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AIBU to wish people would mind their own business

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MOISTOWLETT · 23/03/2017 23:42

I'm going to be frank here. I have tattoos, I love them, it does NOT give people the right to tell me that they're awful/I'm going to hell/they'll look bad when I'm older. I'm an adult, they're my choice, I don't care what people think about them as they all have personal meaning behind them, I don't believe in heaven and hell or god and I'll deal with the getting old when I'm old!!! I'm sorry for the rant I'm just pissed off! Angry

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WhataHexIgotinto · 25/03/2017 08:32

I just can't see the argument from the artistic side. You really don't have to Skerry.

It would just be nice if you were open to others' views on a piece of work without declaring them 'wrong'. Lots of us enjoy many kinds of art and have respect for different forms of it, even if it's not exactly our preference, (the above pictures are certainly not mine) but we don't all necessarily think our opinion is above all others.

Willow2017 · 25/03/2017 08:42

Sherry
The 'classics' ones were just to prove a point that it wouldnt matter what they were you wouldn't like them.

If some of the designs were in an art gallery I am sure you would think them worthy but they are not so you don't. That's fine but to blanket condemn skilled artist's on principle is really closed minded.

But your opinion is yours to have and it's just your opinion after all.

FrenchLavender · 25/03/2017 08:50

The examples given above clearly show a high level of skill, regardless whether one like the images or not. However, these intricate designs will blur into an unsightly blob over time as the inks slowing migrate.
This, I believe, is the biggest problem with tattoos, what looks cool and hip now will become dated in time and the wearer may find that which they felt was important to them in their 20s becomes increasingly irrelevant later on.

^ This, will bells on. If you think it won't apply to many or most of you then you are deluding yourselves. If your tattoos are easily hidden even in a nice cocktail dress then you've nothing to worry about. But if they aren't, you are in for 20 or 30 years of feeling a bit foolish and shit about your appearance once you are no longer young, toned and pretty and you just want to look elegant and not edgy. trust me, it happens to us all in the end.

thepatchworkcat · 25/03/2017 08:56

Skerry What's a 'medically necessary' tattoo?

Absintheshots · 25/03/2017 09:02

FrenchLavender

I completely disagree. My tattoos have nothing about being edgy, and some of my younger friends tattoos are about personal things and I doubt they will ever feel foolish about them.

Not everybody has tattoos because they are "cool" and "hip". They are so mainstream you are more noticeable if you don't have one. It is just insulting to believe that everyone gets inked to be "fashionable". Again, if I ever get miserably wrinkly and flabby, I a pretty sure the tattoos will be the very last of my worries.

Of course some people will regret them (some have regretted from the minute they woke up with a hangover). Some will try to erase them, or alter them. All the young boys in my local gym are getting near-identical sleeves as soon as they reach 18. I wouldn't be surprised if they do regret that one day.

Absintheshots · 25/03/2017 09:03

'medically necessary' tattoo?

I am guessing dots to show where to have radiotherapy
tattoo about a life threatening condition/allergy
these sort of things?

pipsqueak25 · 25/03/2017 09:04

give me your opinion on my tattoos and i will smile and say drily 'that's nice' [feck off] Grin

Astro55 · 25/03/2017 09:06

It is just insulting to believe that everyone gets inked to be "fashionable

Yep because fashionable tattoos are different to unique ones! ..... Who decides if one is more worthy than the other?

ButtercupChain · 25/03/2017 09:08

What if you regret it in the future is a common question. So, should I not do something at the age of 20 or 30 just because in 40 years time I might regret it? I might actually not regret it and I might enjoy having the tattoo for all those years.

Thing is alicat, it's not going to be '40 years before you regret having tattoos,' it's far more likely to be 10. Maybe less. If they are tattoos you can see, they can close all sorts of doors for you, in relationships, in your career, in your social life, and give people the wrong impression of you. (Yeah people can be judgemental, that's life, that's people; everyone is judgemental.)

Bizarre as it sounds, even though some very well done tattoos look OK sometimes, what bugs me is that they are permanent. If (in a perfect world,) there was a pill you could take that would erase them all overnight, at a future date (if you so wished,) that would be great, but they are there forever, and many people do regret having them.

And whilst there are some people who look 'cool' with the artistic tattoos 'and the sleeves' and so on, more people look awful with tattoos, than great. For every person I see that looks great with tattoos, I see 20 that look awful.

And as for the old lady with that huge tattoo all over her neck (pictured earlier in the thread on page 4,) I am willing to bet a month's wages that she did not have that done 45-50 years ago when she was in her 20's. It's clearly fresh/new.

If you look at someone's tattoos who had them 35+ years ago, they don't look good sorry.......

And I do find it a most bizarre claim that you have to have tattoos to look like you have 'lived.' I have had a great life; I have travelled to many different countries, made many friends, had several different careers, met people from all walks of life, had many exciting hobbies, lived in many different places, and have a wonderful family, and I don't have tattoos. So no, you don't have to have tattoos to prove you have 'lived.'

Absintheshots · 25/03/2017 09:28

astro I meant you have tattoos because you like them, not because having tattoo is fashionable by itself.

Astro55 · 25/03/2017 09:40

But they are fashionable - look at the Cheryl Cole 'Tramp Stamp' as it's known - suddenly a flourish of tattoos on little fingers - you can't say they were all thinking the same thing at the same time? That kind of tattoo is the trendy ageing tattoo!!

but how is that different to someone who has a unique tattoo that has meaning?? Or on an ankle?

SomewhatIdiosyncratic · 25/03/2017 09:43

I don't have tattoos because I never thought of something that I'm convinced that I'd want on my body permanently. I remember being 17 and being put off by an aged tattoo on the arm of a man who'd had it done 30+ years earlier. I accept that techniques have changed and some styles will age better than others.

Some tattoos are done beautifully with great skill. Some are pleasant. Some are not to my taste. I'm weary about fashions that will date (thinks of Celtic arm bands in the 90s) and unless something is done with a particularly personal meaning, it's difficult to step away from fashion trends.

I can't see me having one in the foreseeable future, and I wouldn't comment on anyone else's unless it was to pay a compliment.

upperlimit · 25/03/2017 09:46

Anything that marks people out as different will be used as a stick to beat them with by someone looking to feel superior. Tatoos are no different - although they are not for me.

Absintheshots · 25/03/2017 09:47

Buttercup I find it astonishing that you can't comprehend that everybody is different. A 60 year old can be still happy and proud about his/her tattoos. If I reach 90, I might look fondly at my own fading tattoos, you really don't get it.

Of course not everybody regrets them. What a strange think to believe.

JustAnotherPoster00 · 25/03/2017 09:50

I told myself I only wanted 1 as a big FU to my father who told me I couldnt have 1 till I was 18 and even then if I got 1 I would be thrown out of the house, I have lots now Grin

My next 1 will be my kids and stepkids names tattooed using some of my mothers ashes in the ink as a final dedication to the amazing grandmother she was

Sallysadlyseescertainty · 25/03/2017 09:56

I don't like tattoos for several reasons. That doesn't mean I have to share my opinions with tattooed folk.

YANBU. Just like anything in life, it's none of anyone's business how you choose to live your life.

Batteriesallgone · 25/03/2017 10:06

Anything that marks people out as different will be used as a stick to beat them with by someone looking to feel superior

This. And for people to show enough disdain for these social distinctions to chose to become physically different...well that's bound to totally wind some people up!

JustSpeakSense · 25/03/2017 10:28

If you have been told you are going to hell because if your tattoos, that's because the people saying this are judgemental arseholes (it actually has nothing to do with your tattoos and everything to do with who they are)

You need to stop spending time with people like this and you won't get the judgemental comments Wink

Headofthehive55 · 25/03/2017 16:37

I wouldn't be rude to anyone but I don't like any tattoos either. I think they clash with patterned clothes. Or are never framed right. I don't like sculptures either much but I don't think it makes me less open minded, just have different tastes.

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