AIBU to expect my friend to not take the piss?!?

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Ok so a few months back I was moving house and selling up lots of my unwanted things so she asked for an item that I had lots of interest in but obviously with her being a friend I said yeah sure, she said oh I don't have the money just yet but il give u it soon, so I held onto the item until I moved house then I had to give it to her as I didn't have the space for it, she said il deffo get that money to u next week, 3 months later she has the item and is using it every day and I don't have the cash! In the last 3 months she has been on 2 city breaks with her boyfriend meals out with other couples and booked a holiday abroad, so AIBU to think if she can afford to do all these things she could afford to pay me back? It's getting awkward now cos I'm actually really annoyed about it and I think she thinks iv just fergot about it! What should I do now?

Look user, friends just do not do this, she is dishonest and unreliable, and rude asking you for favours, when she has not payed for the item. She is relying on your soft nature. She is no friend, I would say no to any favours, and tell her that if she cannot pay for the item by X date, she will have to return it. If she does not, this would be a dealbreaker in the friendship.

Sorry but she's just taking you for a mug - and she knows she can walk over you. I should know because I'm just like you - I let people take advantage of me all the time because they are my 'friends' - but sadly, they aren't. They just use you and your kindness.

I would get the item back op. Sorry

She replied to my txt saying she will transfer it now and she fergot about it, things will prob be a bit frosty I think but I'm glad I just said how I felt

Pagenotfound - I agree, this is a fantastic way to get either the dosh or the object back!! ("If she makes excuses again just say pleasantly as if it's no big deal "no worries, I still need the cash though so I'll just get it back off you to sell. I'll collect it when I drop your kids off".) And User, don't get disheartened, folk don't mean to sound harsh here, they are prob just amazed a friend could splash around money but not pay you, her friend, back!

Oooops my typing crossed with your posting!! Glad you are getting what you were owed!

Are we talking £20, £50, hundreds?

Missed the bit where she is transferring - hope she does - good luck

things will prob be a bit frosty I think but I'm glad I just said how I felt

Well done, OP!

You've taken a great step in doing this. Keep us posted. Make sure you keep on at her unit you get paid.

How about sorting out some assertiveness classes? It would really help you. You would also be less likely to attract users in the first place. I believe it would help your depression and anxiety somewhat too.

Please think about it. It will improve your life, believe me!

Has she transferred it yet ?

Yes she paid straight away , thank you I have a gp app on mon to try and manage my anxiety and depression so hopefully that will help but thank you floraeasy ❤️

Great stuff, OP!

This is a step in the right direction for your future.

Best of luck!

If it's frosty it's not because anything you did.Its all on her.