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Original poster

To think she shouldn't have eaten the biscuit!

117 replies

Babyiwantabump · 23/03/2017 17:22

Possibly being a tiny bit U but...

DS (3) made biscuits at nursery today . He had two to bring home. As I was strapping him and baby DS in the car DD took it upon herself to eat the bloody biscuits!

I hadn't even seen them!
I wanted OH to see them too as it's the first time DS has done this kind of thing.

DS is sad that mummy and daddy didn't get to see the biscuits.

I'm quite annoyed ! Greedy git!

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haveacupoftea · 23/03/2017 21:27

Trial by MN seems to have decided she's a spiteful, greedy thief with an eating disorder. Lop her hands off!!

paxillin · 23/03/2017 21:31

Bollocks, haveacupoftea. But yes, I do think it seems mean and greedy. 12 year olds are not toddlers free of impulse control and empathy.

VladmirsPoutine · 23/03/2017 21:35

horatio Are you serious!? A food issue because she ate a couple of manky biscuits. Honestly MN at times is a parallel universe.

1horatio · 23/03/2017 21:37

vladimirs¨
I was probably projecting Blush

but if he didn't give the cookies to her... Then what? She took them and scarfed them in what... less than a minute? And why?

It does seem weird to me. She's 13...

Flopjustwantscoffee · 23/03/2017 21:45

Hmmmmmm. I was a nice teenager by most standards. But this is the kind of think I could imagine myself doing when I was 12/13. Not to be mean but just in an absent minded, feeling a bit pe kiss.... oooh biscuits kind of way. It wouldn't necessarily have occurred to me that my mum would want to show them to my dad. Not saying it isn't thoughtless, and shouldn't deserve a ticking off. But some of the posts seem a bit OTT.

1horatio · 23/03/2017 21:49

Right...

Maybe we're having different assumptions here..

Did she take them knowing they were his or did she just see two biscuits and was like... Sure, I like biscuits.

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Babyiwantabump · 23/03/2017 22:54

Right what happened was - we (DD and I) went into the nursery to collect both Ds'.

When picking up DS1 the nursery leader told us he's baked some biscuits and made me a card for Mother's Day - DS carries them out to the Car. DD asks DS if the biscuits are for her . He says NO ! . He hands her the biscuits to get in the car . I buckle in DS2 then go round to buckle DS1 as DD sits in her seat. As I look across at her she is eating the biscuits . DS cries because DD is eating his biscuits.
I tell her to stop now!
DD gives the now headless rabbit remains biscuit to me .

I tell her I'm cross because DS didn't even get to show me or his dad the biscuits. Ask her why she ate them when DS said no anyway.

She sulks but in an oops kind of way. I don't think she did it maliciously- she was probably just starving after finishing school.

When we got home she made me a cup of tea and apologised again.

She has promised to held DS make more biscuits at the weekend .

I think she now realises it was a silly thing to do!

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Peanutandphoenix · 23/03/2017 23:12

Am sorry but that's just a bloody horrible thing to do she's old enough to know better. Get her in the kitchen with DS making more biscuits.

Footle · 24/03/2017 09:20

You will get better biscuits on Sunday. Her heart is in the right place.

PurplePidjin · 24/03/2017 10:45

How would she feel if he ate her Easter eggs? Pretty pissed off - yet that's what she's done

He specifically told her that he'd made a present for someone else.

No matter how hungry she was, that's pretty selfish and disrespectful

PeridotPeridot · 24/03/2017 10:49

She's nearly 13...I thought you were talking about a young child or toddler, in which case I would have had a serious chat about it with them.

I don't think she did it maliciously- she was probably just starving after finishing school

You have your head in the clouds op, assuming she's NT. She was being a spiteful little madam and i'd come down on her like a ton of bricks.

MyGastIsFlabbered · 24/03/2017 10:55

Eating the biscuits after being told they weren't for her is spiteful imo. But she has apologised and let's face it, none of us are perfect.

BorpBorpBorp · 24/03/2017 10:57

It sounds like she had a moment of madness, got swiftly told off, and later apologised and made up for it (cup of tea for you, promise to make biscuits at the weekend with DS). No big deal, all sorted.

LaContessaDiPlump · 24/03/2017 11:41

I'm glad she realises that she got it wrong and has apologised. Hopefully she'll know not to give in to those moments of pissy jealousy all older siblings experience next time!

I can just see DS1 doing this to DS2 Angry

berkshyre · 24/03/2017 12:17

Exactly the level of thoughtlessness I'd expect from a 12 year old. Infuriatingly normal.

I think you handled it fine OP. It's reasonable to be annoyed and tell her why, but unreasonable to be shocked by childish behaviour from a child. They're still learning how to do the right thing, and sometimes get it wrong.

ShoutOutToMyEx · 24/03/2017 13:15

When your first grandchild makes mummy some biscuits at nursery, eat them all.

That might be one of the most passive aggressive things I've ever seen suggested on here, and I've seen some things in my time

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Babyiwantabump · 24/03/2017 16:10

I dont even think I will remember this in 10 or so years time let alone be that bothered about it to get her back in that way !

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PeridotPeridot · 24/03/2017 16:42

Exactly the level of thoughtlessness I'd expect from a 12 year old. Infuriatingly normal

Really? I'd expect more from ds1 who's 9. Far from usual or 'normal' IMO.

Amanduh · 24/03/2017 16:52

'Major bollocking' 'nasty character traits' 'has a problem' over that?! or 12 years old, fancied a biscuit and cheekily munched them. It's really really a non issue. She was being cheeky and a bit naughty. Told her off. She apologised and is making more. End of story!

PerspicaciaTick · 24/03/2017 16:57

Most teenagers are spectacularly self-absorbed - they are renowned for it. I doubt it crossed her mind to think about the effect of her actions on anyone else. 9yos are (by comparison) paragons of empathy and thoughtfulness.

By the time she gets to 24 yo, her brain will have finished re-engineering itself and she will be a civilised member of society again.

bbismad · 24/03/2017 17:28

She deserves a telling off but I wonder if there was a reason she did it - jealously maybe?

GeorgiePeachie · 24/03/2017 17:42

DD and DS should remake the cookies together.

38cody · 24/03/2017 17:47

She is totally wrong to that - she is old enough to know better and I would have screamed her head off - it's not about the biscuits it's work that he's bought home to share his avhiements and she's destroyed it!
I think her behaviour was awful for a girl if her age - is she very jealous of new little much younger siblings?

GreenPeppers · 24/03/2017 17:49

I would have been furious OP, much more than you are.
I agree that you are naive if you think that she was just hungry and didn't think.
She is 13yo not 8 or 9yo and should know better. And ds1 HAD told her NO. What was so difficult to remember in the two mins it took her to sit down in the front seat??

YY to help ds1 to bake some more biscuits at the weekend. But I would also have a very serious chat with her as well as keeping an (eagle) eye on possible similar behaviour.

DagenhamRoundhouse · 24/03/2017 17:54

People are being tortured and dying in Syria. There are worse things happening than a child eating biscuits! There will be more biscuits in future.