I also had to deal with severe menstrual flooding and depression. The tuts, eye rolling and other fucking judgemental crap I had to deal with was unbelievable and at no stage did anyone offer me any help.

[StripeyDeckchair]

I see this from the other side.
Every school has a few children who are persistently late, it's is extremely difficult/ impossible to change them. It is usually parents who are not engaged with their children's education, who don't consider education to be important and who have no respect for the professionals running the school & educating the students.
It's extremely frustrating for us, we'd love to find a way of getting 100% of the students in school, on time, daily.

[ImNegan]

I'm with lemontoast on this one.

[megletthesecond]

I get myself pathetically wound up by the constantly late families. My favourite was the mum who had perfect make up and would swan down the path serenely even though her dd was so late they had to go in the front door. No attempt to hurry at all, she was sometimes in gym kit too so presumably capable of getting a move on. Totally baffled me.

[Naturebabe]

wow, I didn't know that such judgey people existed. This thread is an education!

[nonameinspiration]

Yanbu there is a family at my dc school who are late every single day. To the point where I was a bit worried there was some issue they needed help with.
It's not my business either but it still annoys me!

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Absinthe.. it doesn't matter what time I get up how will that stop them playing up and refusing to walk out the door? There's more to it but I could be up at 6 and it would make no difference.. with all due respect

[QuiteLikely5]

It's a bit strange people are saying its nobodies business!!

The children are missing out due to inadequate parenting and that is every bodies business!

Nobody should be prioritising themselves over their children unless it's an odd issue here/there.

[Absintheshots]

Lola if you manage to get them out of the door 15 mn late, according to you, than start leaving 15 minutes earlier, you will end up being on time. Unless you are genuinely 3 hours late, then I can't really understand the problem

[AwaywiththePixies27]

Get up earlier? My DS is up at 5am without fail. Has been for years. It wasn't my organisations skills that led to his point blank refusal to go to school everyday.
We're never late at his new school now as he wants to go.

Can I just ask all those who get there early and get wound up when you see others walking in late. What on earth are you all doing to still be standing around twenty minutes later to witness all these terrible disorganised parents being ridiculously late? Our playgrounds are usually clear of parents ten minutes maximum after drop off because generally us adults have things to get on with.

[lostatsea1]

Have to say this was me - I was always consistently dropped off at school 5-10 mins late by my parents

It never bothered me, I can't honestly say it affected my education - I got A levels and went to university and as an adult I have always been able to be on time when I needed to be.

It never seemed to be a problem for the school or teachers either - I was regularly not the latest and I don't think it was ever even mentioned.

No idea why it seems to be so difficult for schools to manage nowadays.

[MidniteScribbler]

He genuinely can't work backwards to see what time to leave, and genuinely underestimates.

No, he is quite capable, but it is a lack of respect for other people that lead him to think it doesn't matter. That's just rude.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Absinthe-my point is they play up as we are leaving, as they don't want to go.